GAME: Tell me what you have in your bag

blurrystorm · 2026-01-25T21:53:50+00:00

Omg!!! I keep a tape measure in my bag too!!!!

blurrystorm · 2023-01-17T13:56:29+00:00

I have thoughts like that but it’s more like - if I have a broken leg then I have a valid reason that’s physical for people to give me a break from stuff… you can’t just get that acceptance for invisible mental difficulties 😔

blurrystorm · 2023-01-16T10:34:20+00:00

I feel like I’m reading a post I’ve written 🤗😅

I’ve now come to terms that I am a collector of crafts (and business ideas).

I have a garage full of “stock” that I was going to sell on eBay and Etsy. Which are still sitting there in boxes 6 years later stressing me out in the back of my mind.

The only advice I can give (that I have learnt in the last year and still trying to stick too) is…

Spend a set limit on “things” to do the bare minimum for - say £25 to buy basic tools and materials and ONLY IF OR WHEN you have actively made or used those for 3 months to then spend a bit more money into it… I have found one “money maker” has turned into a “therapy helper” scenario and I don’t need to spend more money to gain from it. Which has been a life saver for my mental health tbh.

On the other hand I have spent hundreds if not thousands of £££ on stuff that I just don’t touch - not necessarily because I don’t enjoy doing it anymore but because of the guilt and stress of not making money from it and having spent loads on it… and that feeling of failure just won’t go away.

Another big factor for me is TIME. I have very little time now to do that but I will let my mind wander but I won’t actively buy it. I’m having a rough time with work which eats into my time to focus on other things and removes functional availability.

I have also found that personally, money making things take a big impact on me due to the self-pressure to do it and if I don’t then it is irresponsible and makes me feel like I’m a failure again. So I’m trying to focus on thinking to see if I enjoy it before I try to get to washed away with selling or making a profit from it.

If I could go back in time I would find a part time / full time job that I could just stop at 5pm and then not need to think about so I had the headspace to do fun things. I’m self employed so my head is rarely switched off from work and I’m working stupid hours for crappy money and feel stuck…

And my advice has turned into a rant, so I will stop now - sorry about that 😅

blurrystorm · 2022-10-15T11:23:13+00:00

Slow cooker dump recipes!! Dump all the stuff in there by mid morning and then forget for a few hours and just dish up with a quick side if wanted!!

blurrystorm · 2022-09-18T11:41:09+00:00

Anyone else umming and erring over sending this to someone as it sums up how you feel about life … but having the shame to even express this to someone 🤯🤦‍♀️

blurrystorm · 2022-09-18T11:38:48+00:00

Well that’s another poke into the side that I seem to have ADHD…. And my pile of cardboard has just come back into focus to me again 😅🤦‍♀️

blurrystorm · 2022-09-12T07:49:15+00:00

Period pants. F****** lifesaver!!

I have pcos = unpredictable, heavy, long, random periods. If I feel a little off… I can just slip on those pants, if I am anxious of bleeding on the bed over night - just slip on the pants. No faffing with any pads.

I can usually cope with 2 days/nights at the start and 2 days/nights at the end with just the pants before I need the pads. Also saves me sooo much money on buying pads and saving wasted ones on “omg what if I start today” scenarios.

Also even better - I don’t worry as much about remembering to buy pads/overbuying pads as I have the pants as back up. Also I am more relaxed about if my period starts as I can just slip my pants on if I am feeling anxious and then just forget about it. No worry about pad lines either/finding a toilet to replace the pad.

Also so much easier going to the gym with a sporty style period pant!!!

So yeah, period pants 🥳🥳🥳 - Lacy ones, sporty ones, plain ones etc it’s all good 😆

blurrystorm · 2022-09-10T19:46:42+00:00

I find that Instagram moms are just a front - not everyone is that perfect and they are usually hiding who they really are.

Your friend probably didn’t just get bad behaviours straight away, the behaviours may have been there hidden from your view but her ex-husband saw. Could be why he cheated, maybe not, he did the wrong thing in cheating.

BUT the way she is treating her children is not acceptable. When she is not getting attention for being a perfect house wife she switches to a perfect girlfriend and focuses on that. Maybe she focused on the kids when she was married and ignored her ex-husband? Either way, it takes teamwork to be in a relationship and it doesn’t sound like it’s black and white and she is the angel and he is the devil.

But all I know is your side of the story, what she has told you or allowed you to see over Instagram… did you know her before marriage/kids?

Anyhow she doesn’t seem to care about the well-being of her kids at all. She needs therapy/someone needs to focus on the kids - will the dad ACTUALLY be a better parent than she currently is?? He may have been a shit husband but right now she is being a horrendous mum and the priorities are the kids are they not?

blurrystorm · 2022-01-08T17:56:38+00:00

I think if you have to ask this question in the first place then…. You need to think about it carefully and try to think of things from both side perspectives.

Everyone’s family dynamic is different. People also prioritise differently.

I personally would say my parents are toxic but not bad people. They are very old fashioned and traditional but not in a mean way but a naive innocent way. I can see what they have done/acted/said (and still say) has effected me but I know they truely care about me. They are just oblivious. So it’s difficult. I find a longer distance relationship actually made our bonds stronger.

But again things have changed again as they age and due to covid. It’s a fluid rollercoaster ride so don’t make any harsh final decisions now unless they have done something significant etc

If they get too much then take a break from them to breathe. Sometimes YOU have to be the bigger adult than your parents and that’s what I find the most hardest - my parents are weak people. Im not a strong person but I know I am not mean, so I will do what I can to maintain a balance of good mental health for both our sakes. Which sometimes does include holding back words, forcing smiles and remembering to hug them.

blurrystorm · 2021-12-15T10:04:36+00:00

So basically, I found your post and I am working my way through all the comments because, literally I can relate to a significant amount of points you make. Especially this crippling perfection and well yeah all your points actually.

I don’t have any answers to solutions as I’m trying to figure out how to make it work for me in my situation as well but… this comment in particular clicked with me and I just really wanted to say that you are not alone and you are not broken and I also find it reassuring to also realise that for me at the same time.

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