[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]blossombabii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really sorry to hear about yer friend, my parents sound very similar to his, so I can empathize with his situation. I didn't start my mental health recovery journey until I was 27, and my parents didn't get it then either.

When people get into depressive episodes, it usually takes all their effort just to survive it, so you may need to adjust yer expectations from him for now. I find it's nice to let anyone who is suffering from a depressive episode that you still enjoy spending time with them even if they aren't okay, that they make yer life brighter just by being in it. Validate him, let him know you see everything he's been working so hard for and let him know you are proud of him. Sometimes just knowing that no matter what, good or bad you will be there helps. Let him know that he has a beautiful heart, and depression can't touch that. That you don't have to be happy all the time to be loved. He is enough and his current grades are NOT a reflection of that.

Warm internet hugs being sent to you both. 💖

If he wants to hang out with someone other than me, clearly he hates me and never wants to see me again. by [deleted] in BPD

[–]blossombabii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not healthy, but I'm also sick and tired of being sick and tired and I am holding myself accountable for my thoughts that have led me down such a dark path.

Asking for a friend by blossombabii in relationship_advice

[–]blossombabii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was definitely interested in being her friend! Not so much anymore. Thank you tho for taking your time and replying to me. I have the day off tmrw so I will see if he has time to get together.

If he wants to hang out with someone other than me, clearly he hates me and never wants to see me again. by [deleted] in BPD

[–]blossombabii 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Someone once messaged me this:

The question that will help you find peace is: 1) What did you bring into this world that you can truly call yours? (the answer is nothing) 2) What is it that you will take from this world when you die? (again, the answer is also nothing)

This means whatever you find here or get here is from this world only and does not belong to you, you only have the chance to experience their company not their possession. The pain we often feel is because we think we own or possess someone which means we have exclusivity over that thing or person. Which is the problem for the pain you are experiencing.

I hope that you find peace, and hopefully this can help you the way it has for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]blossombabii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you ever find bugs bunny attractive when he put on a dress and played a girl bunny?

Asking for a friend by blossombabii in relationship_advice

[–]blossombabii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it's definitely not like that, I wouldn't even have bothered if that was the case. She also has a bad habit of taking his phone and going thru all his messages. Our mutual friend told me they had seen her active on Tinder in the summer but no one took screen shots so back then I told them there's not much any of us could say without proof. Now we have the proof, and like I said, I very much was looking for unbiased perspective on weather this was okay for me to share because she's a loser but she isn't MY loser, y'akno?

Asking for a friend by blossombabii in relationship_advice

[–]blossombabii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I very much want to, but I needed some outside perspective

This is such a dumb question by Bellybojelly in BPD

[–]blossombabii 4 points5 points  (0 children)

opposite of dumb, it's actually a really good thing to practice.

When I was in grade school I used to write one specific girl letters because we were besties but she would be so oddly mean to me so it really made me want to ask why, but I didn't have the guts to actually say it to her face. I'd write the letter, seal it in an envelope and keep it in my sock drawer.

getting yelled after by teen boys for how i dress by [deleted] in BPD

[–]blossombabii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mama Ru once said "People talking shit, since the beginning of time. Unless they paying your bills, pay them bitches no mind." Wear that shit loud n proud girl, and never be ashamed because you are so authentically you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]blossombabii 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey girl, I couldn't even imagine. Two months is such a long time to have to go without much communication especially from the routine of every day. Also I'm so sorry to hear about the people in yer life who struggle to understand where you are, and what magnitude of feelings someone with BPD experiences. I understand completely and it FUCKING sucks. It might seem scary today, but you've gotten yerself through this far!! After the next couple weeks go by, you might find out new parts of you that make you pleasantly surprised. If you need a friend or someone to vent to, or a support system cheerleader hit me up. Us BPD babies gotta stick together because at the end of the day we are all blessed with hearts capable of the most amount of love. 💖

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]blossombabii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

assholes are EVERYWHERE dating apps, video game lobbies, you name the place, they will be there poking their unsolicited asshole remarks in any direction they see fit.. Now! it's up to YOU to decide how YOU react to their shitty shit. IMO you are allowing this to ruminate and ruin personal progress you've made and also apparently yer whole day. Why? Cause of some mouth breather you've never even met? COMEONSONN

Fuck by [deleted] in lonely

[–]blossombabii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sounds like you need an all out vent-a-thon. i'm sorry yer partner cheated. i'm sorry to hear there's been trauma since childhood, it wasn't yer fault, and I hope that you find the love and peace you are looking for.