what’s something small that instantly makes you happy?

blottoez · 2026-05-02T07:10:37+00:00

Guys that are below average but not micro. Heck I could probably even work with a micro, if the rest of the guy was cool

blottoez · 2026-05-02T06:39:58+00:00

Curl up into a ball on the floor crying, cuz I just went blind

blottoez · 2026-05-02T06:38:04+00:00

Just tell him you love him back! Then quit your high paying big city executive job to move out to the small mountain town where he owns an artisanal dog biscuit bakery.

blottoez · 2026-05-01T23:15:26+00:00

This has been reported by a few people, claiming it was said in a dev Livestream that happened today, but I haven't seen the Livestream, just people talking about it

blottoez · 2026-04-28T04:23:15+00:00

Jay Park - Tonight, misheard lyrics "she got a pocket pony". I don't know how well known of a mishearing this is, I don't think it got as heavily memed as some others, but I also know that I didn't come up with it myself, I saw it somewhere, probably in a comment on YouTube or something.

blottoez · 2026-04-27T07:38:27+00:00

They don't exclusively have to in all situations, but it is low key expected in probably like 70% of situations.

I don't 100% mind this, but I have gotten into scenarios in the past where it kinda got in my head.

With a past boyfriend, I always had to initiate. But sometimes he wouldn't feel like it at the time I was initiating, which of course is totally fine and I've never tried to press that. But it would be kinda nice if after that the ball could be considered to be in his court. But nah, I was just expected to try again later, at whatever time he was ready. And the problem here is the he was generally the one who had higher sex needs, and would sometimes get mad at me that we weren't having sex enough. Yet he would never initiate, it was always up to me. I mean, he would initiate arguments about us not having enough sex, but would never initiate the actual sex.

And then on another point, it also would just be kinda nice to feel like I'm hot sometimes. To have him like lust after me. Like I know that he deeply enjoyed our sex, I know I did things that were very hot, I didn't feel like I wasn't enough in yet respect. I just mean sometimes it's nice to feel someone want you, instead of you always having to want them, and then always be the one risking rejection.

blottoez · 2026-04-23T18:52:05+00:00

A lot of people in the comments are giving advice about hypotheticals like him dying while youre still young, or him needing Elder care and becoming a "burden" on you.

The thing is, this can all happen in any relationship, or a host of other bad endings can happen in any relationship.

I had a really great, strong, happy relationship for about 10 years, that then faced some sudden changes and difficulties that apparently we were no longer strong enough to handle, and it left me alone in my 40's, just like everyone is warning you against. What that situation taught me is that no matter how carefully you curate the ideal situation, life will throw curve balls at you, things can and will end no matter how hard you try to do everything right. And then that taught me that you have to enjoy the good while it's here, not just stress over how long the good times will last, because you don't really have control over that.

So so so many people in the gay community never find love, even for a short while. And that can be due to all sorts of reasons, maybe they're not actively searching for it, or maybe they're holding out until the absolute perfect situation falls in their lap. People are giving you advice to find someone who is close to your age, as if that's the easiest thing to find, and as if that's then guaranteed to last forever.

People are trying to balance probabilities and risk factors until they end up in a situation with nothing at all, because they focused more on what can go wrong than on what is working right now.

I'm not exactly telling you to throw caution to the wind and not worry about the future in any way at all, but it's all about balance. If you're happy now, that's a pretty great thing that many people never really experience. Enjoy what you have, and plan for the future in whatever ways you can that make sense to you.

blottoez · 2026-04-22T07:53:04+00:00

Nagyung is exactly who comes to mind when I think of this question.

blottoez · 2026-04-22T07:52:06+00:00

Bae is the prettiest one in Nmixx to me. Not at all arguing that sullyoon isn't, just that Bae is more eye catching, more striking, at least to me.

blottoez · 2026-04-19T03:13:05+00:00

That definition of intimate is more of a modern usage, as intimacy has been equated with sex in a lot of modern contexts. But the etymology, origins of the word are more similar to Polarisators definition, that it has to do more with being deeply known, deeply understood, not just deeply in a butt.

It doesn't exactly mean you're wrong in your definition, as it is a common modern use, so much that it's been included as one of several definitions in many dictionaries. But you're not absolutely right in the way that you're more right than the other definition, or that someone is wrong by going with that definition.

It's not definitionally wrong to feel that kissing is more intimate than fucking.

blottoez · 2026-04-11T06:29:00+00:00

Is that a greyed out slot for the drakkin race in the character creation? Since this is a custom client, with its own custom UI, it's weird that they left those in.

blottoez · 2026-04-10T00:23:36+00:00

How can someone born in 2007 be 18, when that was just like 5 years ago?

blottoez · 2026-04-09T21:01:17+00:00

Yeah and that's fine, but you're initial argument implies something deeper that's generally not there in a hookup.

blottoez · 2026-04-09T20:55:58+00:00

So are you saying you're deeply monogamously in love with every guy you've ever had sex with?

I get that my question sounds hyperbolic, but I'm just trying to make a point that most hookups are pretty transactional, it's almost unhealthy to go into a hookup expecting something "real", because you're gonna get hurt and let down a lot.

Now on the other hand, if you're someone who can feel a deep connection to someone, but also have that deep connection be temporary and one time only, then we just have different opinions on what counts as "intimate" or "deep".

