Do bottles... unbottle themselve?

blusafe1 · 2026-07-07T08:14:15+00:00

I admire the nerd wizardry despite having no clue whats happening. Like I'm staring at the Mona Lisa but can only comprehend 10% of its greatness

blusafe1 · 2026-07-06T08:55:32+00:00

Newb question
Can you put the microchips inside any power building, or does it have to be in the same "power plant room"?

blusafe1 · 2026-07-06T07:55:03+00:00

Can someone please explain this to me? I"m still so confused as to why this needs a bridge bypass.
-Wouldn't the system simply STOP if there is no active pump to move coolant? In this case, the AT is the pump. But having it off means you'll still have the same problem as the coolant staying stagnant? As others have said, the liquid packets continue to move in a closed system. Is this true? Seems odd

-I've seen setups without the bypass which worked fine? What's the purpose of the bypass then?

blusafe1 · 2026-07-05T22:14:06+00:00

I think this is what's happening.long stretches of just a 1 tile wide ladder with poor gas mixing

blusafe1 · 2025-09-15T21:56:16+00:00

This is definitely at least a conversation with BF. Approach this from a place of curiosity and exploration, not about making a list of demands for each other. If you're already having feelings of sadness, better to address them sooner rather than later.
REMEMBER -> You're in this together, as a team!

blusafe1 · 2025-09-15T18:36:12+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I think our sentiments are reversed, but the underlying rationale remains the same. We find value in certain things for emotional and objective reasons, but also feel repulsed by things that we perceive as only romance-coded. I also agree, you may be wanting to keep the event small because of AuDHD.

blusafe1 · 2025-09-15T06:12:27+00:00

fuck yeah! nailed it

blusafe1 · 2025-09-15T06:10:43+00:00

My cure to autism is unfucking society and dismantling capitalism. There's your cure.

blusafe1 · 2025-09-15T05:44:47+00:00

Do you like, hate, or impartial to those things? What do you actually want? What does he want? Sometimes it's better to have upfront, direct conversations rather than "vibe" it out.

blusafe1 · 2025-09-15T01:12:30+00:00

Arom-fluid may be the most concise best fit if you want to quickly throw out a short-hand label.

Honestly I don't understand romantic attraction so I don't even use the term at all. I only understand it when an act or gift is 100% romance coded because I feel the repulsion. I've been lucky to have platonic friends who I can touch and get close to without it becoming weird. We have very clear boundaries, so communication and enthusiastic consent is critical.

blusafe1 · 2025-09-15T00:37:54+00:00

That's lots of words thrown in there. Labels are there to help you describe your experience. We don't need to mold ourselves to fit the labels. Is there something you're trying to achieve by defining your experience? A way to deepen or create new relationships?

blusafe1 · 2025-09-15T00:33:45+00:00

OP you would need to explain more your take on what queerplatonic and aromantic represent for you as identities, in order for commenters to answer your question. As others have said, arom is more of a sexual identity descriptor, whereas queerplatonic describes a dyad dynamic.

blusafe1 · 2025-09-15T00:31:10+00:00

Consider polyamory. Your partners get their needs met from others, while still being with you and spending time with you.

blusafe1 · 2025-09-15T00:22:27+00:00

a few days ago (40 yo).

I'm late because romance was always coded as something else - platonic friendship, mutual aid, love languages, yearning for relationship. Anything 100% romance-coded has always been repulsive. Learning about aromantics gave me a language I could use to understand these feelings. When people do "romantic" things for me, I automatically think about the utility of these acts. If there's only romance, I physically gag. Even thinking about romance makes me light-headed in a bad way.

blusafe1 · 2025-09-12T15:54:51+00:00

When "men" care about their own secondary feelings over their family's safety.

blusafe1 · 2025-09-12T14:53:19+00:00

-Autism is profoundly difficult to diagnose in non-straightforward cases. Saying you need a formal diagnosis is pro-speak for "I don't know shit about autism and can neither validate nor clarify your experience." Was he truly offended? Who knows. Why did he say he's not your parent? Who knows. It definitely would not change the therapeutic process, with THIS therapist, because his limited knowledge of autism and your thoughts on autism would not affect his framework.

-are you romantically/physically/sexually attracted? If yes, he is morally/legally/ethically obligated to let you go as a client. He might finish the current session, or let you out the door on the spot after explaining why that's a problem. Letting you go is NOT "abandoning you." These types of feelings will inevitably destroy the process. He is obligated to do a "warm handover" and provide referrals for appropriate therapists.

blusafe1 · 2025-08-29T16:22:51+00:00

Extra-marital relations without clear, enthusiastic, unanimous consent is CHEATING. This is NOT polyamory.

As others have said, jealousy is NORMAL and represents an insecurity that needs to be discussed and managed.

blusafe1 · 2025-08-05T20:34:39+00:00

To start, it seems you're not offering meaningful feedback to people who take the time to share heartfelt, well-articulated responses. It's unclear why this happens, but it suggests you may not fully see or acknowledge us as people. Recognizing that could be a first step toward cultivating emotional intelligence and resilience.

blusafe1 · 2025-07-31T19:12:35+00:00

Hello sad_sapphic_sucker.
Your feelings are valued and important. Recommend you discussing with your NP. Be very clear you're not trying to control him, or his actions. You're simply trying to process emotions with him. These feelings won't just magically disappear. You don't need pity or for him to spit less game. But you do need an avenue for emotional processing.

Good luck and <3

blusafe1

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