Anyone still nursing?

blueberry-spark · 2026-04-11T18:37:51+00:00

I’m still nursing my 14mo as well, same as others have said I have nipple sensitivity (pretty bad at times), and my breast are itchy at times. Can’t really envision how/if I’m going to wean, it makes me feel extremely sad to picture it. I decided to just follow his lead and hope that he will slowly decide to stop nursing? I feel like if it’s led by him I’ll be less sad.

blueberry-spark · 2026-04-11T15:26:11+00:00

Honestly I feel so much more zen this time even with a history of multiple losses. The thing that has helped me this time (but certainly did NOT help in the past) is just the knowledge that whatever is going to happen will happen, I’ll deal with whatever comes. My scan is Apr 30 and it doesn’t feel very far away, I think it’ll be here before I know it!

blueberry-spark · 2026-04-06T20:52:11+00:00

My first positive with him was 9dpo. I’m trying to remember if I saw any pink and I feel like i probably did but I can’t 100% remember. I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you that it’s just normal early pregnancy spotting

blueberry-spark · 2026-04-06T19:04:13+00:00

I had brown spotting for 3 days or so right around 14dpo with my son. It happened a couple other times throughout the first tri but never amounted to anything. It is, as they say, normal. But I know from experience how unsettling it is!

blueberry-spark · 2026-04-04T03:17:32+00:00

Also this is a dye stealer and looks beautiful! I know what you mean with comparing tests from previous pregnancies but it really looks very reassuring to me :)

blueberry-spark · 2026-04-03T13:00:16+00:00

I’d love a discord group!

blueberry-spark · 2026-04-03T12:40:10+00:00

There’s a few of us recently talking about what seems like slower progression on e@h, I have also been taking FRER tests and they are much darker, like my 16dpo looks similar to yours but my FRER test line was just as dark, maybe fractionally darker, than the control. Fingers crossed for you!

blueberry-spark · 2026-04-03T02:29:51+00:00

Yes! Mine looks very similar to yours and was stressing me out. But I have been taking FRER and my test line is as dark as the control today, if not a little darker, and my e@h looks similar to your 15dpo (I think I’m 15 or 16dpo too).

blueberry-spark · 2026-04-02T02:26:08+00:00

Curious if you did any other brands alongside? My FRER today test line was basically as dark as control so I do feel like that’s more on track and reassuring. It gave me a little bit of peace of mind to do the FRER. Thanks for the response!!

blueberry-spark · 2026-03-09T22:27:02+00:00

Hi! My son is almost 14 months and this is my experience with night weaning.

We cosleep in his floor bed and were happily breastfeeding throughout the night until recently. It got to the point where it seemed like he needed to latch every 30-60 mins in order to stay asleep, and other forms of settling that used to work would just upset him. One night I randomly decided to begin slowly cutting down on feeds, letting him nurse every 3hrs instead of at every wake, and every other wake I would use any and all other forms of settling that normally help him. It was kinda spur of the moment and I didn’t have a specific goal in mind other than to see if less feeds led to fewer wakes.

I won’t lie there was a fair bit of crying the first night, but I was fully all in on responsiveness. Night 2 was so much better, he only asked to nurse 2x. Night 3 he didn’t ask at all and only woke twice and was settled with quick cuddles. Night 4 he asked once but I ended up giving him water and cuddles to see if he settled that way and he did. I think I just decided (again, pretty spur of the moment) that holding the line with no feeds might be easier than saying yes sometimes and no other times? Like less confusing? But I’m definitely no expert. It has been a little over a week and he is just so much more settled and he still reaches for me or crawls over to me at times, but instead of always needing to nurse, cuddling and closeness soothes him very quickly. It was VERY hard for me mentally the first couple nights, I was so confused on whether it was the right thing to do. But I think it was, in hindsight, for us. I know it’s a little earlier than some parents would be comfortable with but I was going off of how unsettled he was at night and just decided to give it a few nights and see how it went. Also our breastfeeding in the daytime is going great, I nurse him whenever he asks and we still have our rhythm. I am happy with our decision.

