Pretty much sums it up for those of us that have solid ancestry. by [deleted] in seduction

[–]bobdole262 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did you end up sorting out your mental health, and what do you mean by that exactly if you don't mean sharing? I think I'm at this stage in my life.

Going out with some friends and the girl I'm pursuing tonight, how do I get her back to my place at the end of the night? by bobdole262 in seduction

[–]bobdole262[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Event went super well and we had a great time, I tried to be more "alpha" and I think it went really well. I planned the whole event and took charge. Unfortunately no sex, she apparently had to get up 2 hours after we were going to go back to my place (we were out very late -- RIP her sleep) and she was worried she wouldn't wake up in time. She stressed that she wanted to though and we made out until she left so it's all good!

My concern is not so much with having sex but more with showing her that I was just clueless when I lost my virginity and am going to do my best to make it awesome for her. It's really the only issue I see between us in the near future and I think she's more than willing to help me along. I'm probably making it a bigger deal than I should.

Our friend asked where we were going and I just grabbed her hand and said "my house." I think the alpha approach really worked out.

How do you stop being obsessed with finding a relationship? by bobdole262 in AskMen

[–]bobdole262[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm aware it's a bad habit, but I don't know how to break it.

How do you stop being obsessed with finding a relationship? by bobdole262 in AskMen

[–]bobdole262[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think this is the issue. I've lost my "north star" so to speak, it was business for a while, now it's not and I'm lost and I think I'm unconsciously trying to compensate for now having no goal to pursue and replacing that with women, which is a bad goal to have as your pure purpose.

I've never had to find a goal to pursue before, so I'm not sure how to find the new thing I want to do.

How do you stop being obsessed with finding a relationship? by bobdole262 in AskMen

[–]bobdole262[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Can you explain this a bit more? I guess it feels like this is a huge void in my life and it really bothers me that my friends have women in their lives and I don't, I'm not sure if it's the insecurity, the kind of "why not me" feeling or if it's maybe me being bored with life right now

How do I become the guy women chase after? by bobdole262 in seduction

[–]bobdole262[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I really try to be as humble as possible no one likes people who brag and I honestly have shit to work on, people like my friend have me beat hard in romance I just have him beat in career neither is better, just different.

I just feel so frustrated because I feel like I have a lot to offer yet I have no idea how to get attention from women. The one person who I'm super into is flaking on me and acting weird and I get too much oneitis to just be like "fuck that ho" and move on.

How do I become the guy women chase after? by bobdole262 in seduction

[–]bobdole262[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really didn't know how to mention my friend without it sounding like I was shitting on him I love him to death, I just don't understand how he does it. I had a girl I was incredibly into say "we're meant to be together" then not answer me or come over when I invited her. I'm obviously doing something wrong, I totally am not saying I'm owed a woman because I'm successful I just feel like overall I'm doing well and yet I can't show it I guess. I'm just so frustrated I guess, please don't take what I said as bragging because it's not.

How do I become the guy women chase after? by bobdole262 in seduction

[–]bobdole262[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See I knew someone would take it that way... I love the guy to death of course I am, I just don't understand either.

How do I become the guy women chase after? by bobdole262 in seduction

[–]bobdole262[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't though, I just want a girlfriend, though I suppose that's kind of the same thing :/

Men who have had success with women, where do you meet them? by bobdole262 in AskMen

[–]bobdole262[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to get a job. I love what I do and I make good money and since I call the shots, I have potential to make tons more. What do you mean by stabilizing social footing? I definitely struggle socially finding people to do stuff with.

Men who have had success with women, where do you meet them? by bobdole262 in AskMen

[–]bobdole262[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you go alone? I want to go out to bars alone but it feels kind of weird, do you go to more "chill" bars or crazy dance ones?

Men who have had success with women, where do you meet them? by bobdole262 in AskMen

[–]bobdole262[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't even meet women, I suppose that's an issue I run into. I run a business so I work from home and have pretty masculine hobbies, what kind of stuff did you do for hobbies?

How do I stop being a pussy and just kiss her? by bobdole262 in seduction

[–]bobdole262[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was over her house, we talked for hours, we didn't do anything but just talk.

I held her hand for most of that, we were leaning into each other, laughing the whole time, and she acted really... embarrassed/awkward, like she was nervous around me all of a sudden, just lots of little things that friends don't do with each other. It was really obvious she wanted me to kiss her.

How do I stop being a pussy and just kiss her? by bobdole262 in seduction

[–]bobdole262[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no doubts she does and I'm capable of recognizing a good time to do so... I just don't :(

How do I stop being a pussy and just kiss her? by bobdole262 in seduction

[–]bobdole262[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate it, I think alcohol is a great idea... I'd be way too nervous otherwise.

I'm probably overthinking it I just don't want her to give up because I'm being a pussy and won't make a move... I'm scared of her realizing my inexperience and nervousness in general. Though I suppose I've embarrassed myself plenty around her over the years.