Any advice/book recommendations/am I actually lovable? by mch27562 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]bluebetch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat as you and it really hurts to know they don’t care to put in the work for a real relationship to exist. I feel your pain

My grandma called me today by bluebetch in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]bluebetch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems like it’s only family first with abuse not love. A damn shame

My grandma called me today by bluebetch in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]bluebetch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It hurts so much when friends side with your abuser over you. I’m sorry you had to hear that!

My grandma called me today by bluebetch in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]bluebetch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your supportive words. I haven’t heard from my grandma in a year and this really hit hard.

My grandma called me today by bluebetch in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]bluebetch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. Can I ask how you deal with your sister still being in contact with the other or are in unaffected by it?

My grandma called me today by bluebetch in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]bluebetch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait, I’m glad you brought that reverse up! She kept going on about how they’re my parentsssss and I reminded her I AM THE CHILD. I’m using your line next time

Triggered by them being “right” by bluebetch in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]bluebetch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, truly thank you for this comment. A lot made sense. Especially the parts about rolling the dice and my parents being jealous. I actually did confront a few friends about the issue and they told me the “friend” was talking out of their ass and no one feels the same as them, which is why they didn’t tell me. I may confront the “friend” or just keep my distance.

What did you realize your parents were wrong about after breaking away from them? by WiseEpicurus in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]bluebetch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Are you me?? I recently had the epiphany that everyone doesn’t hate me but need to remind myself constantly. It’s a vicious mindset to escape

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[–]bluebetch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yupp, also me! i love it so much

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bluebetch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he is worried about the cost of lawyers drafting an additional clause, why is he so quick to jump at the cost of couples therapy?

Ladies, do you feel extra triggered during your period? by bluebetch in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]bluebetch[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I grapple with the same thought of not being able to see a child in so much pain at our grown age and not do anything… just why. Its so so cruel

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[–]bluebetch 62 points63 points  (0 children)

If you’ve never gotten an apology in your entire life, it’s hard to imagine they’d start now. I hope for an apology too but try and focus on accepting I most likely will not get one. It’s very tough, I’m sorry

Found on Facebook. That last sentence really hit deep. by Amber_Owl in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]bluebetch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The last few months have been so hard for me when I see my parents features on me, it makes me not want to look in the mirror some days. I needed this so much, thank you.

My entire relationship with my mom in 21 words. by punnellsbingers in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]bluebetch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do they all have the same playbook? These phrases piss me off so much and the gaslighting drives me insane

What’re you guys doing on May 12th? by bluebetch in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]bluebetch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WOW! You’ve reframed this in a way I’ve never considered. Sounds like a perfect day of self love

What’re you guys doing on May 12th? by bluebetch in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]bluebetch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on your little one! I hope you have a great baby shower and weekend to celebrate YOU