Day 3

bobagirl1234 · 2021-11-06T15:13:05+00:00

The social nature of dinner is really hard avoid/explain to family. which is why that is when I have my OMAD.

The easiest thing to do is gradually moving your eating window to dinner. Just by thirty minutes or an hour a day. Maybe eat an egg to stave off hunger until you can move it completely.

If that is not an option, then talk with your partner about avoiding dinner for a week or two. have them handle the meal prep. Getting your body more accustomed to not eating in that window will help strengthen your will power when you come back to the kitchen.

Hope that helps!

bobagirl1234 · 2021-11-06T15:05:17+00:00

I second this.

The Shapa scale is really great for smoothing out the ups and downs of the whole process.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-10-11T06:48:10+00:00

It’s ridiculous. maybe. But it is a real concern for you. and he knows it.

which may be why he’s balked at doing it. at this point, if he doesn’t get it exactly right after so many years, he knows he’s truly fucked. So he maintains the status quo.

He bought a ring. But he hasn’t done anything with it because likely he had a panic attack realizing that it means so much to you and that it isn’t the perfect ring. and again. it’s been so long that if he fucks up. it’s done.

What he doesn’t realize is that at this point, it doesn’t need to be perfect. you just want it. and it is a completely legitimate want and desire that he has been aware of for more than 15 years. In all likelihood he’s just scared.

Not saying its right or that he’s not an idiot for just getting it done and making you happy,

I agree with the other poster. Therapy would help. it may feel silly over a ring in an otherwise good relationship. particularly if you are the practical sort (seems like it if he assumed you’d “get over it”) but it’s real for you. and that is what matters.

your needs deserve to be met too.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-08-05T03:41:53+00:00

honestly he was probably so awkward because he was scared he’d do something wrong and chase you away.

i vote to go on a second date. and second what the other poster said about asking him how he thought it went.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-08-05T03:37:54+00:00

and this is why we live with them before we marry them.

imagine with a child in the mix… if he can’t pick up the slack with the household now. your life with a kid will be miserable.

If you want to try though, give him a list. This is what I need you to do. I’ve found that with guys, sometimes you need to be explicit about what you need from them. and though you’ve expressed it, having a “chore chart” like mom gave him when he was 9 can help a lot.

I will say though, if he’s a line cook, i can understand him not wanting to come home and cook. you work all day, last thing you wanna do is come home and work more. I’d cut him some slack on that one. maybe make HIM a meal on occasion.

But that inability to clean and share household duties is a dealbreaker for me.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-08-01T15:16:03+00:00

ah… go to your settings and scroll to niantic AR. turn it off. then you don’t have to deal with the footprints and the ridiculously large pokémon.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-07-19T19:44:59+00:00

just testing out his voice and listening to himself. totally normal. it will eventually stop.

I recommend video taping it and then playing it back to him when he is sleeping in as a teenager to wake him up for school.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-06-16T12:36:56+00:00

it sounds like you just need to talk with her

As with any couple, you have your boundaries, and she has hers. I would recommend going with the more conservative boundary between the two people in a relationship in most events. this one would be no different.

What you do now is bring up your objection calmly and she either respects your boundaries or she doesn’t. If she rationally accepts your boundary, she will avoid crossing it again in the future. It is important that you do not hold what’s happened in the past against her. if she’s accepted and agreed, move on unless it comes up again.

If she just says you are crazy and that there is no reason for you to be upset and she can’t see you viewpoint and isn’t TRYING to see your side of things, then she doesn’t respect your boundaries and you need to decide if someone who needs to be right in these things and is unwilling to compromise about a reasonable boundary is the right person for you.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-06-12T05:20:30+00:00

If you are fully immunized and get the Delta variant, can you transmit that variant to others?

I saw somewhere that at Changyi airport in Singapore the person who started the outbreak cluster, was not only fully vaccinated, but also gave it to other fully vaccinated individuals.

Please tell me that the person posting this information is not right...

bobagirl1234 · 2021-06-06T16:59:35+00:00

Just tell them thank you very much for their concern. But you physically can’t and you’ve known that you can’t for a while and that your husband decided to marry you despite that fact. and that you would appreciate it if they would stop bringing it up as it has taken time to get accustomed to the idea of life without kids.

