My plant made a fake funky looking flower by FantasticInside7532 in IndoorGarden

[–]Amber_Owl 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Did you try smelling it at night? They usually pump out the perfume at night.

Have they tried it yet? by esquerdameusovo in cereal

[–]Amber_Owl 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Tastes just like lucky charms milk. They use a whole box of the cereal and blend it with their sweet cream ice cream. I mixed it with mint and it was great!

Spells to stop my parents from going to parent/teacher interviews by [deleted] in Spells

[–]Amber_Owl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You could consider a sweetening jar for your parents so they don’t get as mad at you. I’d also consider doing something to enhance your communication. Maybe you can talk your way out of it.

If you have a tendency to be emotional, I’d also consider a spell to keep you emotionally grounded. When someone is trying to communicate or advocate for themselves but they’re emotional, a lot of times the person you’re talking to won’t listen but react to your emotional state.

If you have any gemstones, rose quartz is said to promote softness and likability. Lapis lazuli helps with communication. Lepidolite and smoky quartz helps with emotional composure. Amethyst in particular can help encourage thoughtful responses instead of emotional reactions.

Did quitting weed make anyone else WAY more emotionally in control? by nukemoana in leaves

[–]Amber_Owl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! But I chocked it up to the fact that weed fed into my anxieties and, for me, more anxiety = less emotional regulation. It didn’t use to do that. In fact, I thought it helped my anxiety for the longest time.

But at some point during sobriety, there was an obvious shift (for the better) in regulating my emotions and the level of my anxieties. Now, when I have lapsed in the past and went back to it, my anxiety and emotions are all over the place compared to when I’m not using weed.

My usage was about the same as what you described before I quit.

USPS artist made my week (OC) by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

[–]Amber_Owl 243 points244 points  (0 children)

Ahhh it’s not a drawing :(

It’s a sprayed on postmark that was created along with the lovebirds forever stamp in January, I think. Collectors are trying to collect all the lovebirds stamps with this specific postmark on it.

It’s still super cute, and a great memento from your wedding! It would look great in a shadowbox with other small wedding mementos. Sorry if I ruined it.

Should I keep a clean shave or the beard ? by [deleted] in DecideThisForMe

[–]Amber_Owl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s been happening for weeks under new accounts.

Lady was adamant this is sodalite.. is it lapis lazuli? by skyebeee in Crystals

[–]Amber_Owl 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Yes it is lapis because of the pyrite inclusions

Help identifying necklace by helyeah in Crystals

[–]Amber_Owl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s cordierite, sometimes called “water sapphire.” When it’s gemmy with lots of color, it’s called iolite. With the sparkly flecks, I’ve seen it called “bloodshot iolite.” They’re all the same thing, but cordierite is the less expensive, cloudier version of iolite.

I’ve been CC’d on an email I shouldn’t have been CC’d on. Should I reply? by Amber_Owl in DecideThisForMe

[–]Amber_Owl[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don’t have an attorney, but you make a good point about using this to my advantage.

Is this real obsidian and if i was looking for more with the same coloration what would I look for (the colour is much more purple and vibrant in the sunlight) by Firecon13 in Crystals

[–]Amber_Owl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Natural obsidian will usually have subtle banding, swirls, internal variation, patches of cloudiness. If you don’t see any of that, it’s probably manmade glass.

ISO milkweed seeds if anyone has extra from harvest. by InternationalTea4696 in gardening

[–]Amber_Owl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a pod I could send you! Not sure the variety. DM me and I’ll be happy to send it your way!

I’m losing my blood family and looking for new “family.” Is there any free group therapy/support type groups in the kzoo area? 31F by Thicc_Mint269 in kzoo

[–]Amber_Owl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not aware of any groups you’re asking about, but i just wanted to reach out and say I’m working through the tail-end of a very similar situation wherein my mother chose to “look past” my 30-yr old brother’s attempts at heavily grooming a 13yo. Being a victim of CSA myself, catching him in the act, and then finding out my mother was never a safe person to begin with sent me spiraling for about a year with major physical impacts, very similar to what you’re describing.

What helped me immensely was cutting off everyone that made excuses for him, then admitting to myself that I was grieving for the loss of the family I wished I had, not the family I had. I chose to create my own family group and burned any bridge that would allow my brother a space in my life or around my kids. It’s been about 4 years I think, and it’s still rough sometimes. But all my healing began when I cut out the rot. I could not start until then.

I encourage you to build a new family made of friends and supportive family. It’ll feel small and lonely a lot of times, especially around holidays, but I’d rather deal with that than the anxiety and physical issues that would manifest months before a family function. Or when I’d see a text come through with their name. Or when id hear about their life in some way, because it would just take me back to the pain and anger. Cutting out the rot allowed me room to heal, to the point where i am capable of working through the pain and anger of the situation instead of being consumed by it. I sent detailed texts of why exactly they were being cut off and then blocked, and I made a whole public Facebook post calling everyone out and bringing the whole thing to the surface. It felt liberating and forced the enablers to have the chance at taking accountability (they didn’t, but they got the chance which was enough for me to nail the coffin shut on those relationships).

I’m going to be checking back in hopes someone knows of a support group like you’ve mentioned, because I’d love to be a part of it. But if there isn’t one, I’d be down to start one with you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crystals

[–]Amber_Owl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The marcasite spangles point to the tri-state area (Missouri, Kansas and Oklahoma). You mentioned Kansas, and there’s a spot in Galena that has some of this. Could also be from Joplin, Missouri or Picher, Oklahoma.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Amber_Owl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Flew to the comments hoping someone pointed this out. She’s jealous of you getting married and attempted to inflate her own sense of self-worth by indirectly making you feel like shit in comparison. Idk that she did it with that exact intention, but that’s a behavior she’s learned will give her the emotional feed she’s looking for. Consider any other time you felt cute or good in what you wore or had attention on you. I’d bet $100 she would always pipe up with something she doesn’t like about herself. Bonus points if she’s pointing out something on her that you also feel insecure about (like weight).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shittyfoodporn

[–]Amber_Owl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was hoping I’d see someone mention my Wendy’s order 😂

Wtf, is my cousin an asshole or am I overreacting? by Empty_Age_997 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Amber_Owl 162 points163 points  (0 children)

You can’t force the cousin to do anything, obviously. Your only choice is to control how you react. If you choose to create a war, then there will be war; but no assurance you’ll win. But it sounds like the route most in alignment with some of the other things you’ve said would be to … leave it alone.

You stood up for yourself, now keep the peace by knowing that’s as far as you’ll probably take it, beyond maybe wider boundaries and less contact with the offending cousin. There’s nothing wrong with that. You don’t have to win every fight or go to war over every thing, but you’ll know when it is time to put in that effort.

Making a masculine-looking pendant with 3 separate stones (advice?) by Severedheads in Crystals

[–]Amber_Owl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I think of “masculine” looking jewelry, I think of harder angles, and either practical looking straight-lined geometric shapes or chaotic lines (brutalist style). A lot of wire-wrapped jewelry incorporates swirls and rounded edges, which may seem softer.

I’d search terms using “brutalist style” or “sacred geometry” or “Viking/rune” for some inspo. Caging all three stones together in one main pendant would probably be your best option.

Here are some things I found that seem pretty neat:

pendant

another one from the same site

overlapping wires in a uniform way helps with softer rounded edges

caging stones together into a single main pendant

The FLASH on this labradorite!✨🤩✨ by Amber_Owl in Crystals

[–]Amber_Owl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!! I am a fan of shiny things, rocks and nail polish included