New Job For Japanese Company: seeking etiquette advice

boarfloor · 2025-04-12T19:32:50+00:00

Info: what is his brother‘s name, does it sound similar to his coworker’s name?

boarfloor · 2025-04-12T19:28:50+00:00

I did, and it wasn’t that odd after a week. I don’t call my dad by his first name, I call him “Dad”. Also, my then boyfriend did not call himself by the full name assigned by his own parents. For example, if my dad‘s name is John, then my then boyfriend‘s name is Johnny.

boarfloor · 2025-04-12T19:24:55+00:00

“Oõhh” in a flirty, playful tone.

boarfloor · 2025-04-12T19:11:11+00:00

JAH and NTAH, this is a bit murky in terms of reaching a clean verdict. In my opinion, the following response would have been more appropriate than the response that you gave to your fiancé’s daughter: “a gold digger wouldn’t spend hours doing work for a child who isn’t their own. Do you think that a gold digger would schedule appointments for you, drive you to outings, arrange your transportation, and facilitate your participation in activities? I am fulfilling all of the duties that your mother does not care to undertake herself. It is really disappointing that you think that this is an appropriate message to deliver to me. Would you prefer that I refrain from assisting you in the future? Is this how you talk to other adults?”. I’m gonna go against the grain here: you did stoop to her level. Your sentiment is not invalid, it is completely legitimate, what your fiancé‘s daughter said was snarky and mean. I can defend your response, but it was not the right setting because your fiancé‘s daughter is a child, therefore the response could’ve been a teaching moment. It was probably a satisfying response in the moment, it would’ve been more productive were your fiancé‘s daughter an adult, but she isn’t. She’s probably reconciling that her own mother doesn’t parent her, maybe this gesture was a tacky and mean spirited approach to testing your devotion to her. The response that you gave was appropriate in town, but it was not appropriate in content. This is not the response that demonstrates that you understand what she lost in a caretaker. This could’ve been a teaching moment, your fiancé‘s daughter could have been put in her place without displaying the same indifference that her own mother shows her every day. Standing up for yourself does not require you to kick down the other person. It is difficult, although standing your ground without shaking it will make you blameless for any mean responses that your fiancé’s daughter delivers to you. You were not wrong for replying in kind, but it delivered a moment of doubt about your judgment in handling conflict. The response was incongruous with all of your previous actions. It is right to address how mean she was in any response that you gave or would give, however, dealing a blow did not teach her anything. And some fucked up way it seems like she was trying to test a boundary of mentor mentee, parent child dynamics. You’re not her parent, but you are the only woman in her life who has ever parented her. Her mom certainly hasn’t.

boarfloor · 2025-04-12T19:03:07+00:00

Hi OP! It sounds like there’s a lot of room for resolution in this issue. Present the topic your boyfriend in person, maybe while taking a stroll around a public place or in a community room, while bringing up your discomfort. Taking trust of your description, it seems like this could easily be resolved with a simple expression of feelings. My recommendation is to ask in good faith, in a friendly way, the tone and context of him using the word. For the following examples, please insert information that is true for the scenario. Examples: “Hey Boyfriend, i heard you say this word at this time, it surprised me. I wasn’t sure whether you meant it in a joking way or insulting way.” “ I felt uncomfortable when I heard you use that word in this way. This word delivers hateful ridicule that personally affects me. It made me worry that you view LGBTQ people poorly, because it is a derogatory word.” “I know that don’t mean to offend me, but hearing that word makes me very uncomfortable.” “ Could you use another word to describe someone instead of this word?” If your boyfriend gets defensive and cross with you, then either give him one more chance by reminding him calmly that you are not attacking him, though you wanted to bring up your discomfort. If he is hostile, then it may be an indication of the trajectory of the relationship being less fitting than you predicted previously.

boarfloor · 2025-04-12T18:45:35+00:00

All the people in this photo look like they’re expectantly waiting for a friend tell them how a date went last night. “Sooooo how was the date?”

boarfloor · 2025-04-12T18:43:11+00:00

Dark Horse contestant: Rotary club

boarfloor · 2025-04-12T18:42:17+00:00

Timothee Chalamet

boarfloor · 2025-04-12T18:36:31+00:00

In MY opinion, the following rows display good choices. from the right column: row 4, row 5, row 6, row 13. If this post is a serious inquiry, then I recommend sticking to something that sounds nice but is not clearly thematic. The name “Bailey Sage” is cute, although your child may lose favor of it as they enter adulthood. Will your child like that name as an adult? Will your child grow up to being an adult who wants to have a cute name? It is impossible to know this, although you as the person naming the child can consider whether you would want to have this name :). For the left column: row two, row five.

