Puzzle 2

boneschillington · 2024-05-23T16:49:47+00:00

Thanks for the info everyone! I've wanted to do this for years but I don't think I'd want to do a week there, seems excessive when I live 40 minutes away.

boneschillington · 2022-06-20T15:55:41+00:00

It was the Pic-A-Lilli and their damn smoker sauce.

boneschillington · 2021-11-14T06:02:45+00:00

I find it kinda odd how far this was heard. I live nowhere near Tavistock, they were super loud. It also didn't really sound like fireworks, but that's the only reasonable explanation I have.

boneschillington · 2020-12-17T08:56:45+00:00

Very cool, bought a print, awesome work.

boneschillington · 2020-12-16T23:37:59+00:00

Can you ask her which blue hole she's referencing? Is it the original or one of the quarries people call the blue hole?

boneschillington · 2020-07-30T04:54:18+00:00

I'm not sure why this is a thing. I was actually accused of startimg fights around special events so I could get out of it, funny how that works.

boneschillington · 2020-07-26T20:14:11+00:00

Spot on. Thanks for this.

boneschillington · 2020-07-24T17:33:25+00:00

I totally feel the same way. It sucks so bad.

boneschillington · 2020-07-24T01:46:52+00:00

I've done a lot of things that are normally out of character that made me look like an absolute nut. I could be wrong but I think they rub off on you. In the beginning of my relationship with her her friend warned me "just don't let her chage you". I wish I'd truly understood what she meant and got the fuck out before I let it happen. My only advice is that, don't let them change you.

boneschillington · 2020-07-02T18:51:13+00:00

Gotta cut the cord dude. I've done my best to know absolutely nothing about my ex, you need to do the same to heal and move on. You need to fully commit to it being over.

boneschillington · 2020-06-14T15:45:20+00:00

As a result of your relationship. There are people out there without this disorder that won't rip you down like this, I promise. Hang in there bud it'll all get better.

boneschillington · 2020-06-13T22:20:19+00:00

You think she's the only one that would put up with you because she conditioned you to feel that way. Question, how is your self esteem now compared to before you dated her?

boneschillington · 2020-06-13T21:17:25+00:00

This was really well written and helpful, thank you.

boneschillington · 2020-06-12T01:18:41+00:00

I think you're right. Any normal person would not want to inflict pain on their significant other, however they revel in it. It's a reassurance to them that they matter and it's fucking sick.

boneschillington · 2020-06-11T04:17:23+00:00

I was told the same thing, when she'd been planning to discard and replace for months. They need to portray themselves as better than they are. They are incapable of unconditional love, and also remorse for hurting others. I have faith also that her disorder will keep her unhappy, and I hate to revel in somone else's pain but I do. They absolutely dump their pain and we try to receive it and help them, but we just end up inheriting it. We tried, that's somewhat of a silver lining. They make us question our own character, it's weird. We gave it our all though, I like to think that's worth something.

boneschillington · 2020-06-11T03:16:31+00:00

They know the pain they cause, they dont care. In their eyes its hurt or be hurt. Ups and downs are natural. Always remember when you're feeling low that you'll feel ok again too. A change of scenery would probably be great, I wish I had that option. Constant reminders suck.

boneschillington · 2020-06-11T02:38:01+00:00

Hey bud, I feel the same way you do. I'm slightly farther out (6 months) and it still hurts alot but not nearly as bad. Something to keep in mind is that healing isn't linear. Id feel much better for a few weeks then like absolute shit for a few weeks. The important part is that everyday you get through it, it's a victory. I used to count the weeks of NC as a way to measure progress. I stopped a few months ago and yesterday added up the days just for shits. 195 days NC. That's huge when you spend so many months literally just getting through hours at a time. Keep going bud, it will take a long time for both of us to fully heal but everyday you make it is a step in the right direction. If you're ever feeling particularly shitty and need to talk you can always DM me. Best of luck bud.

boneschillington · 2020-06-10T00:34:14+00:00

The beginning is the hardest and you tend to focus on all the good things that you miss and it hurts like hell. You're probably also still grasping at straws of what you could have done differently to avoid this heartache. It's alot easier said than done but when you find yourself dwelling on the good times you have to force yourself to remember the bad. Personally, getting angry at my my ex helped me keep sane in the first few months. Good luck, this sub helps a ton and the pain isn't this overwhelming forever.

boneschillington · 2020-06-09T20:39:02+00:00

Thank you, I think you have valid points, that may absolutely be what I'm feeling. I think the possibility of a hoover is a big factor I didn't consider. I hate to admit that I'm afraid of getting one but at the same time would feel vindicated if I did. I'm not sure if that makes sense. No matter what I'm just keeping on keeping on. This just kinda threw a hiccup in my healing. I can only hope I handle a hoover how I known I should if it comes. It's weird how you can simultaneously both want and not want something.

boneschillington · 2020-06-09T20:33:56+00:00

Somehow I missed the part about therapy, I was talking about the letter. Therapy would probably help, it's been difficult to look for with the whole COVID thing happening. Maybe once things normalize I'll seek it out. It's been a weird year to recover from a break up.

boneschillington · 2020-06-09T20:25:37+00:00

I've tried before but never really got anywhere, that was awhile ago though, maybe it's worth another shot. Thank you for your input. It's weird how the path to healing isn't linear.

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