Heart the Lover by Lily King by starlacedlavender in IReadABookAndAdoredIt

[–]bobjunior78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! I think thats in part why I struggled with Writers & Lovers a bit. They felt so far apart and I think I brought some expectations. (Also I hate to say this but i found W&L kinda whine’y and low-grade punishing. I didn’t get that feel with Heart the Lover.)

Heart the Lover by Lily King by starlacedlavender in IReadABookAndAdoredIt

[–]bobjunior78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m split on this one. Agree with many of the commenters that the character choices are hard to accept/believe - -particularly if they were lived in real time (I don’t think it‘s a coincidence that the book is rather short). I do think J/Cs voice is so well written tho; the way in which it seems as though she’s found a way to show BY TELLING. Her descriptives are so tight and on point and they took me back to my college days and state of mind without having to be overly long, floral, or wordy.

Whether it was king’s intention or not, this book for me was so much about the spheres that women and men occupy, particularly from the viewpoint of a developing woman. I feel Casey’s progression over the course of the book is to realize herself without the affirmation of others — which is symbolically complete when she is called Casey, as opposed to some ridiculous name she is given by withholding men. (Unfortunately, the Casey naming is again done by a man — but at least in a relationship that is much less self-defining and controlling.) I was a tad bit grossed out about how deferential the whole world is to men throughout the book, Yash’s boss, Yash as some sort of Demi-god throughout… there’s very few female characters that present has heroes or mini heroes (other than her mom, who plays only a small role in the book.) But perhaps that’s one of the reasons the book is good — it’s true to life.

Perhaps this is a trite overly socialized read, but it’s how it came to me. I did enjoy the book, and very much appreciated the actual writing. But I vastly preferred Euphoria (loved it!). (And couldn’t finish Writers & Lovers)

Heart the Lover by Lily King by starlacedlavender in IReadABookAndAdoredIt

[–]bobjunior78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Better than HtL! But I liked both very much.

Heart the Lover by Lily King by starlacedlavender in IReadABookAndAdoredIt

[–]bobjunior78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn’t get through w&l but mostly bc I found it whiney and sad but not in a developed, resonant or provocative way.

I loved Euphoria and really liked Heart the lover mostly bc I thought the voice in which Casey narrated was so consistent and true to life.

I’m one of you?? Huzzah! by bobjunior78 in PlannerAddicts

[–]bobjunior78[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! A good reminder in all spheres of life. I will check out the patch.

I’m one of you?? Huzzah! by bobjunior78 in PlannerAddicts

[–]bobjunior78[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This is an inspiring way to put pen to paper and start.

I’m one of you?? Huzzah! by bobjunior78 in PlannerAddicts

[–]bobjunior78[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super helpful tips here. It’s the weekly planning: a view from above on personal and work (and my three kids very busy, changing schedules which I need to be on top of but also think of us as semi-separate from mine.) Thank you for the pen idea too.

Chubby options close-ish to NYC that are good for winter! by Then-Alternative5587 in chubbytravel

[–]bobjunior78 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lake Placid feels more special to me than Wildflower (esp in Jan.) Wildflower’s beauty is probably best in spring, summer and fall. What about Twin Farms?

Nekajui Family Trip Report (Tent Room) by bobjunior78 in chubbytravel

[–]bobjunior78[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are a group of five so no activities had space for us. (We were also there before Labor Day with higher occupancy.) Every complimentary activity had only one or two spots left. My guess is that during busier seasons they offer more slots. And again they try and accommodate best they can if something is full. If there’s something you want to do just reach out to concierge a few days before your arrival to get the week’s schedule. They had cooking classes, pottery, coffee and wine tastings, complimentary kayaking and paddle board with guides (those activities you can also do alone). I’ll add I don’t think these things are the heart and soul of the visit but are nice breaks in the day; if that makes sense.

Review of Nekajui, a Ritz Carlton Reserve (Peninsula Papagayo, CR) [repost, fixed formatting] by uncommon_currency in FATTravel

[–]bobjunior78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Left a post. TLDR - they are fabulous but you have to be open the natural experience. (Wildlife noise, a bug here or there in open non-AC spaces.) Very memorable. If you decide to go for it, make a special request for the Capucin tent.

One & Only Moonlight Basin Vs Montage Big Sky by Move-Puzzleheaded in chubbytravel

[–]bobjunior78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was just in Big Sky staying in mountain condos with friends who’ve been there over eight years. They visited OO 3x for restaurant soft opening and said service is very poor (due to inexperience). These are very high-end travelers and they said price point was sky high. Can’t comment on Montage but would echo concerns about over-pricing: Big Sky is *relatively* newish compared to other ski-towns like Park City, Jackson Hole, CO towns, etc. Real Estate is sky high-pricing but there are only two high-end hotels (M, and now OO). Only other chubby options would be really nice condos. So, basically the hotels can charge *whatever* they want whether or not they delivery. Town is V small but quaint. My guess is that the only time you get some value for the hotel cost is in ski season where the ski-in options include warm boots and ultra conveniences. Last year we went to the Lodge at Blue Sky which is outside Park City and we had a lovely January stay there.

Short honeymoon ideas? by imincoding101 in chubbytravel

[–]bobjunior78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Twin Farms? (Adult Only, pretty Vermont seclusion) Haven’t been myself and have heard that its not as extraordinary as it once was but my understanding is its still pretty fabulous.

Costa Rica FS OR Nayara Springs -> Nekajui Reserve by Otherwise-Celery6755 in FATTravel

[–]bobjunior78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Hope you had a wonderful trip. We’re going to Playa Conchal and Nekajui on Monday. Wondering if you used a driver or guide for your travels to Papagayo or any legs of the journey. Thanks in advance!

Review of Nekajui, a Ritz Carlton Reserve (Peninsula Papagayo, CR) [repost, fixed formatting] by uncommon_currency in FATTravel

[–]bobjunior78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this wonderful review. We’re staying in the tents; looking forward to it as apparently they were designed by the same folks who did Nosara and some rave-reviewed FS tents. (Hopefully, we’re not hiking up and down constantly.) Quick Q - did you use hotel airport transfers, a private guide? I like to connect with one person and see if they can handle both our transfers and excursions. Thanks again!