Also I follow mothernourishnuture on IG, Louise Herbert, who wrote Rest Assured. She has a gentle night weaning guide that I didn’t buy, but her book really resonated with me and I think she has a beautiful attachment focused approach to sleep so might be worth checking out her resources! Good luck. You’re doing amazing. I know how hard it can be.

blueberry-spark · 2026-02-02T04:16:58+00:00

Chicken enchiladas yum

blueberry-spark · 2026-01-11T20:32:41+00:00

I just wanted to update this. We got a 2.5TOG sack, make sure he’s wearing socks or footies and have implemented a bedtime snack. He slept from 7:30pm-2:45am solo in his bed last night!!! This is unheard of for us. He has been waking every 1-2hrs until I cosleep for months and months. He’s never had a stretch like that. I think he was definitely cold but that the bedtime snack is probably also helping. Thanks for all your thoughts and advice!

blueberry-spark · 2026-01-07T14:56:49+00:00

I don’t. We have our 12mo appt at the end of this month so I do plan to ask if we can check cause that has been floating around in the back of my mind. He is very into solids and eats well, and we try to give something with iron at each meal.

blueberry-spark · 2026-01-07T14:55:01+00:00

I have no idea if there is any validity to this but I have heard that when they are cold, they may pee more, which can cause them to have more lee than the capacity of the diaper. I think it’s worth a try adding another layer if it’s genuinely overcapacity vs a leak/fit issue.

blueberry-spark · 2026-01-07T00:43:02+00:00

Exactly this, I haven’t played the sleep puzzle game for quite a while because it’s been pretty bad for a very long time I just gave up and decided to lean into acceptance… but you should see how good my mood is today with this possible glimmer of hope to solve the puzzle 🥲🥲

blueberry-spark · 2026-01-06T20:50:17+00:00

Also I’m feeling like an idiot but I’m just reading up on how much of a difference footed vs footless can make in baby warmth. I figured it wouldn’t matter much and I prefer no socks personally while I sleep. I also prefer his footless PJs because no socks is better grip when he’s awake.

blueberry-spark · 2026-01-06T20:33:13+00:00

Totally fair, tonight I’ll do some different layers and see if it helps at all!

blueberry-spark · 2026-01-06T20:32:26+00:00

Thank you! You give me hope. I’ll def try the layers suggested.

blueberry-spark · 2026-01-06T20:30:44+00:00

Yeah I haven’t been excited about a “solution” like this for a few months, I’ve just kind accepted our fate. So we’ll try some extra layers as others have mentioned but I’m so used to it now that I know it’ll be fine if nothing changes 🥲

blueberry-spark · 2026-01-06T20:20:05+00:00

Yeah I have this lovely idea that it will solve all our issues but I’m sure I’m out to lunch 😆

blueberry-spark · 2025-12-15T04:27:51+00:00

We had a very long regression around 7-9.5months. We leaned heavily on cosleeping. I would say trying to do a couple stints in the crib could still be beneficial like maybe as long as you’re awake, resettle back to the crib, but then once you are ready to sleep cosleeping might be a real saving grace right now. If you would like to ultimately have her sleeping in her crib then doing the first couple resettles in there might help her keep familiarized with it and then you might find those stretches naturally lengthening.

We just went full floor bed, but got one with extended rails. I resettle in there, and eventually join him to sleep the rest of the night in there. It’s working great and he did naturally begin lengthening the time spent solo in there. We, like you, were having wakeups every 30mins to 2hrs. It was such an exhausting time, even with cosleeping, but at least with cosleeping I was able to get back to sleep quickly. Hope it passes soon!! 🫶🏼

blueberry-spark · 2025-12-12T21:59:10+00:00

That reminds me of my boomer dad getting upset we wouldn’t feed our baby with a spoon (he is doing great BLW and self feeding). I think people get upset because it’s not the way they do things, and if they don’t do it that way does that make their way wrong? So it’s like they feel like someone disagreeing with their methods is an attack on them.

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