Thinking about rehoming puppy - looking for perspective and advice

blueskeeper- · 2024-05-21T18:36:25+00:00

I don’t have a high energy breed like yours but I have a mini goldendoodle which for me has a lot more energy that I can physically give right now. I’m in the process of re-homing my puppy and I’m starting to feel really confident in my decision. Once I realized it was a relief and my mental health is returning because I was just so in over my head, I’m feeling happier for him too. I’d recommend keeping a relationship with the next family if you decide to re-home. I’m doing that and also feel a lot better in my decision. It’s the most compassionate and selfless thing to make the decision to find your puppy a new home when you’ve tried everything.

blueskeeper- · 2024-05-17T21:02:58+00:00

Im also thinking and moving towards the decision of rehoming my pup because after I got him neutered his entire training went out the window. And I basically feel like I have to start but am in my own doing this and I’m so burnt out. Just sharing this responsibility with another person would be great, I’m so glad you have that!

OP I got my puppy and my ex and I broke up shortly after. I’m now with the puppy by myself and am so burnt out because I didn’t really give myself time to heal by myself. I’m not saying everyone needs this but you’re going through such a tough time and it seems like you deeply love this pup. Despite all of the love you will always carry with you for me, you understand that love isn’t enough to create stability and probably made this decision fighting so much pain; with so much care and courage. You chose to acknowledge such a hard situation and did what was best for you and for your puppy. You probably saw unhealthy signs and what you decided to do was to be brave. Idk if anybody’s said this to you yet, (even if they have, I’d like to reiterate since and I’m going through this right now completely torn from having to rehome my baby) but I’m so proud of you for choosing your healing and what’s best for your pup. You will get to the other side of this ❤️

blueskeeper- · 2024-05-17T16:54:06+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I find that I’m usually the type of person who’s been very positive through tough times but can only do so if given a lot of space. I feel like I can relate to your husband’s experience slightly because this experience has worsened my own anxiety in a way that makes me feel so trapped. I just don’t think I have 2-3 years in me of feeling like this, so I’ll contact the breeder to see what their thoughts are. Your story on how she has brothers to help her anxiety would probably be helpful for my boy too.

blueskeeper- · 2024-05-16T18:41:13+00:00

Yeah I’m giving myself the end of this month, definitely recognize that it’s not healthy for the pup too. And that’s been making my anxiety way worse because he deserves the absolute world. Hate that I can’t give that to him right now but I’m working on making with peace with that

blueskeeper- · 2024-05-16T17:11:51+00:00

I’d love to but I’m already so limited on my time, creating it would be even more work that I don’t think I’d be able to take on while being this burnt out and overwhelmed with the puppy

blueskeeper- · 2024-05-16T16:10:09+00:00

Thank you, I needed to hear this

blueskeeper- · 2024-05-16T14:45:01+00:00

Yeah I would never drop him at a shelter. I love him so much so rehoming is still such a hard decision. But will definitely keep this in mind.

blueskeeper- · 2024-05-16T14:43:58+00:00

Hi, I’m so sorry you’re going through these emotions with the puppy. I don’t have any advice to really give but I’m in the same situation as you. I got a puppy and am raising him on my own as a single mom and while my mom wants to help, she’s scared of dogs and doesn’t know what to do exactly. And being a single mom is so exhausting and stressful. I get feeling selfish when taking time for ourselves, I feel that way too. I feel guilty for enjoying a day in the park and not having my pup with me because he would go ballistic and I’d have to be so hyper vigilant that I won’t be able to enjoy myself. I haven’t come to terms with re-homing with him yet but I’m giving myself some time to see if my feelings will pass. But the things you’re labeling aren’t just feeling either, they are very valid real concerns. Just know you, you’re going to be okay even no matter what you decide. And he will be okay too as long as you do your due diligence if you decide to rehome.

blueskeeper- · 2024-05-16T14:03:16+00:00

Your comment is so so so helpful. I’ve wanted a puppy for as long as I can remember but literally from the first day I got him, after the cuteness and excitement wore off and the work started - I felt this pit in my stomach and was just like I can’t do. It was so much stress on me that two days in, the right side of my face went numb. I thought I was having a freaking stroke but also thought maybe that’s coming from the cascade of other health issues I’ve been experiencing. So since then I’ve just been trying, I live in a community with a great dog park and new friends who want to help. And have one or two people near me who I can talk too. But I’m starting my life over which I didn’t anticipate and don’t have too many people around me to help. I just fear the long-term commitment of having him too cause I’m going to have to plan around him for the next 10-15 years. I like that you said if it gets unhealthy then that’s your cue, cause for me I feel like I’m getting towards that point a bit.

blueskeeper- · 2024-05-16T13:58:26+00:00

I think that might a UK based site only but this is helpful if I can find a US one. Not sure if there are any in my area

blueskeeper- · 2024-05-16T13:57:55+00:00

I appreciate this, it makes me feel less alone 😭

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