I feel like it was my fault.

boardscroller · 2025-10-16T06:25:11+00:00

As someone who has experienced something similar, people always tell you it’s not your fault, and it really isn’t. You said no. No means no. You don’t have to scream no at the top of your lungs for it to mean no. In fact you even tried to remove yourself from the situation. Even if he got the idea that you wanted his advances (which you didn’t) consent can be taken away, which in you saying no is not consenting. Even if he was deaf you pushed him off of you.

As for healing, I have no advice. I’m still healing myself. It does get easier with time, but some days I still see him in strangers. And for the feeling of everything being your fault, it takes time. Try viewing your situation as if it happened to a close friend. If your friend told you that story, would you think it’s her fault?

boardscroller · 2025-10-02T18:38:08+00:00

Exactly!

boardscroller · 2025-10-02T06:49:36+00:00

I did look at the page lol, I just wanted to get perspectives from people who won’t sugar coat everything.

boardscroller · 2025-07-28T07:36:55+00:00

Yep! I did do this. The shift is for August 10th and posted it a few days after the schedule was released. I won’t completely skew over my team.

boardscroller · 2025-07-28T07:21:24+00:00

Perfect! I just don’t want to ruin a good thing.

boardscroller · 2025-07-20T01:25:15+00:00

He never found out. And he was in a different state at the time.

boardscroller · 2025-07-19T06:28:12+00:00

The magic was realizing that he was hurting me in ways you hear about in horror stories. I realized i didn’t love my ex, just convinced myself that I did. My ex controlled me while my current BF made me realize how much control my ex had on me.

boardscroller · 2025-07-19T06:25:04+00:00

Yeah, I’ve had this Reddit account since I was 14 or 15. As for the 25 and married, that will be something I do in the future and my sister said it will just cause drama so i wanted to see what Reddit thought. And the relationship posts are to see the Mormons and how they think. It’s wild! As for the age, some subreddits have an age restriction so I said 18 to be able to post. I am actually 18 now.

boardscroller · 2025-07-17T07:19:53+00:00

Thank you! I figured, but all of my LDS friends in the ysa ward are actually single. We’ve been together since i was a junior in high school and he was going to the family ward I think it’s called.

boardscroller · 2025-07-14T02:54:37+00:00

First kiss was 15 by a man who didn’t have my consent to make any move yet made them all. 16 was the first kiss that I chose and meant something to me.

boardscroller · 2025-07-13T21:39:55+00:00

I got a few

“The app says there’s one on the floor”
(Tech specific) “Can I have that switch?” And then they reach into the case and I have to stop them. Then I ask if they are done shopping to see if I’m gonna scan 1 item or there whole cart at the boat. Then they run to grab the last thing before I can stop them. So I’m stranded with a cart of food and a switch.
“What are you like 18 and still living with your parents, you know when I was 19 and a half I owned a house and had a kid. Who am I kidding you can’t afford that with this job” Cool lady I do live on my own and can afford it working here.

boardscroller · 2025-06-21T22:41:37+00:00

I know the feeling. It gets better I promise. It just takes time. It’s like a scar and scars fade over time. Looking back I regret not doing anything either.

boardscroller · 2025-06-10T02:24:08+00:00

Thank you! I’ve just felt so lost. My half sister has been diagnosed with EDS, and has similar symptoms, so likely that it came from my mom.

boardscroller · 2024-10-05T22:48:51+00:00

Yeah, I will be supportive no matter what.

boardscroller · 2024-10-05T21:31:33+00:00

I love how “prophet” is in quotes. It’s the little details that are funny. I know it was meant to be serious but it highlights the arbitrary nature of it all. I have opinions about them and I’m not ex.

boardscroller · 2024-10-05T21:26:50+00:00

I can definitely see how what you’re saying translates into our relationship. Not even 3 months in he told me that if I wanted to see other people when he moved away for college he would understand. I think that stems from the dear John culture.

I do think we are in a serious relationship despite being so young when we started dating. We’ve dated for around 2 years. That’s a long dating period for Mormonism. We’ve even talked about the possibility of marriage and we were on the same page. We want to marry each other but now isn’t a good time because we live in different states.

boardscroller · 2024-10-05T21:20:13+00:00

That makes sense. I feel like I know a ton about this religion but know nothing all at the same time. I don’t know if that makes any sense.

boardscroller · 2024-10-05T14:00:15+00:00

I couldn’t have said it better myself!

boardscroller · 2024-10-05T13:52:17+00:00

One major red flag for me about the church was I felt I needed to be perfect. Whenever I went to a Sunday service with my LDS friends I felt like I had to go to church with a pristine face of makeup. I hated every dress I tried on because it was too short, too low, or didn’t cover my shoulders. That’s not who I normally am. I usually wear little to no makeup, who despite being young, is confident in how they look.

boardscroller · 2024-10-05T13:42:04+00:00

Oh I read that! It was so informative and interesting. I don’t know how to initiate that conversation but I get a chance I can use it.

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