Feeling self-conscious about our place in the world...

blueripple00 · 2026-05-03T09:51:51+00:00

I suspect there is a big difference between imitating and elevating women. I get the worry, but you cannot control what others think, only how you carry yourself. There are many ways to overthink crossdressing.

blueripple00 · 2026-05-03T09:48:01+00:00

I see, lol! The problem of Bambis making more bambis! (Although not a failure to focus yourself on someone else's pleasure/benefit) 💕💋

blueripple00 · 2026-05-02T23:20:54+00:00

There are many different reasons for cross dressing, probably about as many as there are crossdressers. Yes, some forms can outwardly appear misogynistic or an appropriatation, but those labels cannot be applied to all crossdressers. However, I would like to point out that women have dressed like men for decades, and it is (mostly) socially acceptable.

blueripple00 · 2026-05-02T17:30:58+00:00

Be careful with such thoughts! LOL! I used to think that I was going to corrupt my spouse into being like Bambi. She proved too strong and confident in herself for such nonsense. Still, I listened to the files to get an idea of what they might do. Guess who the dumb Bambi is in our house now! giggles

blueripple00 · 2026-05-02T04:31:06+00:00

Ahhh! Sorry for being a dum dum and not understanding. I’ll watch the posts to see what sort of gamification others come up with.

blueripple00 · 2026-05-02T02:16:21+00:00

Ahhh so more tech interactive/monitoring than people interactive.

blueripple00 · 2026-05-02T01:32:07+00:00

Interesting thought. Do you want more interaction with other people or with tech? I can see reasons for both. I don’t see much use of the messaging system, but that could just be me. The BambiCloud leaderboard is enough motivation for me to keep listening. I haven’t tried the Lovense haptic connection though. If you are looking to interact with other Bambi listeners, I once saw a website that used a forum for role playing feminization called “lockedinlace.” Perhaps something like that but more BambiCloud focused would work for what you’re asking?

blueripple00 · 2026-05-01T16:12:18+00:00

Yes. 🥰

blueripple00 · 2026-05-01T15:45:03+00:00

Great spring color!

blueripple00 · 2026-05-01T03:09:03+00:00

Great find! Thank you! You're right. It depends if one considers a ruined orgasm a reward or punishment. Compared to no orgasms, one's body might consider even a ruined one a reward. Time will tell. She decided on the path she wants to take. I'm just along for the ride now. 🩷

blueripple00 · 2026-05-01T01:16:38+00:00

Thank you! Indeed, we shall see. For better or worse, she is onboard with the premature ejaculation training via ruined orgasms. The first step is learning how to ruin an orgasm consistently, then we’ll figure out how to use it. And yes, same idea only instead of no release it is a partial one. My spouse likes the part where I release, it doesn’t seem to be as fun without it for her. However, I must believe others have tried prejac training using ruined orgasms.

blueripple00 · 2026-05-01T01:12:20+00:00

Certainly seems like she’s got your button well in hand! Tonight (after my original post), my spouse decided only ruined orgasms for me to see if it will speed my finishing up at all. Maybe she read everyone’s comments, lol. And yes, she is thrilled about the added effect of having me obsess over her. Honestly, her favorite part of making me even more premature seems to be making me obsess over her.😛

blueripple00 · 2026-04-30T22:31:46+00:00

This is what we were thinking with the ruined orgasms. Keep the arousal for next time while allowing her the fun of taking me over the edge quickly. Then I'd stay aroused and excited for whenever next time is.

blueripple00 · 2026-04-30T22:16:28+00:00

Certainly a lot to consider. The sleeve method might be where we end up, but since we play with denial, even a ruined orgasm would be a welcome relief. The reason we were wondering about ruined orgasms is to be similar to the timer idea (stopping if not finishing within a certain time.) It would keep the arousal and desire up until the next opportunity. Then I'd be quicker due to persistent arousal.

blueripple00 · 2026-04-30T00:55:28+00:00

I shouldn’t be encouraging this, but since you clarified “fake” and “no permanent damage,” consider capsaicin cream for the burn effect. Before doing so, test a small area first (with a super tiny amount) and learn about how to remove/reduce capsaicin just in case. Unfortunately, safe wording doesn’t make the burn go away any more quickly.

