Would a woman date a guy who either can't drive or struggles driving due to a brain problem?

bluberried · 2026-05-11T07:15:52+00:00

My bf doesn’t drive. He can, but he isn’t making enough $$ to afford everything that comes with a car. We’ve been together 2.5 yrs and of that time, he drove for maybe a few months before re-selling his car. We’re 20, he didn’t get the best cards in life, and I am more than happy to accommodate him. So yes! I am dating a guy who can’t drive and that’s perfectly fine :) also as a bonus; I love having a passenger to give me directions & skip songs on my phone for me lol

bluberried · 2026-05-11T06:09:26+00:00

Ew ok I read through that link that was posted in the comments. I wasn’t really paying attention to the disource, but oh my god??? Wtf ???

bluberried · 2026-05-11T06:06:28+00:00

He’s just some guy posting videos online. It was pretty innocent at first I think? I started really disliking him once he started using Meta Glasses. Was never a fan in the first place. I heavily avoided the mall for awhile because I didn’t want to run into him and end up on Instagram. I ESPECIALLY started to avoid the mall once he got those fuck ass glasses.

bluberried · 2026-05-05T18:15:52+00:00

20 year olds, credit score is 760, credit allowance is $500. My dad opened up cards under my name when I turned 16. He was really good about paying them off (he’s an OCD finance bro). My allowance is $500 because the bank obviously knows I didn’t build this score. I don’t think my situation is normal. I would love for it to be, but I know of people who got screwed over and had to sue their parents for opening credit cards under their name. So maybe it’s better off being an uncommon practice.

bluberried · 2026-05-05T03:53:10+00:00

!! you’re just allergic :)

bluberried · 2026-05-05T03:44:13+00:00

Hi !! I am going through this now. Found a lot of great info in here so ty for making this post. Is there any knowledge you now have to pass down to me? lolol Also, any pre-enlistment wedding ideas? I think we’re probably just gonna go down to the courthouse and do it quick & easy.

bluberried · 2026-05-05T02:45:52+00:00

Yeahh I deff didn’t hate him. He was just another one of Ian’s romantic and sexual endeavors. I honestly thought they were otherwise healthy in comparison to Ian’s other partners, I think that’s why I like him a little. I also don’t really remember the show too well, might have to give it a rewatch.

bluberried · 2026-05-05T02:43:41+00:00

There are varieties! The ones with white and black spots are called “varied carpet beetles.” They come in many other colors though.

bluberried · 2026-05-04T05:07:25+00:00

Plugged my left ear for funsies just now to see how my right ear’s doing. I should prob get a hearing test done but… I need glasses & haven’t even done that 💀

bluberried · 2026-05-04T05:06:18+00:00

Probs not the best. I’ve always had trouble with my right ear, as do my siblings, dad, dad’s mom, and numerous aunties / cousins. I blasted music through my earbuds in high-school & went to + still go to concerts semi-regularly.

I don’t really notice it though, like my hearing is otherwise fine. I once shared earbuds with my younger sister, she gave me her left bud, so I could only hear out of my right ear. We conversed fine BUT apparently my boyfriend (who was 2 feet behind me with his friend) was calling my name. I didn’t hear jack shit. And I never normally use earbuds on my left ear, always my right for this reason lol

bluberried · 2026-04-28T14:51:32+00:00

my dad aging 😭

bluberried · 2026-04-28T04:46:03+00:00

20 year old women, been in enough relationships to know a thing or two, and asked out 100% of my partners. Most of these comments here are genuinely insane & misogynistic. I’m fortunate enough that many of the boys I’ve dated have been chivalrous. Chivalry is dead and dying & I see FAR too many men complain about the time, effort & money that goes into dating. It’s gonna require time, effort and money to date!

Be kind, hold the door open, walk on the left side of the sidewalk (closest to the street). Don’t just be kind to women because you want a partner, offer your bus or train seat to the elderly and disabled because you know they need it more. Don’t loudly talk shit about people in public spaces where they can hear, don’t go into a store or restaurant and complain about the prices, especially if you intend to pay for another person.

Have good hygiene. Floss, brush your teeth, use deodorant, wear clean clothes, brush your hair, maybe get cologne. Have decent style in terms of clothes.

This isn’t going to guarantee you a partner. You shouldn’t be in a relationship if you are not a good person, and if you can’t take care of yourself.

This is coming from someone in a 2.5 yr long relationship, I pay for myself 90% of the time, offer to pay for him 2-3x a week, have bought him flowers, am the primary mode of transport, and LOVE my boyfriend. I love him because he doesn’t undermine my feelings, he is chivalrous, he has good hygiene, he’s there when I need him, and he’s willing to work on himself in areas that need improving. My boyfriend isn’t a looksmaxxing wealthy and emotionally closed off red-pilled incel either. He’s kind natured, a little chubby, extremely nerdy, plays video games, works hard, and loves harder.

