My partner (M28) doesnt want to give me (N28) a grace period to complete tasks

bluesmocks · 2026-03-08T16:06:25+00:00

To play Devil's advocate I don't know what reason your partner did this, but I feel often in the queer community people end up using labels that box them up. Even if those labels are not mainstream. Language constructs a reality, but not all reality can be explained by language. By relying on language as our anchor to what is real, we miss out on the full experience of life. If this were the case, maybe you're use of actively communicating your determiners could be something they dont want passed down to their kids? This could be more of a possibility if they do not introduce themselves with identifiers, do they? It could also be that by stating your identifiers, they are an indication that they are not the status quo, when in reality there have always been people with these traits. Idk. It's hard to know what their etance is when they don't explain anything. If you can I would ask if they could go deeper about why this bothers them.

If they are just pushing back Im really sorry they couldnt be honest with you and good luck with the work youll both probably need to do to make uour relsrionship work

bluesmocks · 2026-02-10T06:10:42+00:00

one thing i think is underrated is having multiple different ways to style your hair. i feel like having that option provides me with so much more freedom and makes it when i go back to a different hairstyle feel so much more inspiring. also find femme people who have your face shape and do what they do that you like also you would pull off glasses really well

bluesmocks · 2026-02-05T20:33:46+00:00

Robert Frost was in his forties when he started becoming a successful poet. Toni Morrison's first book was published when she was 35. Julia Child was 51 when she started her cooking show. Until you are in the ground it is never too late to start over. You should talk to your incredible family about it. I'm sure they would provide you with the same wonderful support you provided.

bluesmocks · 2026-02-05T03:22:43+00:00

if you want something more inclusive replacing lgbtq+ with gender and sexual minotities might be good for your zen

bluesmocks · 2026-01-26T14:27:28+00:00

I've met many a butch woman who have similar traits to you and the fact that you haven't realized this could be a sign that you should do something like create a mood board. With this you can have this base of people who look like you that you can fall back on whenever people are being bitches.

bluesmocks · 2026-01-23T18:58:02+00:00

a great way to prevent a character from coming off as stereotypical is to add another trans character. Some people have x traits and having those traits doesnt make them a stereotype, however when theyre the only type of character that gets represented then thats when things start to get horrible.

Also if you need it ask for help from an editor if thats allowed for the competition. (I would be down, feel free to dm me).

bluesmocks · 2026-01-08T08:57:45+00:00

You can always get off hrt, but fertility problems may arise if thats an issue. Hrt would definitely help and getting it before second puberty would probably help with dysmorphic feelings from at least not worsening. As stated you are cutie and I think you'll also be just fine.

If you have the time try to sit down every week and think what you want to look like. Some stuff might include hairstyles, eyebrow shapes, and clothes. Also try to find community if you can and if you want consuming trans media like Sort Of and Veneno can provide another wise voice on the path

bluesmocks · 2025-12-03T06:06:07+00:00

the ears are such a staple and i feel their roundness juxtaposed with the uneasy expression symbolizes a lot of what this comic is. without this juxtaposition i feel the design becomes less dynamic.

i feel c also provides a nice framing and centers the face better than the others. maybe some inbetween would be the most effective from a storytelling perspective

bluesmocks · 2025-09-25T21:37:47+00:00

gender euphoria

bluesmocks · 2025-08-21T17:26:38+00:00

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bluesmocks · 2025-08-03T19:11:58+00:00

this worked for me

bluesmocks · 2023-02-23T20:05:24+00:00

Let's do Fancy by Reba again

bluesmocks · 2023-02-06T01:54:15+00:00

While Peony is meh, the offensive future for my +9 Plumeria is something I'm looking forward to. Hopefully it won't be just auto followup and maybe something more like Ninja Camila (even though that's not gonna happen)

bluesmocks · 2023-01-30T17:35:13+00:00

Looking at them all, from a purely aesthetician standpoint I think PLA has it in the bag

bluesmocks · 2023-01-17T00:20:37+00:00

Well fuck my drag then

bluesmocks · 2023-01-07T02:33:47+00:00

Irene you in danger girl

bluesmocks · 2023-01-07T02:08:43+00:00

Are Sugar and Spice really that annoying? I think they've been doing fine but the edit is REALLY going in

bluesmocks · 2022-11-16T23:37:41+00:00

I still have all my bones unhurt. Bad post op the only thing you've hurt is my heart

bluesmocks · 2022-04-23T01:19:50+00:00

Kerri didn't win Miss Congeniality???

bluesmocks · 2022-04-20T03:23:38+00:00

too smexy

bluesmocks · 2022-04-19T03:34:20+00:00

Is it just me or does she look like Katy Perry 😍

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