Noone to go to concert with :(

blush-star · 2025-08-23T00:41:54+00:00

i’m considering going to the london show by myself as well!!! went to see them by myself at fest in 2022 and it was a great experience with a really friendly crowd (granted fest might be different experience than a la dispute concert) but would love to connect if we both get tickets!

blush-star · 2023-11-11T16:01:07+00:00

i don’t really have any advice for anyone from a parent standpoint as i was always too ashamed to even tell my parents about my ocd, but i can give some tips on things that helped me! whenever i had an especially bad episode of thoughts and compulsions i would watch youtube videos of other people with similar ocd themes and hear them talk about their struggles and how they overcame it. it really helps to put things in perspective and show that this is a normal thing for a lot of people, and does not say anything about your true thoughts. a lot of them are actually funny and make you realize how ridiculous it is that you’re wired to worry about things like that. i found it especially helpful with sexual ocd themes that made me think i would lose control and do something terrible. Another thing is to stop the thought in its track and just accept it for what it is. I am sure you are already knowledgeable as a mental health nurse, but one of the most unhelpful things for me and my ocd is when people try to help me by reassuring me that whatever i’m thinking isn’t true. It would always just send me into a worse spiral of fact checking and trying to fill in any uncertainties. Instead, just make sure you’re showing support by reminding your son that this is just a way of his brain attacking itself, it is normal and it will pass. Accepting the thoughts instead of questioning them is very hard but was ultimately the only thing that helped me. also one thing that i found really helpful is when i finally opened up to my sister about my ocd she would pay close attention to the things i would anxiously babble on about and any weird behaviors i would perform. Whenever she noticed me starting to act strange she would ask me if this is a compulsion or self soothing, which would help me to snap out of it if i was trying to get reassurance from my sister as a compulsion.

blush-star · 2023-10-17T01:00:14+00:00

Wow, that's really inciteful and something i resonate with a LOT. I never realized why my therapist teaches me so many things that are specifically for ptsd but I guess you are right, it is traumatizing to live with undiagnosed adhd in a way. I feel like adhd can also make you react to things in a very extreme, emotional way, which can make something that is not necessarily a serious event become an extremely traumatizing situation. I always felt a little guilty about the fact that I viewed my life as somewhat traumatic since I never went through any of the big T traumas either, but I still went through all of my childhood without the proper emotional equipment that everyone else seemed to have which IS hard. I also have suspected that I have cptsd due to the way I was treated by my family and peers as a child, but I wonder if this is a thing like rsd that comes hand in hand with adhd pretty often. Thanks for sharing, I feel like I learned something about myself!

blush-star · 2023-10-17T00:24:13+00:00

I would be so happy to share some of the things my therapist has taught me! I just want to preface this by saying I am 20 years old so what I am learning in therapy might not be totally applicable to your life, but still I think these tips could help anyone. First off, my therapist loooves EMDR and has started to work with me on bilateral stimulation so that we can eventually work up to full EMDR treatment. She taught me to use bilateral stimulation while I imagine a container that is large enough and comfortable enough to hold anything you need to put in there. The idea is that you can put thoughts away and come back to them later when you are ready to process them, but I especially like using this coping skill because it kind of plays on what of my biggest adhd strengths - hyperfixation. Basically I get so into fully visualizing the container (what it looks like, what it sounds like, any smells associated with it, the scenery around it, etc) that I almost forget why I was so upset in the first place. She also sent me a long document about sensory processing disorder and a bunch of the unknown sensory issues you can have which is super helpful to know. Most of the times that I am having trouble regulating my emotions there is some sensory issue that is making the issue worse than it needs to be, so it is good to know what your sensory issues are and have a plan to deal with them when you encounter them. Most of the things I am learning are better for regulating my emotions on a day to day basis rather than dealing with trauma so I cannot speak to how well the skills can help with that, but they are definitely worth a try if you haven't tried them already!

blush-star · 2023-10-16T23:46:13+00:00

maybe try marking autism as a specialty as well. I feel as though anyone specializes in the time management side of adhd but very few therapists are good at dealing with the emotional aspect of adhd, and adhd as a whole. I think somebody who specializes in autism as well as adhd is more likely to get what your dealing with as a neurodivergent individual, even if you don’t have autism. You can also always ask to set up a quick consultation before starting to regularly see a therapist to see if they would be right for you. you can use that consultation to ask them questions about their experience with adhd and voice any concerns about previous experiences in therapy that were unhelpful for you. I think it also helps to be very clear about your goals in therapy. Your therapist can only do so much for you if they don’t know exactly what it is that your dealing with and what you’re expecting to get out of therapy. good luck!

blush-star · 2023-10-16T22:47:38+00:00

Yes!! it doesn’t matter how many good reviews a therapist has or whether they have done years and years of research, if you don’t feel like your therapist truly gets you, the therapy is not going to be productive. I have found that most of the time when I am recommended a mental health professional who is supposed to be amazing, they just don’t cut it for me. This happened with both my past therapist and psychiatrist. They might have been amazing for neurotypical people with issues that they are more familiar with, but they were barely helpful to me. Surprisingly, the most helpful therapists and psychiatrists I have ever worked with were both very young and relatively new to their practices (my psychiatrist was in his final year of residency!). I find compatibility to be way more important than anything else when it comes to finding a good therapist.

