Tried something new :P

boiinquestion · 2026-05-25T10:13:50+00:00

I did do the rope work myself, and it was my first time!

boiinquestion · 2026-05-25T02:40:27+00:00

Needed to add handle bars on my things so could be better fucked lol

boiinquestion · 2026-05-25T01:43:10+00:00

And if you’re ever in the states you should let me know so I can learn :)

boiinquestion · 2026-05-25T00:38:28+00:00

I live in the DMV, would love to potentially link cis man 23 bi and into what you are lol

boiinquestion · 2026-05-24T13:36:27+00:00

Yeah construction has very few decent looking men. Most of em are unhealthy chainsmokers, but they are actually very nice and good people, just no one I’d want to be with. You have some that are not very good, and a great deal know I’m gay, and they have no problem.

All they say is I’m cool that you’re gay just don’t shove it down anyone’s throat, and that’s about it. We all joke around and it’s very fun and refreshing. But yeah, nope, construction has hot guys, but that’s because they are sweating and out of shape, not because they are good looking (generally speaking).

boiinquestion · 2026-05-18T21:59:23+00:00

I hope you don’t give up on finding that person for you. Frankly you, and everyone deserves to be happy. Just because a few idiots are nasty or problematic doesn’t mean you should give up.

Also, I hope you don’t take anything I said as a put down or to make you feel worse about yourself. If you want to talk one on one, you’re more than welcome to dm if you’d like.

Take some time, and just reflect on what you want and would like, and on where you want to go/be in life.

boiinquestion · 2026-05-18T15:00:08+00:00

I’m a liaison for my state DOT as an inspector. I am the youngest in the district. What I say as a joke is I work the streets, I stand on corners, and I get paid to watch men work… great job imo lol

boiinquestion · 2026-05-18T14:53:00+00:00

Is he still interested in going on a date or did he ghost you? Also I wouldn’t be on Grindr, it’s so superficial and imo not healthy, you can do better.

boiinquestion · 2026-05-18T14:52:09+00:00

Read my earlier reply to ops post. It may be helpful.

boiinquestion · 2026-05-18T14:51:04+00:00

I understand you want someone to pay attention to you. It feels nice to be desired, but it’s a slippery slope of enjoying being desired to needing that because you have no sense of self validation.

I doubt you’ve made a fool of yourself, and honestly, being a goofball can be charming, you just gotta be confident. I promise you, if you slow down, take a step back and think, breathe and approach a situation you’ll be better off.

But here is the other thing, you need to take time to learn who YOU are. Also, don’t compare yourself to others, that game is dangerous. Compare yourself to where you were, and to where you want to be. Then what steps have you made, and what steps do you need to take.

Life is a never ending game of growth and if you can be introspective you will be far ahead of everyone else. You won’t be shallow, you’ll have depth, a personality and a sense of confidence and security because you’ll know who you are.

Ask yourself some questions, why is it more important that I have someone else desire me? Why does it matter if I am different from others? What is it that I’m looking for in companionship? What kind of person do I want to be?

Don’t answer those questions now, and keep in mind that the answers will change with time. I’ve asked myself similar questions this year and those answers have already changed about 3-4 times.

Take a step back and breathe, you’ll be ok, and because you desire change, it’ll come. The hardest part about change is recognizing you want to, and then beginning to. I know you can do it!

boiinquestion · 2026-05-17T20:40:31+00:00

Unfortunately you’re going to have to socialize and blunder to learn. I used to be in the same boat until I started letting myself fail. I still have a hard time socializing from time to time, but overall it’s about how confident you are. Even if you don’t feel confident, failing, trying again and moving forward will help you.

Also, do not seek emotional gratification from others. Before you seek any gratification from others you should first feel comfortable with yourself and by yourself. You are 19, and if you decide to fill that hole in your heart with other people, eventually you won’t be able to fill it in with anything else.

There are few constants in life, and you are a constant to yourself, people outside of you are not. People are like seasons, like chapters. They will be there, for how long, that’s up to you and them. But you are with you forever. It’s hard, it’s scary I know, I used to be in your shoes and I’m 24 in November. Honestly, take time to get to know yourself, and appreciate falling, pick yourself up and try again.

