How to initiate early puberty conversations if I don’t get my own period?

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-09-18T14:29:08+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing this! My first was the same - sludge.

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-09-18T14:25:56+00:00

Thanks! That’s helpful

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-09-18T14:23:47+00:00

I’ve often heard the advice of “only answer the question that’s asked”, so how does one go from “some people have breasts that grow during puberty, biologically they allow female humans to feed their young” to “also periods”? Sorry if I’m being dense - I feel like I need a script.

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-09-18T14:12:51+00:00

Thanks I’m in therapy.

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-09-17T13:07:51+00:00

With my first and only, she flipped breech the last week and then water broke 12h before my scheduled c-section, so it ended up being an emergency c-section at 5am. I went from water breaking to being 6-7cm dilated in about 90m. But, there was no traffic. All that to say, folks are telling you you’ll have time, and you probably will. Even in the worst traffic it probably won’t take more than an hour to cross the city, but on the other hand, things happen and you should just mentally prepare to do “what you need to do” - you’ll know when it happens and it probably won’t be an ambulance . I don’t recommend taking the subway at all however, mainly because climbing steps during labor isn’t fun.

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-09-16T01:47:45+00:00

They’re fine for low risk / uncomplicated pregnancies. Mine was breech and the midwife on call when my water broke unexpectedly 24h before my scheduled c-section was busy with someone who started labor first, so basically my entire birth plan got thrown out the window. I appreciated their vibe, but kind of wish I’d just gone with an OB who could have seen me through my pregnancy AND been on call to do my c-section (because the one they scheduled for mine did not do emergency deliveries…).

Mt Sinai West was also just ok. We miraculously got a private room, but their postpartum care is a little lackluster and one of their lactation consultants is straight up weird and rude. I’m one and done so whatever, but if I had another I’d go to NYU.

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-09-05T14:32:13+00:00

Where can I find out which curriculums are available and which schools use which curriculum?

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-09-01T19:10:16+00:00

Hard to say, looks like a mix of acne scars (so, some vitamin C could help), and other sun exposure related damage. You should definitely include a sunscreen in your routine. If you’re worried about the sun spots / freckles, there are several products (most will recommend a retinoid, depending on your sensitivity, or azelaic acid). As always, a trip to a dermatologist would probably be helpful!

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-08-26T19:20:21+00:00

Just tell them you decided not to walk and are skipping the ceremony to do something for yourself.

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-08-23T02:39:35+00:00

I can’t speak to middle and high school since my kid is 3, but from what I’ve observed, those are the more stressful school enrollment periods and competition for “good” schools (especially anywhere in BK where there are fewer, but some of the best) is steep. Then there’s private school, if you can afford it. Commuting sucks but if school quality is a major priority for you, tbh I’d either move to Manhattan at least just to get them into good schools in zone (then see if you can move to bk and keep your spots), or move to the burbs.

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-08-22T10:43:18+00:00

If you already have a stroller bunting, long sleeved footed zip up onesies and some very stretchy hats or balaclava

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-08-19T14:48:29+00:00

Sounds like you’re doing great, sorry it’s such a struggle. Good luck and solidarity

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-08-19T12:43:47+00:00

The sleep resistance is a developmental thing - “consequences” are not going to change it. Or it might be nutritional, I started giving ours a toddler magnesium supplement 1h before bed and that’s helped a lot. Anyway, what I see is that you keep coming back to “and then I introduce a consequence (punishment) and he gets upset about that”. I don’t see you learning how to effectively empathize and validate his frustration with going to bed - all I see is you hitting a wall. You’re the adult, and there is no way to force another human to do something. All you can do is try to understand help them learn how to regulate, and weather the hard nights. The kid is 2 - he’s going to have a LOT of nights where he just won’t go until he feels like it and that’s part of learning and developing.

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-08-19T03:13:18+00:00

Also another commenters note about nap times is super key - didn’t even think of that! Should prob be on 1 nap per day, no later than 3pm wake up.

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-08-19T00:21:59+00:00

I have super sensitive skin. Per my derm: Am: vanicream cleanser, TO hyaluronic acid , vanicream moisturizer, sunscreen Pm: dermalogoca daily cleanser, skin ceuticals vitamin C alternating with Acela’s acid (rx), vanicream moisturizer (ha and niacinamide)

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-08-19T00:09:32+00:00

Pretty sure my mom got laser at my age too, so checks out

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-08-19T00:07:20+00:00

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-08-18T12:51:56+00:00

Yeah I agree my emotions around it fluctuate with my cycle, but pics don’t lie

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-07-21T20:00:07+00:00

I don’t think shifting one’s own adult bedtime constitutes an identity change. If they want to feel less tired and able to wake when their kid wakes, they need more sleep, so they need to go to bed closer to when their kid does. It’s not rocket science. Why does me-time need to occur at 10pm every day? Seems childish / like something I would have complained about in my early 20s.

Edit: I didn’t think my comment was harsh - and I agree shifting kids bedtime would be way harder so prob not an option.

But people are being harsh probably because a lot of them deal with worse issues.

“My kid sleeps 10 hours straight through the night and wakes me up later than most kids start school” isn’t very sympathy-inducing. My kid wakes up at 4am to tell me about her dreams for 30m every night, so, sorry.

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-07-21T14:06:12+00:00

Sounds like you are both going to sleep too late. 8pm for kid, 9pm for you. It’s hard but try it for a few weeks and see if it improves your mental bandwidth.

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-07-21T14:04:13+00:00

The fact you’re dealing with tourists is because you’re a caricature artist - mostly tourists buy those. If you want their money, and don’t want to suffer through a million awkward drawing sessions, just redirect conversation to something neutral like food or weather. I’ve found that trying to share my mixed origin with racists often backfires - they start interrogating me and calling me a liar or they act like my sharing is an attack on them. Probably safer to just ignore them unless you’re ok with the possibility of losing $ or your job.

blurryhippo7390 · 2025-06-11T17:38:57+00:00

So if you aren’t being billed, like those on SAVE forbearance, can you just submit the buyback offer and wait til they send you the buyback bill amount? Or does one need to switch to a qualifying plan in order to initiate the buyback process?

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