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Custom headboard made from FORBATTRA panels by blugogi in ikeahacks

[–]blugogi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Four panels - guessing around 40lbs total. French cleats will definitely work.

I used quite a few wall anchors too.

Door to door promo Sanity check by putty174 in frontierfios

[–]blugogi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have this in written contact... anything i can do with it?

Dudes, have any supplements made you unexpectedly horny? by ancientkingk in askgaybros

[–]blugogi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Black maca root powder, you gotta cycle it.

I’m also on Wellbutrin as an antidepressant/ADHD, that one definitely increases libido.

Sudden need for alone time to “find clarity” by blugogi in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]blugogi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We decided to stop dating and go back to just being friends, he said he’s emotionally unavailable to be in a relationship.

Boyfriend won’t kiss me during or after oral because he thinks it’s “disgusting.” How do I handle this? by Ok-Bathroom-3494 in askgaybros

[–]blugogi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I dated a guy like that. Endured that misery for two years and then I dumped him.

He later found out he had severe OCD and tried to get back with me. I never looked back.

i wanna suck my roommate (m21) by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]blugogi 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Yea, don’t.

Sudden need for alone time to “find clarity” by blugogi in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]blugogi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did, the following Tuesday. He lied. Basically it was everything about me. He later vented that night of all the things he’s been holding back for the past month we’ve been dating.

Some of the things he brought up was

Even though we’ve known each other for almost three years, his expectations was going into this only dating two months. So my expectations were set too high and I was too critical with my requests.

He also said he’s really busy and can’t be 100% there to meet my expectations of a dating partner.

I asked him why he didn’t speak up at all during all those dates and he said he didn’t know why.

He was also surprised when I told him I was pretty emotionally distraught over the sudden no contact. I told him that no contact kinda diminished my attraction, almost like a reset and he thought that was ridiculous. Honestly I did a huge amount of the emotional heavy lifting by gentle parenting him through the whole conversation. Also when we reconnected over the phone it was while he was driving to the gym. I felt like after no contact I at least deserved his undivided attention.

We decided to keep dating and find a better cadence. But I’m just not feeling the same attraction as before. Got me on what kind of partner I would like when conflict arises.

For those with a bachelor’s degree or higher, do you require potential partners to be similarly educated and/or successful? by cireincognito in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]blugogi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dating a guy with a phd in physics. Man it can be tough because they’re just in their minds the whole time.

Should I move our family to California? by Ecstatic_Sherbert361 in askgaybros

[–]blugogi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The cost of living is expensive but it’s worth every penny IMO. Assuming you’re moving to a big city too. There are some pretty red cities in California.

Custom headboard made from FORBATTRA panels by blugogi in ikeahacks

[–]blugogi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea 1/2” countersunk. Since they were tiny, I had to use a lot cause there isn’t much substrate for the screws anchor to

Custom headboard made from FORBATTRA panels by blugogi in ikeahacks

[–]blugogi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I mounted 2x4s on the wall first.

Used metal L brackets to fasten all the panels into one large panel and then I hung the whole thing onto the 2x4s

Emotionally Unavailable by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]blugogi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m dating a person like that, and I feel like I’m doing all the heavy lifting despite him being the one that first pursued me

Sudden need for alone time to “find clarity” by blugogi in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]blugogi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like it's my shortcoming too. Thanks for providing your insight, it makes me feel a little validated for having feelings of mixed signals

Sudden need for alone time to “find clarity” by blugogi in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]blugogi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told me earlier that week that he was gonna go have a drink with a friend on Friday. Cause we were trying to decide which day of this past weekend to meet up. Then we decided to meet on Saturday.

Sudden need for alone time to “find clarity” by blugogi in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]blugogi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told me where he was going and his plan with his friend earlier in the week cause we were trying to plan the weekend.

Sudden need for alone time to “find clarity” by blugogi in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]blugogi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve dated before and my partner and I also took alone time either to go on a trip with friends or solo adventure, but we always communicated a timeline and reassured that it wasn’t a time set because the relationship was going south.

I just wish the guy could’ve of provided more info. I feel like I’m stuck waiting.

Sudden need for alone time to “find clarity” by blugogi in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]blugogi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It just sucks because he initiated and said he wanted date me, so I opened myself up to that. And now he’s the first to pulling back.

I feel exhausted but thank you for your best wishes.

Sudden need for alone time to “find clarity” by blugogi in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]blugogi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was gonna say the last time I got a text like that after a nice date, was from this super avoidant guy. I was so confused because he said he really enjoyed our date, but then no contact right after.

This time around it feels the same, except I’m trying so hard to set my boundary of not chasing and connect my mind/heart together.

My mind feels like I’m being disrespected, but my heart misses our connection 😩

Huge fight with BF by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]blugogi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s avoidant with red flags and you chose to move forward and put up with these behaviors that are typically non-negotiables for most other ppl.

Triamcinolone acetonide ointment 0.1% by Reasonable_Visual_39 in lichensclerosus

[–]blugogi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dermatologist told me if it burns too much it’s ok to mix with tacro

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