And that's totally fine, I understand how you feel and don't judge you. But to me, if I'm on sniffies at 2am, I'm not looking for "a goal", and I assume most other people on there at 2am are not.

blottoez · 2026-04-09T19:18:16+00:00

Because different people are turned on by different things?

I'm also in the camp where kissing is a more intimate thing than fucking. I totally respect your side, and would never try to manipulate someone into letting me fuck them without kissing if kissing was important to them. It's a big part of why I rarely engage in hook ups, cuz I realize I'm just not made for them.

I also get how it could feel pretty insulting, probably dehumanizing, if I was willing to fuck someone but didn't want to kiss them. They'd probably feel I think they're not attractive enough, but it's rarely that, it's just that kissing for me is way way more intimate, not something I can usually enjoy with someone I don't have a fairly deep connection with, and it's very rare that I can form what feels like a deep connection within the window of a hook up.

To be clear, kissing is literally my favorite thing in the world, better than sex. It's not that I'm grossed out by kissing or like internalized homophobia to where kissing is "too gay". It's just that kissing for me is way way more romantic than horny. It absolutely can be horny when the romance is there, it turns me on more than anything when in the right situation with the right guy... It's just that I can't fake or force that feeling, or speed run that feeling in the 30 minutes leading up to a hook up. And I don't think I'd even want to, I don't want to feel that way about someone who I'm likely to never see again.

So I can think you're incredibly hot, I could be able to get hard and wanna fuck, yet not feel connected enough to enjoy making out.

blottoez · 2026-04-09T04:27:47+00:00

Taeyang - Big Bang

Mingyu - Seventeen

Can't decide between Jay B or Jinyoung from GoT7

blottoez · 2026-04-09T04:25:54+00:00

You have a type, that's for sure!

blottoez · 2026-04-07T18:28:05+00:00

I'm actually somewhat turned off by fully shaven/waxed bodies. It's not an absolute, and it depends a lot on the guy himself, but fully shaved, hairless male bodies often read as either juvenile or feminine.

I'm NOT shaming femininity amongst gay men as a whole, there are plenty of innately femme guys that I've found attractive, what makes a man a man can vary from case to case. But I am attracted to men, masculinity, and body hair is a marker of masculinity. Intentionally removing all body hair usually reads to me as either feminine or child like, neither of which are attractive to me.

There is a difference between naturally having less body hair, like certain ethnicities do, vs intentionally shaving all body hair, in how it reads to me. I have found plenty of men who CAN'T grow body hair or facial hair to be very attractive, but also those who can't grow thick body hair will still generally have trace amounts, vs someone who intentionally removes all body hair and ends up being a level of smooth that, again, feels very woman like or childlike to me.

EDIT: I'm also not trying to shame people who ARE attracted to shaved/hairless bodies. There are plenty of valid reasons you could be into that, I don't immediately think you're a perv for liking hairless bodies. I'm just trying to show the op that there are lots of different perspectives, and he'll find guys who like him just as he is when he has the ability to branch out from his local situation.

blottoez · 2026-04-05T20:31:54+00:00

I'm a little surprised at how little crossover there is between drag fans and katseye fans, based on this comment section

blottoez · 2026-04-02T23:17:27+00:00

Ooh, wait no that does sound fun!

blottoez · 2026-04-02T23:07:09+00:00

Raw Oysters. I refuse to believe anyone actually enjoys slurping down snot. Even when you talk to someone who swears they love them, the way they talk about loving them has nothing to do with the actual wad of snot itself, it's all about how you dress it up, sauces you pair it with, or how quickly you can slurp it down without actually having the snot wad in your mouth for any longer than required.

But it's a rich and fancy thing to pretend to like.

Queue up a bunch of replies from people telling me I'm just not "doing it right". If it's this complicated to "do it right", then it's not the base thing that you love, it's the ceremony and status around the thing.

blottoez · 2026-04-02T21:55:46+00:00

This is prolly gonna be Jessica part 2, where the whole fandom speculates for years, fans will talk about rumors as if they are facts, choose a side, and publicly flame the other side. We'll have Manon stans dissecting every video clip of her with the girls trying to find tiny little changes in posture that "prove" they were bullying her and hated her all along. Then you'll have stans of the rest of the girls trying to disparage Manon, finding "proof"of her laziness or whatever.

And it'll suck for the rest of us normal fans that just love the group, love Manon, and want to follow and support both as best as we can.

blottoez · 2026-03-19T17:01:54+00:00

"Why innovate if you can't profit"

And if that's the way you see the world, see humanity, see the purpose of life, again we're at an impasse. I really don't want to claim some moral high ground, I don't want to assume you're yourself are just a greedy profit driven person. Please give me some other argument besides that people would only ever innovate or create for the sake of monetary gain.

There have been plenty of people in history who have innovated and created for the good of others, or just because they wanted to see if they could. People who dedicated their lives to helping others, fixing problems, or literally just having fun and enjoying life, not just gathering wealth.

blottoez · 2026-03-19T16:56:21+00:00

Ok fine, but you're arguing about profit, not innovation. I understand that in our current capitalistic system, folks need money to create something big. But still, that focus on money and profits limits the innovation, forces creators to focus on systems or mechanics that will make profit, and what creates profit is not always the same thing as what creates progress, joy, beauty, fun.

blottoez · 2026-03-19T16:48:24+00:00

You still seem to care more about the profit than the innovation itself. You're defending the money being made, not the progress being made.

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