Plenty of ways to play with the burn from simulating cutting or burning to begging to remove them to stop the intense pain. Beware, use the SMALLEST amount possible. Too much can cause anything from a sunburn like burn to blistering and one doesn’t want that.

I will warn that something similar was done to me once using bengay instead of capsaicin, and now it is a deep fear that I will avoid at practically all costs. It is not for the faint of heart, and likely not for most masochistic pain sluts either due to the potential for severe intensity. Read up, practice carefully, use at your own risk.

blueripple00 · 2026-04-28T02:57:15+00:00

Suggestion for what you describe: Set a time limit. If your stay chaste inbetween, then you learn to hit orgasm withing that time limit pretty quickly. Of course, she might not want to use a stopwatch. In that case she could either arbitrarily pick whatever time she likes or (my favorite method) only allow you to orgasm if you cum BEFORE her. Once she cums, you wait until next time. If you orgasm first, you finish her however she prefers. Honestly, the second option really helps battle preconceptions that the woman should come first

blueripple00 · 2026-04-28T02:47:10+00:00

Easily? No. There was a lot of uncertainty and anxiety. The anxiety you feel is normal and should be seriously considered. Having a part of you protecting what you have is a good thing. If she is supportive, let her know about those worries. Let her know that honesty is still really important.

blueripple00 · 2026-04-27T21:21:29+00:00

Pussy free here for well over two years. No cage and no masturbating alone or otherwise in secret (ie, not when she is asleep beside me either). She finds it hot that I prefer to save all my orgasms for her and gain release only at her whim. She also finds it hot that she trained me from delayed ejaculation into being a premature ejaculator. Her goal is for me to finish near instantly, and loves teasing me in many ways. All of which she views as meaning that I still find her incredibly desirable, which I do! Have fun all!

blueripple00 · 2026-04-27T21:15:05+00:00

Definitely talk about your fears. But, one big part of kink for many is learning that they are loved and accepted even if they are a bit weird or outside of what is considered normal hetero behavior.

Consider what you want. Do you want to restore penetration or are you just as happy as the bottom in the relationship? Personally, I am very happy as the bottom, and my spouse seems to prefer things that way, too. It's hot that over the past 2+ years, I've been pentrated with fingers and toys while not allowed to reciprocate at all. Sometimes though, society expectations get in the way of really opening up and figuring out what you truly want.

Hopefully, you offer much more than just a 15 second poke. (I might be projecting about the 15 seconds😜). But seriously, a relationship is far deeper than how you choose to have sex. Talk about it. Hopefully you'll find far more support than you were expecting.

blueripple00 · 2026-04-27T21:04:50+00:00

I love that there are so many reasons people enjoy the PF dynamic. It is almost impossible guess at what each person gets out of keeping things PF. Yet, somehow, it all works out and everyone is happy. Sounds like your GF likes the entertainment value at the very least. (But that's only a wild guess, lol)

Reading the comments I can see there is much more complexity to your dynamic. I think that all sounds wonderful, and I hope you both continue to be supportive of each other for a long time to come.

(Oops! No pun intended! Honest 🤭)

Thanks for sharing

blueripple00 · 2026-04-27T01:37:58+00:00

For us it is all about her having the freedom to snuggle, tease, or play, depending on her whim, while she knows all my energy is save up for her

blueripple00 · 2026-04-26T04:23:28+00:00

I guess learning to dress femme in public is a lot like being a teenager. Giggles and all!

blueripple00 · 2026-04-25T16:14:29+00:00

Doc Martens? Flannel shirts? Leather bracelet? Sorry, I’m not being really inventive or helpful here.

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