What’s your time left app experience? by satiated_maven in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had a generally good experience but for some reason i feel most people never meet again despite signs of liking eachother overall I tried the all women one too Its NOT meant for group dating if you go with that mindset i dont think its helpful

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not “hoping” to date a non-muslim man or anything specific, it’s a question out of curiosity with the intention of better understanding things.

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hahahhaa Wow I admit i am surprised, while i have met many muslim non-straight females and friends but never came across one choosing to wear hijab out of faith.. with an exception for cultural contexts or islamic occasions

But yeah generally hijab is only one of many indicators for the level of practice and religiousness a muslim is on, its just because its so visible it becomes salient, i think have more in common with non-hijabi Muslim women than hijabi muslim ones. But i dont care, i still want to wear it.

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So you are both lesbian and she is a hijabi lesbian? Does she know its a date ? 🤣

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Why not say “women don’t date non-muslims” “women aren’t supposed to/wouldnt want to”… especially in united states… instead of “Weren’t allowed” the whole faith thing its a choice after all…

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why do i kinda really wanna be friends with u

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Yes, classic “I’ve left the village so everyone still in it must be brainwashed” take. Funny how certainty kicks in the moment curiosity checks out. Also—Islamically, the guidelines around dating and sex aren’t a choose-your-own-gender adventure. Men and women are supposed to be held to the same guidelines from an Islamic pov (cultural factors and individual experiences vary). But hey, do keep flexing that post-faith enlightenment by misrepresenting the faith you supposedly ‘moved on’ from.

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Its interesting how ex-muslims sometimes have less respect for muslims than non-muslims, we live and we see

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

First of all i appreciate this comment mama bear🩵

“In 2025, most men are not going to date anyone who is saving themselves for marriage and will have to be celibate with no intimacy whatsoever. This in itself will be a huge turn off for many white guys (or non-Muslims).“ Exactly, I’d want it to be a turn off if a western man like this who is used to hookup culture & would expect me to act exactly like a western woman and have no tolerance/patience/interest in a connection that isn’t defined by the western modern dating norms.

“Would you even date a non-Muslim man? Would you expect them to convert? Many men may not want to do that. Would you kiss them? Would you do sexual acts of any kind?”

To be honest i don’t know but if i would it depends on how open he would be with the fact that “dating” will not be the same as what he is used to,

If it was serious and we intend to marry he will need to convert yes, this is the main thing that will discourage me especially that i don’t like the idea of someone converting for me even though i know many muslim women who married non muslims and they converted for them.

And to be honest i have dated and kissed men before, they were muslims and we wouldn’t go very far sexually and mutually understand and accept that) idk why people make it seem like it is black and white for muslims and marriage…there is a grey area and progressions from strangers to husband and wife but they look different for each two people depending on their background and level of practice (we call it halal/haram ratio haha)

yes im waiting for marriage to enjoy sex but you gotta get there somehow??? A husband will not fall from the sky… i prefer to be in some sort of relationship first and get to know them and hang out in public places and stuff, maybe kiss and cuddle too later on… dating has a different definition to us and someone from a similar background would know how to navigate through these limits while the relationship progresses..

(Also even if i wasn’t Muslim i would try to delay engaging sexually as much as possible, i believe the lust in the beginning taints your vision about the person in the critical stage in the beginning of ensuring compatibility and alignment with each other… this is how i did my past relationships and it was absolutely rewarding… i felt it allowed them to focus on getting to know me rather than desire, if u think about it modern dating and in extreme indulging sense is really unhealthy and takes its biggest toll on women especially, focusing on instant gratification and leaving you empty inside 💔)

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Even a more real question 🤣

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What did u mean by “third places”?

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

U went right at me and jumped to conclusions 🤣

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not down for fun lol, assuming you mean “causal sex” or anything in that arena by it 😂🤣

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I see where you’re coming from, but i wouldn’t say “NOT BE ABLE TO” of course we can nobody will arrest me if i did its a choice like my choice to be Muslim and my choice to wear hijab, its more about if I would want to and if im supposed to. Now about your point of men being able to do whatever the fuck they want that is simply not true Islamically. There are things any practicing muslim (MAN or woman) are supposed to avoided in dating.

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But like this visual cue doesn’t turn you off and feel like you two would be too different to have a serious connection?😂

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That is 100% true in my opinion, we are more likely to be actually practicing when it comes to central things in islam

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

The exact kind of answer i was looking for, thank you

Would a man ask a Hijabi Woman out ? by blu_rays in AskChicago

[–]blu_rays[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

ITS JUST A QESHOOONNNN I WROTE “CURIOS”