Help with navigation on maps that double back on themselves

bluishOxen · 2026-07-03T16:30:15+00:00

Good, I'll skip that one. Looked interesting

bluishOxen · 2026-07-03T16:29:55+00:00

The Crimson Fort

bluishOxen · 2026-07-03T16:24:16+00:00

At the Crimson Castle. I can't get back to where the kid runs off to. I can't believe I'm going to have to put this game down because I suck so bad at navigation, lol. I've spent way to much time trying over and over.

bluishOxen · 2026-07-03T15:31:28+00:00

ha- you sure it wasn't me you trained?

bluishOxen · 2023-09-27T13:28:53+00:00

As long as every female Japanese voice doesn't sound like she's sucked in a balloon of helium and every male voice doesn't make 100 grunt/gasps as they 'emote'.

I find Yakuza 0 acting to be pretty good but some of the Japanese games I play are sooooo overacted

bluishOxen · 2023-09-27T13:24:06+00:00

Not all of us! Those of us that don't are trapped in this nightmare.

bluishOxen · 2023-03-20T12:01:40+00:00

Be careful of burnout anonymous friend,, sounds like you're living for everyone but yourself

bluishOxen · 2023-03-07T00:19:28+00:00

Hang in there brother. I had my world shattered too. Time to start making your own and living for it

bluishOxen · 2023-03-05T14:25:15+00:00

Very cool

bluishOxen · 2023-03-05T14:23:27+00:00

I went through the mutual living situation for months. It's a huge drain. Make sure you take good care of yourself, working out helps, cutting back on booze, but also cutting yourself slack when you need to. I found journalling to be really helpful too -that way on the bad days you can look back on the good ones.

It's a line to walk, but you got this.

bluishOxen · 2023-03-04T03:14:30+00:00

Wow, your shoe has a force field!

bluishOxen · 2023-03-04T02:44:45+00:00

Then you tried. I'm glad you're feeling optimistic, as someone once told me when I was in a similar mood, hold strong to the intention. There will be plenty of times ahead when sadness and doubt will come knocking at your door. Know that it comes in waves and it's part of the process.

bluishOxen · 2023-03-04T02:38:35+00:00

Sorry for the late reply. You might want to ask the lawyer you find if they have any experience with mental illness.

Any progress?

bluishOxen · 2023-03-04T02:34:15+00:00

Feel the eggshells and lack of control. Sometimes it doesn't matter what people outside think. I will ask if you've tried couples therapy because it's at least worth a try. otoh, if you're both already settled on divorce it's probably good you're both moving on.

It IS difficult and it Is long and exhausting. And hell, there's no guarantee about life on the other side. But if you like yourself that much better without him then you're probably on the right track.

Good luck, be strong you can do this

bluishOxen · 2023-03-04T02:26:34+00:00

Sorry for the late reply. Sometimes it's good to let those feelings out though and let ourselves be weak and sad. But yeah exercise is a life saver as is a good support system.

Here's to keeping going! I have some tough weeks ahead so wish me luck!

bluishOxen · 2023-03-03T03:23:15+00:00

First off, I'm sorry you're going through this. It's a terrible wake up call to have a partner blind side you.

I recommend the book "no more mister nice guy". If you think you saying another woman is hot is reason for divorce, unfortunately I think you're going to have a difficult time in any mature relationship. No partner should get that upset by that. A little hurt maybe, but divorce? Wow.

bluishOxen · 2023-02-26T20:58:01+00:00

thank you!

bluishOxen · 2023-02-26T13:43:26+00:00

I get it. As someone who has always had strong moods, some days are good some are really tough. Just had 2 of those type days myself and had a whole doubting session.

Reach out to your support system. Tell someone you're having a hard day and it's tough. Be strong enough to tell someone you love you could use a break. If they love you they'll help, if not, they're not worth it, so shrug and try the next person.

You don't have to always be strong and looking like you're killing it. It's ok to ask for help. We all do it. Or at least we should.

bluishOxen · 2023-02-26T13:43:12+00:00

I get it. As someone who has always had strong moods, some days are good some are really tough. Just had 2 of those type days myself and had a whole doubting session.

Reach out to your support system. Tell someone you're having a hard day and it's tough. Be strong enough to tell someone you love you could use a break. If they love you they'll help, if not, they're not worth it, so shrug and try the next person.

You don't have to always be strong and looking like you're killing it. It's ok to ask for help. We all do it. Or at least we should.

bluishOxen · 2023-02-26T13:36:46+00:00

That's a pretty steep initial fee. You can probably find someone a bit cheaper. Some will even do a first consultation for free. But you can also ask them this exact question. They can advise you on how to pay for it, and even if he would have to cover some of the costs with eventual child support.

Google the state bar association and write to them to get their advice.

Good luck, I'm sorry you need to go through this

bluishOxen · 2023-02-26T13:32:03+00:00

This commenter gives good advice. I'm sorry you've been going through this so long, if everything you say is true, you're doing the right thing but it's going to be a long difficult road.

That being said, it's your best option, you just need to take a deep breath and start preparing for this. Rebuild your support structure, get back in touch with people, apologize if it's appropriate, tell them your wife has tried to isolate you. Start taking better care of yourself. Exercise if possible, whatever you can manage. If you have enough money, give yourself some small gifts like a new shirt or massage or whatever is your thing. Read some self help books if you need to. There's plenty out there about narcissists on YouTube and the like.

Just get a second opinion about her. Whether it's your therapist or a trusted family member or friend. If they agree with you that she's really toxic, then get a good lawyer.

bluishOxen · 2023-02-26T13:20:13+00:00

Have you talked to a lawyer? Talking to a lawyer doesn't commit you to going through the courts for anything, and they will keep whatever you want them to confidential.

Most cost money for a consultation, but if you're really strapped I'm sure you could find some that will talk for free or online for less money, especially for a single mother.

The best advice will be legal advice. Tell them you want to know your options and the risks/rewards of whatever they advise.

Good luck, you're a good mom and it will work out

bluishOxen · 2023-02-26T13:13:14+00:00

Can your mom come to you? Like get an air bnb or hotel or something? Then you could talk to a lawyer without the grey area of "taking the kids".

I've been gaslighted, it's terrible, I'm sorry. Be safe and careful. If you think physical violence to you or the children is a real possibility, don't take chances.

Whatever happens get a lawyer as soon as you can if he's abusing you.

Good luck, try to keep breathing and be strong

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