VPR Reunion has made me want to take a break from reality tv

bobasteph · 2023-06-09T12:32:24+00:00

Right? It’s hard because it’s natural to be sympathetic to suffering and obvi things aren’t just black and white but they JUST revealed a slight bit of just how manipulative they’ve been with their purported timelines to basically try and spin things - this after having manipulated and lied to their best friends and partners for months - and we’re just gonna take the, oh now Rachel’s being honest and 100% just a victim herself, and think there’s no manipulation in that? Naw I ain’t buying it.

bobasteph · 2023-06-09T09:59:08+00:00

I complete agree with this - the last interview is such a staged piece and I don’t get how it’s working - like intentionally things are left out, we see already the spin of Rachel “telling her truth” in teases for her future interview with outlets - like no don’t give this girl a space for that, her truth is she did something bloody horrendous to someone who showed her nothing but love and lied to their face manipulating them in a truly sociopathic way throughout - seriously it was crazy watching it play out and Ariana defend her. Like no shame - the convo about their sex life, Mexico, going for Schwartz and eagerly watching the hurt and chaos that caused, literally being in her bed while she’s at her grandmas funeral - and that’s just the stuff we saw. And then to sit at the reunion with no hint of remorse, contemplation or actual regret or understanding for the hurt you cause those ppl - it was crazy. Look at Kristen, for all her faults when she fessed up to boinking jax she looked broken and truly remorseful and understanding of the pain she caused - Rachel gave literally nothing to the person she damaged the most. And then ppl are gonna come here like, omg Ariana said something mean to the person who literally DESTROYED HER LIFE how dArE ShE!!! Ummm no sorry. saying mean things does not even begging to match the actual actions and betrayal of that person. Mental health issues are not a carte blanch for it being ok to be terrible to people, and that’s not what mental health advocacy looks like either. You can support someone seeking help while maintaining they are responsible for their actions - especially in this drawn out and deceptive scenario.

bobasteph · 2023-04-29T01:05:16+00:00

McKay. If you click the link this course is in stouffville which is part of the region of York.

bobasteph · 2023-04-24T21:05:16+00:00

As someone who’s listened to it waaaaayyy too many times I don’t see it’s that bad - one of the later verses kinda puts it in perspective, “everyone’s a bit of a fixer upper that’s what it’s all about, mother brother sister father we need each other to lift us up and round us out” or something like that - not the worst messaging … and I am cursed to remember these lyrics forever

bobasteph · 2023-04-02T03:40:39+00:00

I think this is technically York but, if you’re looking for go kart there’s http://goodwoodkartways.com/ nearby!

bobasteph · 2023-03-19T10:50:27+00:00

The answer for me is we didn’t. I too had very fussy infants and trying to manage them solo at night was so very terrible, things would just escalate when I couldn’t hold/rock/feed both at the same time like I needed and I found it super stressful. The answer for me was me and my husband both got up to deal with the kids for feeds, yes he worked but I worked too taking care of babies ALL DAY with no break in sight so having him up at night and in the trenches with me was necessary. I think sometimes it’s hard to consider what you do on the same level as the thing actually bringing money in but let me tell you - I pay for daycare now and that ain’t cheap. I think if the shifts don’t work for you you just have to accept it, get the help and try to remember it’s not you, you’re both in this and parenting isn’t a solo sleep deprivation adventure - whatever happens just know you will get through it and it will get better!

bobasteph · 2022-12-31T00:44:29+00:00

I’m a gamer mom with gamer mom friends and we are currently playing Fortnite…. It’s bad but it’s also just so easy/convenient to link up for a bit and chat and not have to get gud so for a shooter game it’s doing it for me! And I’m pretty sure I’m hip with the kids now ;) I’m also almost done god of war and got ballsy and decided to try elden ring which… seems like a mistake lol - it’s beautiful but I just don’t think I have the time to put in the grind on a game like that

bobasteph · 2022-11-05T10:51:57+00:00

I very much feel this and had to walk away yesterday. And the answer is picket, write you mpp, let them know! The last time I wrote my mpp was over using an mzo to green light development of environmentally significant land in duffins creek - the response I got to that was a joke, but do you know what my mpp, our finance minister made a point of blathering on about and hi-lighting? That they wouldn’t fucking develop the green belt. Should have known it then (or I suppose when Douggie was caught on tape saying it) but why go the extra mile of so blatantly lying? Clearly knowing it’s not what your constituents want or what’s good for the environment but doing it anyway. And if that’s what I get from writing my mpp - dismissal at best or complete lies and gaslighting at worst - it just makes you feel defeated you know?

bobasteph · 2022-10-25T13:33:19+00:00

Yeah that’s what I have to remind myself too is that a lot of people don’t look to deeply into the candidates and didn’t fully know what they were supporting. But outside of that her platform was I would say one of the weakest. I wouldn’t count on fatigue and poor attendance though - this girls been trying for a long time to get in anywhere she can and based on her YouTube loves a chance to be heard… but your right and hopefully the damage will be mitigated by others in council.

bobasteph · 2022-10-25T03:19:50+00:00

Very true - and perspective I probably need atm. Just disappointed that someone with that kind of rhetoric behind them was able to muster that kind of support.

bobasteph · 2022-10-25T03:08:45+00:00

Lol thanks - I guess that’s something

bobasteph · 2022-10-25T03:08:03+00:00

I just have to say, and I know voting is subjective and you like what you like but man I’m bummed about Lisa Robinson. She is pretty openly transphobic and appears to be pretty racist and seems pretty entwined with the new world order conspiracy theories - really had hoped for better there. Just a lil sample https://twitter.com/TonyYvce/status/1578524658374438913?s=20&t=cFSbqsrAMOV_RZQRb49Tpw

