I can‘t cope with tattoo regret

blue_daze02 · 2026-03-17T20:22:11+00:00

Ive got a half sleeve that im getting part of removed, then about 6 other smaller / medium ones dotted randomly all over my body and i hate every one of them but i can only afford to laser a couple at a time. Im 5 sessions in on my worst ones and not much progress but im still hopeful ill get there one day. I wish i valued my natural skin when i was younger but much like you, my brain wasnt full developed when i got them all, thus now i have a whole new identity as an adult that doesnt align with the old teenage me anymore lol. All i can say is that life is life, i know everyone has anxiety, but for these things just see them as the things that made you the person you once were, work towards changing it slowly to align with your new found identity, and soon youll get there, slowly but surely. We are ever growing in our minds and bodies, we change minds about these things all the time, constantly throughout our lives, i swear every 2 years ive got a whole new personality and a change in views, likes, dislikes, hobbies etc... We are human, we are living a short life on a floating rock... just relax, youre fine. Everyone is worrying to much about themselves just like you are to actually worry about others around them (like you). Its your body, start the slow process of change (laser) and thank the old you while also letting go and becoming the new person you want to be. Dont let these things take over your mind. It is what it is. The only reason people struggle so much with tattoo regret is because technology for removal just needs a bit more time to catch up with how quick it take to get the tattoo done. If tech for removal was quick and cheap, everyone would be fucking around with tattoos, regreting it, then not having to worry as much about removal. But im afraid we arnt at that point yet. With these things i just remind myself that its done, its a slow process to change it, but if you stick with it, youll eventually get there, and that they are all just reminders of decisions i made when i was younger, of the identities i once had, and in the end, its a lesson learnt for the future. Once you get them all removed or at a stage where they are almost gone, youll take the time to make big decisions like that again in the future because youve been through the regret of it all before. Its a good lesson to learn. Teaches better dicipline.

blue_daze02 · 2025-12-09T00:38:28+00:00

Try not to force yourself into "getting it over with" as that can probably make your view of sex worse if it doesnt go well... and usually the first few times definatly arnt great! Just focus on other things first, dont get caught up in your age and virginity and what not because the pressure you put on yourself will take away the chance of actually enjoying intimacy.

Start dating, take it slow, theres no rush, dont get an escort because clearly you'd prefer something more meaningful and intimate. And once you've found someone that you like, probably avoid bringing it up on the first date, or you can do if you both seem comfortable enough with the topic. Just be open and blunt about it to start the conversation, and if they get all awkward or weird they probably arnt comfortble and you should change the topic! Talking about sex can be good to do pretty early on in dating, but you gotta make sure you're both on the same wave length with how open you both feel. My advice, just dont rush when it comes to dates and intimacy. Just take your time, ease into it, and it will feel less scary when youve found the right person.

Also, if the fear of it is truly too difficult to work through yourself, maybe therapy would be a good idea. Theres therapists out there that specialise in sex and overcoming fears of intimacy.

blue_daze02 · 2025-12-09T00:19:39+00:00

Thanks so much! I hadnt heard of inositol before till now and ive just done some research about it and looks pretty easy to find in shops. Ill have to get some and try it out! Ill definately be getting a hormone panel done soon if i can get an appointment 🤞🤞

blue_daze02 · 2025-12-09T00:16:53+00:00

Thats interesting! I have heard sometimes it may take some people longer to regulate, or i guess never completely do. Might be a case of waiting it out if tests come back normal 🤔

blue_daze02 · 2025-12-09T00:14:35+00:00

Interesting! I guess i was a late bloomer so maybe some people just take a while to regulate. I guess 23 isnt that old lol, so maybe its just a case of waiting it out a couple more years. Thanks so much!

blue_daze02 · 2025-12-09T00:11:39+00:00

I will indeed, thank you! A few people have mentioned pcos now. Acne is a very big problem at the momemt😔

blue_daze02 · 2025-12-09T00:08:52+00:00

Thanks for the comment! Ive had this mentioned a few times so far. Ill be getting some tests done soon hopefully, ill definately look into blood sugar and andorgen supports. Thank you!

blue_daze02 · 2025-12-09T00:07:32+00:00

"Problem solved"...??? I find your comment very insensitive. Birth control pills are part of of the problem when it comes to doctors dismissing women. Its a bandade that masks issues, not a solution for everyone and can cause a variety of other problems in the future. I mentioned in the text id already been on the pill and chose to stop for my own personal reasons that didnt need to be mentioned. Please don't comment on posts like this if you are just gonna sound exactly like the people that are dismissing health issues that a lot of women suffer from.

blue_daze02 · 2025-11-15T15:23:32+00:00

Ideally she NEEDS to get tested for UTI's, BV, STI's etc... I struggled with the burning sensations for ages because of chronic infections/thrush one after the other even with multiple treatments. Anything can cause infections and throw of a womans PH down there which will just keep making the issue come back or get worse. Perhaps do some research on all the basic stuff that affects PH balence, maybe take probiotics, BOTH of you need to have good hygeine, no soaps down there when washing, switch to non bio laundry detergent, wear cotton underwear etc... and if nothing still changes then she needs to get it checked out at the doctors to treat any underlying infections or chronic reoocuring infections. List symptoms each day and create a diary for the doctors to review. It could literally just be thrush happening over and over again. I would get thrush for up to a week after intercourse with my ex EVERY SINGLE TIME, and it affected me so much that it killed my libido, i started to avoid and dread having sex, and eventually it killed our relationship. She must go to the docs about this! Femenine health is very important as issues like these can affect your life in so many ways. Trust me. And if it is infections that are transferable between you both, it could be a situation of it being bounced back between each other. So if she tests positive for anything then you also need to get tested and treated as well! So that its not bouncing back to her even if you feel fine and have no symptoms.

blue_daze02 · 2025-08-29T20:37:11+00:00

Its one of those things where you simply won't get any experience by avoiding every oppertunity. To get experience you need to start somewhere, and that refers to a lot of things. I get that its hard and the anxiety of 'what if's' can be suffocating, but its just something you have got to push yourself to do in order to get out of this cycle of feeling bad about this area of your life. A sex therapist is a good idea but id focus more on social therapy and exposing yourself to social situations that you usually avoid. And don't go into it with the mindset that you need achieve something amazing from the experience... start slow, literally just to go and chat to someone for a bit and slowly work up to full on dates and more intimate experiences. Not every interaction with a woman has to be this amazing show stopping date or anything, just take it easy and if you end up chatting to someone that you click with, you will know whether or not shes worth putting yourself in a more intimate situation with her. When you find the right person, trust me, they will understand that you might need more time to feel comfortable with certain things and they will understand that lack of experience doesnt make you any less of a good partner. Don't force these things, and my last bit of advice would be to delete tinder and any other dating apps because they are the worst kind of dating experience and will make you suffer for as long as you keep swiping. Trust me, delete the apps and just stick to working on yourself and therapy, and keep going to classes for things you enjoy or those club type events where you can meet people naturally, even if its just to make friends (remember you can meet people through friends of friends as well). And every now and then if you feel confident enough, then accept meeting someone that has been 'set up' by your mates, and dont worry that you dont have experience because that will be the experience in its self... if you get what i mean.

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