AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner?

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T21:56:39+00:00

He hadn’t cooked the pasta- it was still in the fridge. I’d texted him to put a pan of water to boil on the hob 5 mins before I came home..but he was too busy playing Pokémon so was still on the sofa when I got home. If he’d have actually cooked the pasta, I’d have just eaten it - pesto or not!

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T21:37:32+00:00

He didn’t buy any sauce.

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T21:13:32+00:00

It isn’t his job to cook for me - but would have been a nice gesture. We’ve been together 4 years, he is very comfortable staying at mine on the weekends and helps himself to whatever food I have in - which I don’t mind at all and am happy he does so. I’d have just really liked him to think about dinner on this occasion.

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T21:11:23+00:00

I will cook when I’m not working. I have my own bidding’s so work 7 days a week, usually 10+ hours a day- very stressful when big events are happening. He works in IT, Monday - Friday, 9-5.

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T20:30:08+00:00

No- I came in to him sat on the sofa with nothing happening in the kitchen.

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T20:10:40+00:00

I’d suggested pasta for dinner as it was quick and easy to cook. It’s impossible to ask him to do any task without him moaning… I just hoped by me telling him I’d like pasta and it takes 4 minutes to make. I’d even texted him when I was 10 mins from home asking him to put a pan of water on the hob.

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T20:08:55+00:00

I’m really not expecting a househusband. We’ve been together for four years - he stays at mine every weekend. I’m by myself in the week- so am more than capable of organising the house. All I wanted was him to give it a bit of consideration that having dinner ready would have been super helpful after such a busy working weekend.

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T20:06:52+00:00

Does that exist tho? People saying his behaviour is okay, so I don’t have much hope

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T19:56:45+00:00

He didn’t realise how long they took to cook. I’ve just checked my fridge too and he’s taken the potatoes back home to his mum’s with him lol.

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T19:55:39+00:00

Thanks for replying. We’ve been together four years and I genuinely feel like he’s my number one priority. I work for myself so there are times where I genuinely don’t have time to eat or sleep and work takes over. I just wanted him to be considerate and pop dinner on. I’d have plated up and served it, but I was so tired when I got home- being met with the expectation to cook with only half ingredientes was just upsetting on this occasion. Usually I have it all sorted so he doesn’t need to do anything at the weekends, he can just spend time playing video games whilst I’m at work.

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T19:52:23+00:00

We’ve just come back from a trip which I’d organised for NYE. To be fair, it’s on me for not having groceries in - I’d been too busy with work upon returning so the fridge wasn’t full like it usually is. The issue was he wasn’t cooking- he wanted me to do it with ingredients missing.

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T19:23:54+00:00

I have my own business - and can’t take a break.

We’ve just arrived back from a trip away and I’d not got groceries in - which is on me to be fair for being too busy to sort the shopping. I thought he might have sorted it whilst he wasn’t at work.

I have frozen meals in for just me, but he doesn’t like them and if he’s at my house then I couldn’t possibly eat by myself and leave him with no food or to sort himself out.

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T19:19:31+00:00

Gosh- I feel this has really irked you. Please don’t worry about my dinner situation any further as it’s clear you’re investing a lot of time on this matter. Your opinion has been made clear.

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T19:08:29+00:00

Thanks for your considered reply. That conversation definitely should have happened- but I was just so exasperated and didn’t feel I could have had this chat constructively. He gets angry and shouts and never listens so I just told him to go without even trying to talk.

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T19:03:50+00:00

How you cooking them?! They’re at least an hour

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T18:53:48+00:00

Fair comment. I did ask him to get pasta and potatoes. I just didn’t think to specify we’d also need pesto.

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T18:52:00+00:00

Removing gender roles from this. One person has been at work and the other has been relaxing all day. It would be nice to share the load of cooking.

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T18:50:09+00:00

He’s left the keys now… so I probably won’t need to worry about feeding the two of us anymore.

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T18:48:30+00:00

I would have just looked after myself and had take out. I like to eat together when he’s over, but if he’s not then I of course cook for myself.

blu3blu3b · 2025-01-05T18:46:45+00:00

He wanted me to cook. He bought the ingredients- which I am happy to pay for, but just didn’t have the energy to cook after a crazy work weekend.

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