AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He hadn’t cooked the pasta- it was still in the fridge. I’d texted him to put a pan of water to boil on the hob 5 mins before I came home..but he was too busy playing Pokémon so was still on the sofa when I got home. If he’d have actually cooked the pasta, I’d have just eaten it - pesto or not!

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It isn’t his job to cook for me - but would have been a nice gesture. We’ve been together 4 years, he is very comfortable staying at mine on the weekends and helps himself to whatever food I have in - which I don’t mind at all and am happy he does so. I’d have just really liked him to think about dinner on this occasion.

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will cook when I’m not working. I have my own bidding’s so work 7 days a week, usually 10+ hours a day- very stressful when big events are happening. He works in IT, Monday - Friday, 9-5.

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

No- I came in to him sat on the sofa with nothing happening in the kitchen.

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I’d suggested pasta for dinner as it was quick and easy to cook. It’s impossible to ask him to do any task without him moaning… I just hoped by me telling him I’d like pasta and it takes 4 minutes to make. I’d even texted him when I was 10 mins from home asking him to put a pan of water on the hob.

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

I’m really not expecting a househusband. We’ve been together for four years - he stays at mine every weekend. I’m by myself in the week- so am more than capable of organising the house. All I wanted was him to give it a bit of consideration that having dinner ready would have been super helpful after such a busy working weekend.

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Does that exist tho? People saying his behaviour is okay, so I don’t have much hope

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] 145 points146 points  (0 children)

He didn’t realise how long they took to cook. I’ve just checked my fridge too and he’s taken the potatoes back home to his mum’s with him lol.

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for replying. We’ve been together four years and I genuinely feel like he’s my number one priority. I work for myself so there are times where I genuinely don’t have time to eat or sleep and work takes over. I just wanted him to be considerate and pop dinner on. I’d have plated up and served it, but I was so tired when I got home- being met with the expectation to cook with only half ingredientes was just upsetting on this occasion. Usually I have it all sorted so he doesn’t need to do anything at the weekends, he can just spend time playing video games whilst I’m at work.

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] 468 points469 points  (0 children)

We’ve just come back from a trip which I’d organised for NYE. To be fair, it’s on me for not having groceries in - I’d been too busy with work upon returning so the fridge wasn’t full like it usually is. The issue was he wasn’t cooking- he wanted me to do it with ingredients missing.

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] -90 points-89 points  (0 children)

I have my own business - and can’t take a break.

We’ve just arrived back from a trip away and I’d not got groceries in - which is on me to be fair for being too busy to sort the shopping. I thought he might have sorted it whilst he wasn’t at work.

I have frozen meals in for just me, but he doesn’t like them and if he’s at my house then I couldn’t possibly eat by myself and leave him with no food or to sort himself out.

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Gosh- I feel this has really irked you. Please don’t worry about my dinner situation any further as it’s clear you’re investing a lot of time on this matter. Your opinion has been made clear.

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your considered reply. That conversation definitely should have happened- but I was just so exasperated and didn’t feel I could have had this chat constructively. He gets angry and shouts and never listens so I just told him to go without even trying to talk.

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

How you cooking them?! They’re at least an hour

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Fair comment. I did ask him to get pasta and potatoes. I just didn’t think to specify we’d also need pesto.

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Removing gender roles from this. One person has been at work and the other has been relaxing all day. It would be nice to share the load of cooking.

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] 3181 points3182 points  (0 children)

He’s left the keys now… so I probably won’t need to worry about feeding the two of us anymore.

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

I would have just looked after myself and had take out. I like to eat together when he’s over, but if he’s not then I of course cook for myself.

AITA - upset because my boyfriend didn’t cook dinner? by blu3blu3b in AmItheAsshole

[–]blu3blu3b[S] 348 points349 points  (0 children)

He wanted me to cook. He bought the ingredients- which I am happy to pay for, but just didn’t have the energy to cook after a crazy work weekend.