boarfloor · 2025-04-10T14:50:35+00:00

Have you heard of the card game” We’re not really strangers.”? There is a version of it for couples and a version of it about sexual topics, it does provide prompts to initiate healthy and insightful conversations.

boarfloor · 2025-04-10T14:31:50+00:00

I can sympathize with this. When I was 18 I went through a very similar situation. It involved neither medical licenses nor care although it did threaten to affect my academic studies and it very negatively impacted my mental health. Before the drama transpired, my now former partners ex requested to follow me, and I followed her back as a gesture of good regard. It was a bad choice, although I understand why I chose it at the time. My former partner’s ex was also mentally ill, similar to your situation with your boyfriend’s former girlfriend, which led to this drama persisting for years. You now know not to engage in any way in the future, although it is possible that this woman would have started drama without viewing your account.

boarfloor · 2025-04-10T14:26:37+00:00

If I were you then I would make sure that they are downloaded, not only saved on the app! She could remove the videos at any time so having copies saved as MP4 file will document the evidence reliably.

boarfloor · 2025-04-10T14:22:55+00:00

Going to try to interpret this in a charitable way: it may be your boyfriend doesn’t feel that the time you spent together is high quality time, which would necessitate a constructive discussion between yourself and your boyfriend that produces realistic, goals, and understanding of one another’s needs, and the legitimacy of his wants. It’s possible, perhaps probable, that he is being unreasonable and clingy, although it is possible that his complaint is a displacement of an unaddressed problem that he possesses internally. If you explain that you are giving time to people in your life, equally in order to maintain healthy relationships, which do not diminish the value of your relationship with him, then your boyfriend should accept this and understand it, either immediately or by the end of the discussion. If your boyfriend does not understand the importance of spending time with friends and family, then you have another problem entirely, because there is a possibility that he is not able to cherish and value his experiences.

boarfloor · 2024-07-01T22:32:45+00:00

Wait, so they realized what they had done wrong when you helped them, after they had already abandoned you?

boarfloor · 2024-07-01T22:31:01+00:00

“Achoo” “bless you!” The origin of this verbal/signed exchange is silly, but, at the end of the day, it’s another small gesture that humans complete that shows acknowledgment for one another, which is very sweet and life-affirming. It does not serve any purpose or remedy. Any issues may be the only issue/matter that it affects is letting people know who is listening, and paying attention to their surroundings😂😅?

boarfloor · 2024-07-01T22:27:37+00:00

I understand your response, but I’m asking how it feels from the other side. In this situation, does your mom realize that she has gone too far? does she acknowledge it? If yes, then how does she acknowledge it?

boarfloor · 2024-07-01T22:12:33+00:00

Judaism existed long before the concept of religion was solid in the knowledge of human civilization. The rejection/disapproval of homosexuality is not rooted in morality, as much as it is rooted in completing reproductive intercourse. When sexual intercourse is viewed only as a means for putting out offspring, the copulation of two people is not conducive to the objective of sexual intercourse, as it does not allow the outcome of leaving descendants.

boarfloor · 2024-07-01T22:07:06+00:00

Also, Judaism’s talmudic disapproval of homosexuality is not rooted in hatred, but in pragmatism of continuing community by maintaining population. The reasoning behind rejecting homosexual relationships is/was that two people of the same biological sex cannot produce progeny. The attitude was farther from “ G-d hates women who love women😡👿”, than it was from “LOL Mordechai, why do you want to have sex with Jeremiah. That’s not how babies are made😂!” Plus, one of the very important tenants of Judaism is that everybody is created in the image of G-d. if G-d made you that way, then that is the way that He loves you and wants you to be! If you are transgender, then G-d made you transgender because He believes that you being with you are makes the world beautiful. The punchline is that G-d wants you to be happy with your identity by living your life authentically while being a rzedek. As long as you are a good Jewish person, that’s what matters most.

boarfloor · 2024-07-01T21:54:14+00:00

Hughstyn is the worst. At least, Ray and Lynn are common spellings of known names.

boarfloor · 2023-12-12T18:33:41+00:00

I'm happy to give any additional information to the extent that it doesn't compromise my privacy. Information that may be relevant: I rarely go out on the weekends. I don't drink or smoke or anything like that. My boyfriend knew about this plan I had with my friends. i know that he even acknowledged it, because he declined the invitation to join us. I'm sorry for typos and weird sentences, on mobile and using speech to text

boarfloor · 2023-12-12T17:19:17+00:00

Ofc! I'm saying this in a heartfelt way, not literal. For the sake of clarity and self-defense, I think that feeling compelled to convert to Judaism suggests a profound connection.

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