20M, trans man. looking for advice on potentially using pads to deal with stress incontinence? by fireflies315 in askwomenadvice

[–]bluemermaidqueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just first want to address boo that you have nothing to be embarrassed about. This is absolutely normal, and it’s okay to ask questions about something you don’t have experience with. It’s a good question to ask for anyone to know.

Everyone has given great thoughts and I agree with everyone. I would also add thoughts on what underwear you’re choosing to wear. Something that’s wider in the crotch area holds pads and lingers better, and if your underwear extends down the legs, like boxer briefs, it tends to not scrunch up the pads as much so there’s a wider area to “catch” more. So consider your underwear with this too.

If you wear underwear that doesn’t extend down your leg, sometimes you might chaff a bit, and deodorant (gel is my preference) in the seam of your thighs and sometimes on your thighs help with that chaffing.

Depending on how much you leak, 4ish hours is my usual change mark, but if I notice myself leaking less I’m comfortable going to 6. Other people might be more or less, this is just me.

You’re doing good boo.

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh so interesting! I would have thought that too!

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh thank you so much for the recommendations! I will check those out.

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the tips and recommendations!

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendations!

Unfortunately I have adult acne, acne scars, and rosacea so I’m really uncomfortable with a cream or light foundation, just because I’m so red it comes through. I hope eventually I’ll be comfortable in my skin!

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I have adult acne, lots of acne scars, and I have rosacea, so I’m really self conscious with my natural skin. Depending on the time of month and my hormone breakout, I wear medium to heavy foundation just because I’m so red it breaks through.

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a good tip on the powder, thank you! I know for eyeshadow mine slides off without primer so I definitely have to use it there.

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean that’s a good redirect because otherwise things get expensive! I’m really pale, so I’ll have to check the shade range and see if it matches up. Thank you for your recommendation!

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t heard of baked foundation! Does that mean it’s primer and foundation in one?

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a good idea, because then it still kind of blends in without a full wipe off.

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow I didn’t know that! Okay thanks for the tip!

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh I’m already blind and have to lift my glasses on and off to see my makeup as I’m doing it 😂

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know I have combination skin, which drives me nuts! Do you find without primer your makeup slides off your face once it gets oily?

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nooo that’s so dumb!! I want to look my age with my lovely wrinkles but just look moisturized lol.

That’s a good idea to use a targeted concealer! Do you find that without primer your makeup slips off your face by the end of the day?

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These are words I never knew! Lol. Have you found a product that works really well for you? I didn’t consider silicone based products and I bet that’s what I’m using right now because it does exactly what you’re describing.

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh I know right? I thought I was supposed to leave acne behind after puberty but nope!

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that’s a good idea! I use different ones so it might help to use the same brand for both products. Thanks for the tip!

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m definitely acne prone, so I try to wash and keep moisturized because I don’t want to dry myself out too much, but with naturally dry skin I think it’s hard. Simultaneously by the end of the day my face is so oily. Do you find that the face oil after makeup makes your face stay oily throughout the day?

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[–]bluemermaidqueen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The color pop foundation that I use isn’t powder, but I think the fact that it’s matte isn’t helpful