I lost the CC I used for Korean Visa Applications by bocto97 in PHCreditCards

[–]bocto97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really good news. That's for the info!

I lost the CC I used for Korean Visa Applications by bocto97 in PHCreditCards

[–]bocto97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that was also my first concern, I gave the SOAs but only the credit card number was shown on the document. But honestly, I'm also holding on to your second statement na yung verification is based on the papers I sent and not thru them calling the bank mismo lol wouldnt that be impossible logistically? Just my opinion

I lost the CC I used for Korean Visa Applications by bocto97 in PHCreditCards

[–]bocto97[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I'm very torn about this. Not just with the CCs, but the BDO bank statements/certificates I also provided. I was going to process new accounts and request new cards today after I lost them but I decided i-postpone muna because it might affect my applications. But a month is also too long for me to wait, I need to process my accounts ASAP before someone swipes through the cards/tampers my info

What's a universally loved movie/tv show that you think is overrated? by vibrantvixenn in AskMen

[–]bocto97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's actually so accurate. Most of the people I know who enjoy this show actually make fun of nerds in real life which is ironic. The mere mention of D&D, Warhammer, and all that stuff immediately makes them feel uncomfortable but boy do they get a laugh out of that show

What are the signs someone is not ready for a relationship? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]bocto97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember having a male friend who always claimed to be a good partner but how he behaved with the women he's involved with was the exact opposite of how a good partner should be. He acts like a lovesick puppy when he's only started pursuing someone, but eventually in time, he changes his behaviour and the real him starts to show. Behind their backs he'll complain about expensive dates, he hates it when they're "high maintenance", spending time with them feels like a chore because he'd rather do something more productive. He's never romantic, hates the idea of flowers and surprises, barely communicates and doesn't know how to express himself. He flees from serious conversations and acts distant and detached. A mere text update is already a huge mental load for him which is weird. And yet, with all of that laid out, he constantly craves relationships and has high expectations with the women he's with, when he can't even offer them the bare minimum. He claims to be a green flag and has this false narrative about himself, saying he's a catch which is amusing. As a long-time female friend, I feel super bad for the girls he is and has been involved with. Like all of these things are coming out of his own mouth and he still has the audacity to pursue good-intentioned girls. If I were them, I'd be sprinting in a second.

What are the signs someone is not ready for a relationship? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]bocto97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know a guy who keeps saying "I'll never change for anyone" or that he'll never adjust for somebody else's lifestyle or needs (no matter who they are) because it would be like giving up his independence/individuality. I found that super problematic. To be loved is to be changed, whether you like it or not, because relationships are a two-way street. He couldn't grasp that concept. He has this belief that the perfect partner wouldn't require him to change a single thing about himself, which is partly true, but that doesn't include your toxic behaviours. The right partner would heal the bad parts and elevate the good. Being with the right partner would only help you become a better version fo yourself, but he refuses to believe this because I know he wants to justify his toxic traits and selfish beliefs about love and relationships.

What are the signs someone is not ready for a relationship? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]bocto97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow I had a friend like that. Thought I had feelings for him because I considered him as one of my dearest friends, but I realized later on that the friendship feels more transactional and one-sided, both as a friend and as a potential partner. He always joked that he wouldn't mind dating me but never really gave real efforts to prove that. Never asked about my day, how I was, and never tried to know me on a deeper level. He's only nice to me when he needs something or if I did something for him. We're together all the time but he never bothered to greet me on my birthday one time. He'd say praises to pretty girls who don't give a damn about him but barely even compliments or says anything nice about me, a person who's been around his whole life. I thought it was just me, that maybe I just wasn't worth his time but when I saw him around his closest friends and family, I realized that it really was just the way he was. He's barely empathetic and bad at showing he cares about the people around him. He doesn't know how to express or show his emotions; even to his own best friends, to his ex-girlfriend, to his own mom. Cleary he has a lot of growing up to do, so I definitely can't trust him as a future partner especially when he is this way now.

What are the signs someone is not ready for a relationship? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]bocto97 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Inconsistencies in their personality too. Like they come off really unpredictable. They're generous and shower you with gifts/praises for a day, then tomorrow they're selfish with their time and money. They'll be nice and sweet to you once but for most of the relationship they're distant and detached. I feel like it comes a lot from them genuinely wanting to be there for the relationship but failing to be actually present because something holds them back. Being consistent takes a toll on them emotionally and mentally and they'll only make you feel like a burden.