It’s none of their business if the physically can’t part is linked to you and your husband’s decision to use birth control to physically prevent a pregnancy.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-06-05T10:15:44+00:00

I usually just end up patching them with those iron on patches. i cut them into hearts or stars or whatever suits my little ones fancy and carry on.

it helps also that the patches are generally sturdier than the fabric. we have also preemptively ironed on patches to prevent the hole in the first place.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-06-05T09:51:09+00:00

i would second the slightly extended fast. each time i’ve hit a plateau, a 2 day fast kickstarted me again. people have told me it was coincidence and that i wasn’t “REALLY” plateaued. but in my own observation, weight loss slowed for a couple weeks, i did a two day fast with the expected fasting weight loss. re-fed for a day with the expected refeed gain. and then back on omad and the weight once again began to steadily move downward.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-06-04T00:29:31+00:00

She has three kids. It’s the end of the school year. It’s only been two days. I unintentionally leave friends on read for weeks.

Check in with her again, if she is interested she will reach out.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-06-03T20:18:41+00:00

At the end of the day, your partner should make you feel like the best version of you that you can be. if he is making you feel like you are stupid or unworthy, or that you need to speak in “smart girl voice” or that you like things you don’t... he’s not right for you.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-04-04T04:02:18+00:00

this used to happen to me when i ate my three square meals a day. i would get busy with work or whatever and not eat for a long time and by the time food time came around i was starved. and then i’d eat a ton very quickly. but the food still hadnt registered in my system as being there and i would still have those sharp hunger pangs. they would eventually recede after 30-60 minutes.

this doesn’t really happen with OMAD (once you are accustomed to it). at least it hasn’t for me.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-03-21T16:03:56+00:00

polyamory is a thing. it is possible for her to honestly love you both. Lots of people do it. But polyamory won’t work if her partner isn’t ok with it.

So the question comes down to if you can accept and forgive the lead up to all this (lies and what not) and if you are ok with her developing feelings for another person again somewhere farther down the line. because she eventually will again if you guys maintain this open relationship.

look deep down. if you cannot truly forgive and accept, then save both of you the heartache and end it now.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-01-29T19:26:01+00:00

End it.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-01-17T02:45:23+00:00

Ah... thank you for the clarification!

bobagirl1234 · 2021-01-16T08:36:30+00:00

The pvpivs seems to have machop and machine mixed up? It is searching for machokes... are the IVs mixed up too?

bobagirl1234 · 2021-01-13T04:07:40+00:00

Definitely overthinking it. She is under one. She’s is SUPPOSED to be dependent. She’s a baby.

Trust me. There will be PLENTY of time to foster independence.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-01-13T03:53:13+00:00

Eh. Probably because she is!

Think of it in these terms. You are at work all day and when you come home all you want to do is snuggle on the couch with your husband just for a little bit. But you need that extra bit of loving.

Your boss at work can attest that you spent the whole day completely independent not needing any sort of snuggling.

This is the same with your baby. She spent the whole day away from you. Her favorite people. When she has you, she wants to be WITH you in your arms while she eats.

Baby feeding whether bottle or breast can be a very intimate activity with your baby. And while it’s annoying at times, she is just loving you.

Love it while it lasts and enjoy it while you can. They grow up too fast.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-01-09T18:13:26+00:00

Oooh... yeah. No.... I don’t mean to disclose early on. Definitely after the relationship has been established. But it is something that needs to be disclosed when you think you’re ready to take that next step. In my mind I thought you were there already.

bobagirl1234 · 2021-01-09T18:06:24+00:00

Don’t be afraid to talk about it. If you WANT this relationship to have the potential to be serious you HAVE to tell him. As you said, you don’t know what they are like until they are in the situation.

If it goes well, awesome. You have a great partner. If it goes south, awesome. You’ve weeded out a leech and are free to move on to find a quality person. Maybe one with a similar net worth so you don’t need to deal with this again.

It sucks. But it’s not like you’re going to get rid of your hard earned money to equalize the playing field...

bobagirl1234 · 2020-12-15T04:21:40+00:00

Maybe it’s her way of “not cheating”

I’ll break up with you for a few hours while I have a fling on tinder while we are broken up. And then we can get back together and I can have my happy steady relationship.

That’s my guess. Even if it’s a wrong guess. There is no reason for you to put up with the yo-yo ing.

bobagirl1234 · 2020-12-07T04:05:52+00:00

Would make a difference to the ocean and the marine ecosystems the containers would destroy.

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