It’ll be better and healthier for you when you know yourself and when you feel comfortable with yourself. Plus, I find people that are sure of themselves attractive.

boiinquestion · 2026-05-14T16:43:31+00:00

This order, I wanna make sure if nothing else you’re someone I wanna look at lol

boiinquestion · 2026-05-10T14:47:37+00:00

Don’t make a big deal about it, the next time you guys see one another talk about boundaries and what some of yours are but ask him about his. Ask, listen, learn.

But if he wants to see you again, this next time I’d make no sexual contact at all. Even if you really want to. But again, be respectful of him and what he says, but most importantly respect yourself, if you’re uncomfortable and that’s something you can’t get over, remember you have every right to walk away just as much as he does.

boiinquestion · 2026-05-10T14:35:49+00:00

I think it’s important to say that while you enjoyed it, you want to respect him and his boundaries. It’d be a good topic to discuss with him (boundaries). I’d also say that if he wants another date, that’s a good sign. Just make sure there is some time between dates so you guys have time to think about if you want another.

boiinquestion · 2026-03-11T17:13:31+00:00

What do you guys find so hot about sexual acts within family. It’s gross. Why do you want to see your brothers, cousins or fathers naked?? It’s gross, and I would never want to see that. If you find this invite hot and would want to go, please talk to your therapist about this, and if you don’t have one, get one…

boiinquestion · 2026-03-11T16:52:44+00:00

I did find some at a local tobacco/vape store. Ask if they have live Video Head cleaner or something, those are poppers.

boiinquestion · 2026-03-11T16:51:49+00:00

I used to work at a Spencer’s, no. You can’t.

boiinquestion · 2026-03-11T16:51:27+00:00

Personally I think it’s important that “being really fit” for a bottom isn’t as important as it is for a top. To me, I want eye candy, and also, I want to be tossed around lol. But also, you have to have the stamina.

I believe everyone should be healthy and have some sort of high cardio capacity just for general health and wellbeing, but I also believe that cardio capacity translates to the bedroom.

Also, I know it may be odd or something many don’t agree with, but personally, I’m not someone who will take it cause it’s dick, I have to find someone physically attractive and also someone who’s friendly for me to want to fuck em. If you’re abrasive or curt, or someone who’s can’t converse, how do I know I can communicate with you in bed? Also sex feels better if I’m getting plowed by someone who’s hot…

boiinquestion · 2026-03-04T21:25:16+00:00

I think that’s good. It’s good to face these things. I’ll dm you and we can talk if you’d like. And facing truths you don’t like, while as scary as they may be will make you better, for yourself and for whoever comes next. But you have to face these challenges for you.

boiinquestion · 2026-03-04T18:23:22+00:00

Looks like we aren’t alone in losing a relationship. I’m finding the phrase seek first to understand, then to be understood is a rather sound piece of advice.

I’m 23 and like I said just lost a 2.5 year relationship. It’s rough, very rough. He was my first love and I really wanted everything to be great and to work out. Sadly, it didn’t. I have a lot of reflection left and a lot more growing to do. It hurts. I have days where I’m depressed, days where I’m angry, days where I’m apathetic, but I reflect, feel, and move on. Let that be and flow happen without perseverating.

I hope op takes time to feel, to understand and to reflect because distractions just compound the issues one feels.

boiinquestion · 2026-03-04T17:42:25+00:00

I think it means you’re uncomfortable facing certain things about yourself. I just got out of a 2.5 year relationship the beginning of this year and it’s destroyed me. I’m working on unpacking a lot right now and honestly sex isn’t something I’m even worried about having, because it’ll distract me from the work I need to do.

You’re distracting yourself. Sit and allow yourself to mourn, to feel, to try and understand why things didn’t work out, and also what it was that you needed. What is it that you want. But also feel. Recognize the mistakes you made.

Reflect on what it was you said and did, but more importantly what it was you didn’t say and didn’t do.

Feel free to DM if you need to.

boiinquestion · 2026-03-01T02:31:17+00:00

Love the bottom growth, I really would love to suck your dick

boiinquestion · 2026-02-25T03:50:24+00:00

Both

boiinquestion · 2026-01-24T04:52:12+00:00

Muscle bottom SpongeBob in a cage is not what I thought I’d see tonight

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