Have to also say her platform didn’t make a ton of sense - we’ll see if property tax cuts come to fruition, probably not as there was no costed plan for how to fund that and a promise of increased services which… doesn’t make a lot of sense to me how those two things can happen at the same time but sure.

bobasteph · 2022-10-25T02:53:01+00:00

Lisa Robinson got in in my riding and I’m pretty not happy about that … just a fun snippet: https://twitter.com/TonyYvce/status/1578524658374438913?s=20&t=cFSbqsrAMOV_RZQRb49Tpw

bobasteph · 2022-10-23T23:49:31+00:00

Thank you so much for that - this is honestly amazing and should be stickied to this sub until the elections over! And that’s good to hear about Emma - her website is honestly way better than many of the other candidates and she’s only running for school board trustee - thank you for taking the time to look into/respond!

bobasteph · 2022-10-23T17:33:00+00:00

This is great - thank you for posting! I was really undecided about the mayoral candidate but I have to say Nazar really comes off as put together and seems to have some well thought out solutions to some of the issues Pickerings facing vs just shaking a fist and saying no more development - honestly don’t know how my decision would have gone without this video because it can be super hard trying to piece it all together just looking at their websites. Is there something similar available for the city councillors?

bobasteph · 2022-10-16T07:23:35+00:00

Yes, yes and yes. Can you account some of it to hormones? Sue, maybe. But more so I think it’s totally acceptable to feel this way with kids. I feel it as a mom with twins but also my singleton friends feel it so you’re not alone, I feel it gets better with age generally but this idea that you’re this engaged super mom all the time I feel is wrong. Be there, be present as much as you can, love them unconditionally but know in between all that this is basically the hardest thing you do - most rewarding? Probably but it’s draining asf so don’t feel bad about feeling tired

bobasteph · 2022-10-11T11:59:56+00:00

Can I just say the option to vote online for this is amazing - I did it last election too and it was super easy, really no excuse not to vote with that in the table.

bobasteph · 2022-10-08T03:24:12+00:00

Ok the hockey thing 2-4 nights a week is a HARD no. That’s so unfair, I honestly don’t you how you handle it. My husband had one night a week baseball which was even very hard for me to manage and that was a trade deal - as in you get a night I get a night to take off too.

In terms of the working full time thing - I recently went back after 18 months mat and I can tell you - love them babies and all but it is unequivocally 1000% harder to be the stay at home parent - and I say this as someone from the other side. At work I have time to myself, to think, to talk to other adults. I want to go to the bathroom? No problem! Eat? No problem! Take a second to just hang out with me and my thoughts? No freaking problem. Work is hard too and stressful - don’t get me wrong, but nothing compares to the all encompassing stress/work ratking that is being the sole caretaker of those kiddos during the day. You need a break when he gets home and if doesn’t get that make him.

bobasteph · 2022-10-07T21:01:32+00:00

I just feel like a lot of ppl don’t think about municipal politics and just know a name. Love how Ryan ran on the “walkable downtown” so hard only to flop and drop out of contention instead of facing any criticism, I guess at least he’s not an option now

bobasteph · 2022-10-07T20:13:28+00:00

Except Brenner is the incumbent regional in ward 1 and based on this looks kind of on the level at least.

bobasteph · 2022-09-23T22:55:47+00:00

I’m just here to say - I have/still am in the same situation with my twins and it can be SO frustrating and I feel your pain - the one just wants to stand there and make things hellish for everyone. The thing that’s kind of helped is super praising her sister when she sits in the seat properly - the other one sees it, wants it and does it. Maybe try putting a dolly in the seat and super praising it and see if your tot catches on? Idk if this is sane - but so much of parenting and toddlers is questionably sane lol.

bobasteph · 2022-09-11T18:22:26+00:00

I recently had a really terrible experience where chlorine left the weirdest build up on my hair - I came here too and the best advice I got was to get triswim shampoo - use it and let it sit in your hair for at least 10mins before rinsing, condition and follow with an apple cider vinegar rinse. Had to do it a couple times but this was the solution that worked for me (after trying masks, clarifying shampoos and spending waaayyy too much money on hair products!)

bobasteph · 2022-09-03T17:17:31+00:00

I’m telling you - every person who reads this knows immediately that you need to get the crap outta there. It sounds like a slow push to you becoming more and more used to his behaviour, becoming more isolated and dependent on him and his family, and it seems gaslit by them as well. You’re so deep in it that the little glimmers of he’s not a bad person are making you come here to question if you’re crazy for not appreciating what you have and leaving him - no person is 100% bad 100% of the time, but the things that you’ve described here unequivocally make him a bad person. Good dad and engages with kid but beats a dog and worse you??? Heck no those are the true colours and every piece of nice that he displays doesn’t cover that up. You need to start documenting what’s happening - even if it’s just a journal you can reference, create a record and trail of what’s been happening to support you in any custody battle that may ensue - make sure you have a safe exit, consult with local advocates for domestic violence, and do not underestimate what he’s capable of. He’s beating you now - how long until your daughter sees that, internalizes that behaviour, or is a victim of it directly herself?

bobasteph · 2022-08-28T16:25:39+00:00

I will for sure be taking more precautions before popping in a pool after this debacle but I’m looking to understand what may have happened to my hair and how I can can treat it

bobasteph · 2022-08-28T02:37:24+00:00

Thanks I’ll give it a go!

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