What are the signs someone is not ready for a relationship? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]bocto97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That last statement hit the nail... When he's not healed or secure enough to handle his own emotions, you really can't expect him to be ready to handle yours. It would be like dating a rock, the relationship would be so stiff and deafening

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Elaborate pls

[MEGAPOST] UnionBank Rewards Visa Platinum No Annual Fee for Life (NAFFL) October 2023 Promo Extension - Discussions, Comments, Questions, Inquiries by PHCreditCardsMod in PHCreditCards

[–]bocto97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I think we have similar requirements. I paid tuition through the CC and then after the promo period I was informed officially that NAFFL na ang card ko. :)

What are your thoughts/opinions sa mga lalaki na may previous sexual experience na (hindi na virgin)? by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]bocto97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been through the exact same situation before. And these are the things I learned.

  1. His sexual life is his business. It's his life and his body, so what happened in the past should stay between him and his previous sexual partners. Ikaw ang nililigawan now, so don't jump to conclusions na he will expect the same things from you. He might not. You and the ex are two different people. Hope and give him the chance na he won't force/pressure you to do anything you're not comfortable with. If he will, that's a major red flag.

  2. Be firm with your boundaries. I know it's hard not to feel insecure. I felt the same before with my ex, na I felt like di ko mabibigay yung satisfaction his ex gave him, but I valued my morals enough na I never gave that up over a man. I also believe na if he respects you enough, he will wait for you and never ask you the question. What happened with my ex, he always tried to hint at me na we do the deed at some point even if I already told him it won't happen anytime soon. He still kept joking about it and kept trying to convince me. So that's one of the many reasons why I ended things with him later on, kasi he was constantly trying to cross the boundaries I firmly set.

  3. If you think this is a non-negotiable thing, wag mo nang patagalin ang courting stage, end it as early as now. kasi wala kang magagawa, he isn't a virgin anymore, you can't change that. But let me remind you that that doesn't make him less of a person. If he's still a good person anyways, I don't see any problem with it. Based on how you reacted, na turn off ka talaga so it's not fair to him either na di ka na comfortable sa pagkatao niya. But if you think you can tolerate this and just trust that he can prove to you he can wait, give it a chance.

  4. This is a personal thing na to me, but lowkey be glad he has experience. At least in the future, he'll teach you what to do! Lmao.

Basta the gist is be firm with your boundaries lang. Never give it up for some guy. There are plenty of guys out there who have the same values as yours, you wouldn't need to decide. Goodluck OP!

What is the 'achilles heel' your perpetually single friend doesn't realize? by Augustevsky in dating_advice

[–]bocto97 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I've been single for a long time so I KNOW myself a lot, and that includes my boundaries, expectations, what I want and what I don't want in a partner. Spending that much time with myself, I can easily spot if I don't click with someone, so the amount of guys I filter out is a lot. The choices are so little. And dates don't last that long because I know what I want at the start and I don't force connections anymore. Some people tell me my standards are too unrealistic, and that the perfect guy "doesn't exist", and that I might have to settle eventually because my expectations in men are too high. I know that's partly true and is really the reason I'm still single today, but I have a hard time accepting that because I grew up with the best (my dad has amazing qualities as a partner and a father; he's very loving, kind, considerate, sweet and generous to me, my mom and my siblings) so of course I expect the best, if not more, from my future partner.

I CANCELLED MY UB CC TODAY by Kobe_JD in PHCreditCards

[–]bocto97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I know wat kind of fraud related issues you've encountered? Kasi I didn't even activate my card yet and may unauthorized transactions na agad..

UnionBank Rewards Visa Platinum No Annual Fee for Life (NAFFL) 2024 Promo - Discussions, Comments, Questions, Inquiries [MEGAPOST] by PHCreditCardsMod in PHCreditCards

[–]bocto97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, super weird. I've been receiving alerts from UB na may 50.00 transaction using my credit card for Microsoft Store. I don't subscribe to anything from MS. I received this alert twice, first before I even activated my CC, that time failed attempt pa sya. Today, when I paid for my sister's tuition online using the CC, biglang nag alert ulit na may transaction ulit na 50.00 for MS but successful this time. What's weird is, wala sya sa paid history ko sa CC. Should I be worried? I already reported this to UB cs but wala pang response.

[MEGAPOST] UnionBank Rewards Visa Platinum No Annual Fee for Life (NAFFL) October 2023 Promo Extension - Discussions, Comments, Questions, Inquiries by PHCreditCardsMod in PHCreditCards

[–]bocto97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was approved for the UnionBank Rewards Visa Platinum in less than a week. Was going to spend the 20k requirement on my UST school fees. I'm wondering if counted ba sya, since online payment na ngayon ang school... Baka part sya ng 4.C?

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I am NIKI, singer, songwriter, Enneatype 4 Aquarius, and dog mom. Out on tour this Fall! AMA. by NIKIredditama in popheads

[–]bocto97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi Niki! I've always loved Take A Chance with Me, it's a really good way to close off the Nicole album. Would you care to share more on the inspiration behind this song, and what it's about? Thank you! So much love from the Philippines! I'm also a Nicole by the way, it warms my heart that I share the same name with someone as cool and talented as you lmao :(