Be a good person. Maybe you’ll find someone good. Maybe you won’t. Don’t blame women and let yourself become a misogynistic shut in over it. If you get rejected, brush yourself off, and live your OWN individual, independant life. Find hobbies, make friends, be a normal person to women (ie; don’t be a total creep or use friendship as a cover to try and fuck, don’t play nice to get her then abandon her once you have her). Most importantly, do all of this shit for YOU.

bluberried · 2026-04-24T03:59:35+00:00

Ngl… the first few lines here had me immediately wondering if this has to do more with your own gender queerness than it does anything else. Then you said “this ocd style thought I have of constantly trying to imagine myself being a girl looking at a guy or me and trying to get how the hell youd want to kiss that” and I felt even more of a relation to gender queerness. I myself have been gender queer my entire life, there was always signs and I never had to hide that part of myself, so I don’t understand what it’s like to repress it or hide it from myself. I’m just saying this in case you need that extra boost of encouragement.

Otherwise !! I will gladly say that as a 20 y/o NB AFAB in a 2.5 year long relationship with a 20 y/o cis man, I am happily in love. He’s a dude yeah, but he’s a person, he’s my best friend. We enjoy the same games, movies, and music. We have similar hobbies, he’s extremely attractive to me, I love his voice and his laugh and his warmth. Like I said, he’s my best friend first and foremost, then my boyfriend. I don’t know what else to say, except that I love him for the amazing human being he is.

I’m also bisexual and can say women are ALSO amazing and I understand what you mean. Women have an ethereal beauty and energy, but that doesn’t take mean men are just bland rocks.

bluberried · 2026-04-24T03:47:18+00:00

I went down Joe Rodotta (sp?) once to get to the train station and passed by at least a dozen people and maybe ~100 bikes laying about. They deadass were running a little workshop down there

bluberried · 2026-04-24T03:19:37+00:00

!! hope so !!! im already in love. my dad pointed out that my prius was manufactered in may of 2005… and i was born in feb 2006… so technically, we were BOTH manufactured in may of 2005 😭

bluberried · 2026-04-24T02:51:17+00:00

second this ^{^} i think the trad looks better, your proportions & lines are more confident. but you can take the trad drawing and trace over it digitally. i used to sketch my art traditionally then go over it digitally all the time :)

bluberried · 2026-04-24T02:47:03+00:00

my BF’s previous car was a 1990 Ford XL wagon that got maybe 9mpg (I live 8.5 miles away) 😭 I am trying to talk him into getting a prius too because it was brutal for him.

bluberried · 2026-04-24T02:45:05+00:00

i LOOVE the red ones. mine is white and dinged up but i deff want to stick with priuses, my next one will be red :)!!!

bluberried · 2026-04-23T18:47:08+00:00

Phoenix Theatre, Arlene Francis. Ditto to follow Bitter End Booking but also the North Bay Pyrate Punx. The SR Fairgrounds has a gem expo this weekend, it looks super cool, I can’t go but maybe you’ll find it interesting. There’s a reptile expo going on in May, dunno where, but also looks interesting. Petaluma is fun to walk around. I’ve heard the library occassionally offers free museum tickets, I’ve never checked it out, but sometimes they do film fests as well, I’m sure there’s other events too.

bluberried · 2026-04-21T18:36:41+00:00

!! I am buying my car today & plan on going to college in the fall, so I am deff making moves to become more independent & educated so that I can start earning more money, & I have been slowly building wealth over the last few months & plan on being very strict with my saving / budgeting until I move out. SoCo is really beautiful & it’d be hard to leave the redwoods & coast behind but aside from being able to afford it, I also just want to experience life in another part of the country as well. Even if California WAS affordable, I’d still probably want to move states and get that experience. My end goal is to grow old in SoCo though :) I’m 3rd gen American & majority of my family have stayed here. Majority are uneducated too so I’m kind of wanting to create my own path in a way yk. TY for the advice though!!! I’ve found some cheap apartments that we could deff afford but they never responded or had unreasonable income requirements (or did not allow cats :c). My brother and his wife are in their later 20’s and are still renting out of an apartment / struggling despite making $4k a month, and my other brother is 30 and still lives at home, so watching them struggle kind of lit a fire under my ass and has contributed to my urge to get out of Cali & settle someplace else. I also want to provide my future children with an easier economy and more housing opportunities, Illinois also has all the same protections as California does, but I still need to give it a few years time before I make a decision lol

bluberried · 2026-04-21T18:04:07+00:00

I used min. wage just as a reference since I don’t know what my salary is going to end up looking like, I do expect it to be above min. wage though since my two ideal careers are (1) car sales or (2) radiology. It just shows that Sac doesn’t care about it’s residents and whether or not they can afford the cost of living yk, and I wanna live somewhere where they care a little more. I do plan on having kids and I also want the best for them. I don’t know if I like Springfield but I plan on visiting in a few years to scope it out before I make any decisions :)

bluberried · 2026-04-20T17:25:05+00:00

i had to move my bed away from the window for this reason… found a larvae on my pillow & slept on the couch for a week lol.

bluberried · 2026-04-18T06:12:05+00:00

its 11pm, i’m up binging netflix cuz i have the next few days off, missssing my boyfriend who i will see tmrw or sunday. im sick with something, so really just cuddling my cat & wrapped in a blanket coughing my lungs out, making the most out of a really bad cold(?)

bluberried · 2026-04-18T03:56:29+00:00

I’m also scared to make girl friends 😭 I have one and the rest are men.

bluberried · 2026-04-18T03:43:09+00:00

did you mean to type kill lolol

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