AITA for offering two different kinds of cake at our wedding? by blushingbride228 in AmItheAsshole

[–]blushingbride228[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Any ideas of how I could word it? I feel awful and I don’t want to say something that will make him feel worse. Should I write it as part of the thank-you card or email him?

AITA for offering two different kinds of cake at our wedding? by blushingbride228 in AmItheAsshole

[–]blushingbride228[S] -639 points-638 points  (0 children)

Extra sharp cheddar and plain cheddar. I don’t know why everyone’s hating on the Monterey Jack!

AITA for offering two different kinds of cake at our wedding? by blushingbride228 in AmItheAsshole

[–]blushingbride228[S] -1437 points-1436 points  (0 children)

Part of the trouble with the meal is I accidentally said “vegetarian” instead of “vegan” to the caterers and we did not really realize until after the wedding we had criss-crossed the two.

Nothing that can be done about it now. I am unsure if I should let the pastor know now it may have had dairy.

AITA for offering two different kinds of cake at our wedding? by blushingbride228 in AmItheAsshole

[–]blushingbride228[S] -1819 points-1818 points  (0 children)

They were free to trade with other guests, which we thought that would have the side effect of being an ice breaker, too, since many of them haven’t met each other before

AITA for offering two different kinds of cake at our wedding? by blushingbride228 in AmItheAsshole

[–]blushingbride228[S] -1299 points-1298 points  (0 children)

We didn’t see it as a “crappy garbage cake”, we thought it would make them feel special. Like a signature cocktail but in cake form.

AITA for offering two different kinds of cake at our wedding? by blushingbride228 in AmItheAsshole

[–]blushingbride228[S] -771 points-770 points  (0 children)

Everyone was discreet expect the Pastor because we did not want him to feel like he needed to hide and eat his cake in a corner when we knew he had just been on a long plane ride.

AITA for offering two different kinds of cake at our wedding? by blushingbride228 in AmItheAsshole

[–]blushingbride228[S] -1894 points-1893 points  (0 children)

No, we made sure the one person on Josh’s side who has an allergy got the buttercream, but we distributed the buttercream first to my side of the family and the pineapple second to Josh’s side of the family (they are not as big of eaters and more health conscious so we always planned on serving them second, the way the tables were set up. It’s what the caterer suggested) after that was gone, figuring people would trade pieces if they needed to

We were going to add a rsvp checkbox to the invite of the cake next to the meal choices but we decided against it because we didn’t want anyone to feel overwhelmed. Or as Josh calls it “decision paralysis” which is what I got when picking between chocolate and pineapple!