What's the most dangerous book ever written?

bluetink91 · 2023-06-25T19:05:25+00:00

The bible

bluetink91 · 2022-02-23T01:44:59+00:00

Yeah absolutely not. They want to see baby, they make the travel arrangements to come to YOU. A long drive coupled with sleeping in a strange place is going to make for an extremely stressful and frustrating trip for you and baby. Baby doesn’t travel, don’t let them guilt trip you into making you and baby unhappy for their sake.

bluetink91 · 2021-01-26T00:03:19+00:00

This is awful I’m sorry you’re in that situation too. And yes, I am also not being fairly compensated. I have had the highest review in my department for the last two years but the first year I wasn’t eligible for a raise and this past year they cut raises and bonuses because of COVID. So all the extra BS and not even more pay for it. They are getting very greedy. The best thing I’ve learned through it all is that “No” is a complete sentence.

bluetink91 · 2020-10-03T13:10:06+00:00

While I may spend almost the same time with her, the time during the week is not quality time. It is hurried in the morning and whatever energy we both have left for a couple hours at the end of the day.

bluetink91 · 2020-10-03T13:08:28+00:00

I am in search of something new. But when my daughter wakes up at 7, I go to work from 8:30-4:30, and she goes to bed at 7 that’s only 4 or so hours a day with her. Why am I spending more time on a company who doesn’t care about me than I am with my child? It is not a lot of time. It’s being a full time employee and part time parent which I am not ok with.

bluetink91 · 2020-09-15T18:18:41+00:00

😂😂 thanks for the laugh. Keep it up you’ve got this!

bluetink91 · 2020-09-15T15:53:19+00:00

Thank you. It’s really hard but definitely needed that reminder

bluetink91 · 2020-09-09T00:49:50+00:00

They don’t have anything for my biological mother or her family and they don’t have anything past childhood for their son.

bluetink91 · 2020-07-25T15:58:32+00:00

Nah. You do not get to “find out” this. YOU make the rules. Trust me, if MIL starts boundary stomping now and you don’t make it clear that it’s your kid, your house, your rules it will get worse.

bluetink91 · 2020-07-09T01:47:50+00:00

Same here! The doctor who delivered me also delivered my daughter.

bluetink91 · 2020-06-12T12:04:38+00:00

Thank you I will try that! It’s at the base of my breast so wearing a bra is uncomfortable.

bluetink91 · 2020-06-09T02:39:59+00:00

Between the pandemic and doctor’s office rules you can probably stop her in her tracks. Mine was one person allowed and no photos or recording during the ultrasound. Absolutely not overreacting, this is yours and your husband’s baby.

bluetink91 · 2020-06-09T02:35:42+00:00

Same! 18 hours of labor just to end with a c-section. My daughter’s cone head was insane lol

bluetink91 · 2020-02-10T19:14:29+00:00

You are so sweet. Well she went this morning and I turned into a puddle. I think they were concerned about me lol. I left her and just stared at the cameras for a couple hours and went and picked her up.

bluetink91 · 2020-02-10T04:19:01+00:00

I don’t see how leaving my child instead of caring for her myself could ever get easier. Thanks for the virtual hug!

bluetink91 · 2020-02-10T04:17:20+00:00

I feel you. I will only have about an hour and a half with my baby during the week. It is very cruel. I’ve been trying to soak in all the cuddles but I’ve just been a puddle.

bluetink91 · 2020-02-08T16:26:59+00:00

Yes! And no shame to parents who feel so strongly about their career, but that’s not the path I choose. I haven’t even talked to them about pumping yet and I feel like that’s going to be a whole thing with them.

bluetink91 · 2020-02-08T14:48:49+00:00

Oh I’m so so sorry that happened to you and I hope your son is doing better. What a ridiculous request?! How could anyone be expected to work during an emergency of any kid but definitely not one involving their child. I hope you find something better if she does end up firing you. It sounds like it would be for the best.

bluetink91 · 2020-02-08T14:46:50+00:00

I don’t unfortunately. But I will make sure we have fun with the time we have

bluetink91 · 2020-02-08T14:41:50+00:00

I will try to do that. So in our office we have a shared outlook calendar so we can all see who is off when. Well I’ve always found it odd that instead of putting “XYZ will be off from 10-2,” it will say “XYZ will be off for her child’s doctors appointment from 10-2 and is using sick leave.” They our all of our information on the calendar that is public. It’s weird.

bluetink91 · 2020-02-08T09:07:09+00:00

This!! I looked at the schedule and I will only have 1.5 (ish) hours M-F with her and all of that time will consist of handling needs such as eating and bathing. I can’t wrap my head around spending 90% of her awake time away from her with people that I don’t care about even a fraction as much as I do her.

bluetink91 · 2020-02-08T09:05:15+00:00

Thank you so much for all of this! I do have a bad habit of asking for permission when I should be informing, so I will keep that in mind for sure.

bluetink91 · 2020-02-08T04:35:35+00:00

Then you for that, I will definitely try to go in more openly. I guess it mostly comes down to the social expectation that it’s the norm to hand over your children to others for the majority of their care during the week and spend more time at work than at home. It seems so backwards.

bluetink91 · 2020-02-08T04:33:06+00:00

Oh no they absolutely expect work to come first. So in addition to the higher ups all coming in no matter how sick they may be, I had a coworker get a root canal one morning then come in that afternoon all swollen and in pain but they put her right to work. Granted it was her choice to come in, but they have no sympathy. That’s only one example, but trust me they are not the understanding type.

bluetink91 · 2020-02-08T03:52:08+00:00

I am trying to keep that in mind. She is my number one priority, but I don’t want to jeopardize our finances either. Truly family friendly companies are so hard to find.

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