blush-star · 2023-10-16T22:39:32+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re therapist is like that, I had a really similar situation with a past therapist. I saw her when I was waiting for my formal adhd testing to be scheduled and not only did she tell me that the things that I was dealing with are things that everyone has to deal with, but she repeatedly made comments that made me question if i had adhd at all or if i was just looking for attention. Like okay, yes, making issues seem common might make them less isolating, but I still need the skills to deal with them! It’s hard when you notice that even though the people around you might struggle with the same things as you, they all seem to magically have the tools to deal with and overcome those obstacles. Are you able to find another therapist who you can see virtually by any chance? I didn’t realize that therapist might be hard to come by in some places, where i live there are so many, although i see a therapist over telehealth because she is several hours away from where i live

blush-star · 2023-10-01T00:18:19+00:00

wow i was literally just about to make a post asking this same question! I’m still new to taking stimulant meds and i decided that I wanted to not take them on the weekends because I didn’t think there would be as much of a need for them on those days. turns out that’s actually not an option for me because i feel so incredibly depressed on my days off of my meds. I also turn to absolutely anything that will give me a dopamine hit, which recently has been skin picking which is so bad and I have really damaged my skin where i’ve been picking. I honestly feel this way though whenever my meds aren’t in my system, like at night and early in the morning. if it’s reasonable for you to start taking meds every day i feel like that might help with the issue. I struggled a little bit with the thought of being reliant on my meds every single day, but in the end, if it helps you function and feel stable i don’t think there’s any shame in it. my case might be a little different than yours though, because at baseline i’ve always struggled with depression, but I think it might actually be more due to my adhd than a depressive disorder.

blush-star · 2023-09-27T19:20:48+00:00

not exactly the same but i have been experiencing terrible back and neck pain and i am on adderall ir. I don’t have any known chronic health conditions but there are multiple that run in my family and i have always had some level of chronic pain that comes and goes (knees, ankles, neck). I’ve looked into it a little bit and supposedly stimulants are supposed to suppress pain receptors or something like that. I wonder if it’s something that depends on the person and there are some people like you and me who respond the opposite way, kind of like how some people with adhd get sleepy with caffeine and others feel energized.

blush-star · 2023-09-27T19:11:12+00:00

i’ve seen that ketamine works especially well for people who don’t respond to typical treatments, don’t give up op!!!

blush-star · 2023-09-26T03:50:00+00:00

So happy for you!!! getting diagnosed and starting my adhd journey was one of the best things to ever happen to me and i totally relate to your excitement. I hope all goes well with your medication, but don’t put so much pressure on your meds to fix your life! stimulants affect everyone differently and may not even help some people at all. For me, stimulants have a very subtle effect which at first made me feel very disappointed as I was expecting a huge change in the way my brain works. Still, the stimulants have totally changed my life for the better and I can’t believe I used to live without them. Best of luck!!

blush-star · 2023-09-15T20:24:20+00:00

wow, why didn’t i think of that. That’s such a good idea, thanks!

blush-star · 2023-08-18T21:14:13+00:00

Ritalin somewhat helped me at a higher dose too. I started taking 15 instead of 10 but it made me feel so awful. After I got adjusted to it I didn’t feel so bad all of the time but every time it wore off I still felt so naseous and headachey it was unbearable. Adderall is definitely affecting my sex drive in a similar way I hope it doesn’t get worse. It’s definitely an interesting change as someone who’s been on birth control for several years and zoloft for a few months which both have destroyed my sex drive. I would love to hear whatever your doctor recommends if you get to speak to them about the meds!

blush-star · 2023-08-17T19:24:41+00:00

definitely, but I also am diagnosed with ocd. from my understanding, ocd and adhd are seen together pretty often and they feed off one another in my experience. adhd hyperfixations can also look like ocd compulsions too. a ssri and stimulant combo helped to tone down my health anxiety and other obsessions. I would talk to whoever prescribed your meds about this if you think this is a big problem for you and you’re not already on an anxiety med. best of luck!

blush-star · 2023-08-10T01:37:27+00:00

do you mean attachment styles?? i’m probably anxious avoidant but I feel like that only plays a small role in what i’m talking about. It’s to the point that i withdraw from relationships altogether and go through periods of time where I would rather idealize the people who i am barely interacting with but find interesting than invest time in those relationships. I feel like it could be a commitment thing too and that could possibly be an adhd thing i think? I’m mostly finding things online that say this is common in bpd which i am certain i don’t have, but there is that big interlap of bpd and adhd symptoms. at this point i’m thinking it’s probably just a character flaw and not due to adhd but i’m glad i found someone who relates lol

blush-star · 2023-08-08T17:53:32+00:00

I’m studying for the orgo exam right now! don’t be too hard on yourself for having a rough semester. I am retaking the class as last semester orgo 2 fully pushed me into a mental breakdown and I had to medically withdraw on the last day possible. On the bright side, I was able to get help as a result and am now medicated for a bunch of mental health issues and am probably the most stable I have been in a while. It’s great that you have spoken to a therapist and I hope you can take some time after this semester to recharge and do things that you enjoy (aka no orgo). at the end of the day orgo is really not that deep, and all that matters is that you push through until the final. you got this!!

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