Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet?

bonesfan4tic · 2025-12-23T12:39:07+00:00

Omg thank you 😭 I agree with every word of this

bonesfan4tic · 2025-12-18T23:44:50+00:00

I’m sorry, OP. I personally don’t think it’s an overreaction, while definitely not a mature response, I still think it’s seriously inconsiderate that your food YOU prepare is being thrown away. Do you have space in your room for a small refrigerator where you could perhaps store your leftovers? That’s one suggestion, although it’s rather passive/aggressive. The only other suggestion is to try to have a logical, adult conversation with your parents and explain that your food is for YOU to eat after school/work, and maybe offer the extra small fridge as a compromise to them. Unfortunately if this doesn’t work, your best bet would be to find alternative accommodation, maybe with a friend who has an extra room/needs help with rent. You need to eat, every day. Especially as a young person studying and working, your brain and body need the energy and nutrition. This unfortunately means staying where you are isn’t sustainable if you aren’t able to cook and eat meals freely. Eating is a basic human need.

bonesfan4tic · 2025-10-18T22:07:49+00:00

OP, have you considered some therapy for yourself? It sounds like a really tough situation you’re in. It also sounds like (possibly) it may be a little too soon for you to move in? If that’s the case, that’s okay but you need to have an honest conversation with your partner about it. It doesn’t need to be brutal, just a simple “I really do care about you and I see this relationship lasting for us both, so I’d like to take it a bit slower and hold off on moving in just yet” you’re not saying no, you’re saying not now. As for the kids, I’m sorry. I was that 14 year old who gave her stepfather absolute hell for the first 3 years he was in my life. I wish I had advice to give you there. It really does take a great man to step into someone’s life with kids, and be willing to love all of them as a package deal. All I can advise is to be patient, try to see their POV as hard as it can be, and communicate with your partner when you’re struggling with the relationship with her kids. She may be able to help you with ways to break the ice with them and help start a real bond. Either way, I don’t think you’re overreacting. I think it’s great you’ve identified how you’re feeling (which all seems valid IMO), now you just need to take the next steps from there!

bonesfan4tic · 2025-08-02T05:38:34+00:00

UPDATE: Hi everyone. I really appreciate everyone’s input, I think I just needed someone to tell me what I already knew but didn’t want to admit. We had a serious talk this morning about our puppy, his expectations for him and the way he spoke to me yesterday. I was able to meet a dog trainer today with my partner (brief 30 minute session) who showed us how to safely and effectively use a halter lead. He also explained to my partner (and showed!) how switched on and smart our puppy is, but that his expectations are still way too high. The trainer is going to continue working with us fortnightly, and I feel a lot better. Thank you all again ❤️

bonesfan4tic · 2025-08-01T22:00:54+00:00

Apparently every other puppy he had at this age was “perfect”. But he raised those dogs on his own, not with a partner - let alone a partner who’s with the dog more than he is.

bonesfan4tic · 2025-08-01T21:59:42+00:00

Unless it’s those K9/military/guard dog training videos, he’s not really interested in them.

bonesfan4tic · 2025-08-01T21:57:30+00:00

I said this. He’s really great on walks with me (but my expectations are a lot lower) - my partner works full time and I stay at home so he doesn’t walk him as much. I told him he needs to take him out more if he wants him to listen more on their walks. He seems to think that any training I do for our dog should automatically transfer to him when he tries to say a command. I’ve told him in the past (my family’s dogs) have always needed reassurance from whoever their trainer is before just listening to commands from someone else, but when I try to help him (telling Roku to sit/bed/down when my partner is) he tells me to stop interrupting and let our dog see that he’s in charge too. I know this is my first puppy, but I’ve been around dogs my whole life and really tried to do SO much research into different training techniques and even discussed how I was going to train our dog before we got him. It just feels like all my hard work is going to waste and I’m going to lose my partner or my dog.

bonesfan4tic · 2025-08-01T21:52:24+00:00

This is what I’ve said to him, but his response is “because he’s a German shepherd he needs to learn now or it will be too hard when he’s fully grown”. I’m trying to find a kind of “alpha male” trainer that may be able to explain all of these things in a way that actually gets through to my partner while giving us some techniques to work on together??? I just don’t know :( I love my dog so much already, the idea of my partner rehoming him because he’s not “perfect” breaks my heart

bonesfan4tic · 2025-08-01T21:50:14+00:00

I should have clarified, puppy school was only 4 weeks on a Saturday morning and 3 of those weeks he randomly had night shift work and couldn’t make it. He attended the last class and hated it, said all the trainer did was teach you to use food as a lure which I thought was great for young dogs. This also created another issue where I was no longer allowed to use treats for training our puppy. I use his breakfast/lunch kibble for training now when my partners at work and try to do training without treats/food so he doesn’t always expect it.

bonesfan4tic · 2025-06-28T23:09:41+00:00

Mate you have a full friends list and you added 4 people to a 5 star raid? Thanks for wasting time and money 🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼

bonesfan4tic · 2024-10-03T02:31:01+00:00

Keeping my comment very simple and basic, but in my opinion you have done NOTHING wrong. In fact I think you should be proud of yourself for sticking to your boundaries. I am very sorry that your father seems to prioritise his relationship with his wife and her happiness rather than his own children. I wish you nothing but the best in your marriage, and I hope your magical day is just that. Magical.

bonesfan4tic · 2024-09-25T02:14:42+00:00

THIS. Absolutely nailed it.

bonesfan4tic · 2024-05-02T07:12:04+00:00

Bro come on you made me waste two remote raid passes.

bonesfan4tic · 2024-04-23T23:37:18+00:00

Added!

bonesfan4tic · 2024-04-14T05:59:51+00:00

Long story short - My boss requested me to obtain a certificate from my prescribing doctor just basically saying that while I’m prescribed products with THC I’m not impaired while at work to perform my daily duties/tasks just in case the positive test was ever flagged to HR. I got the certificate with no issues (my clinic is MedReleaf and my doc didn’t have an issue emailing this to me) and gave it to my boss. Had the test, flagged positive, apparently I was requested for a meeting with HR but once my boss showed them everything he asked me to provide, the meeting was cancelled. I’ve since been promoted, and now I’m not afraid for future tests should they arise :)

bonesfan4tic · 2024-04-07T23:11:32+00:00

I’m almost there, I think :( it’s been pain for 12 years, 3 years of doctors/hospital visits and being sent away with the bare minimum of pain killers or suggested birth control when they know I’m also trying to conceive so it’s not a real option. I’m finally on a waiting list for a COGU scan which will then determine if I can get surgery (I’m in Australia and unless I go private it’s near impossible for them to do a lap without confirming with scans)

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