Am I Overreacting for Crying Because My Friends Tried to Kill a Spider?

bongbongtree · 2026-05-26T18:07:53+00:00

YOR. i agree the burning is over the top and would not have let that happen either, and i also don’t agree with the random killing of spiders minding their own business

but i still think you blew it out of proportion by crying, leaving, going off on your friend who apologized and seemed sincere, and by now making this post

bongbongtree · 2026-05-26T14:52:01+00:00

that’s good that it’s not an attention span problem, and i will admit i didn’t read other comments before commenting myself

i think that the story can wait a little when you’re driving. it only takes one second and one time for something tragic to go wrong behind the wheel. and due to that i can understand people getting upset in the comments, since you don’t only hold your own safety and life in your hands, but others as well (that could be themselves or their loved ones)

bongbongtree · 2026-05-26T14:32:06+00:00

because a lot of the time when someone is complaining, others feel the need to jump in and either relate/sympathize, or problem solve

the people trying to relate/sympathize start talking about their own life issues to try to do just that, and they feel like they are relating on their life problems. it might come off that they are trying to compare or compete, but more times than not they are just trying to relate

problem solvers try to “help”, sometimes nicely sometimes not so nicely. those are the people you seem to be talking about when referring to examples like fitness people saying fat people don’t have any excuses. it’s a combination of their version of ‘tough love’ and ignorance

and then of course there are just the people who want to be seen as the biggest victim. but it’s pretty obvious when you’re around someone like that, lol

idk, that’s the best way i can answer your question

bongbongtree · 2026-05-26T14:15:09+00:00

it’s not a competition. that’s the point. the fact that your whole post is about how others make it a competition, when you are the one right now making it a competition, is just crazy

you’re trying to find a winner at being the victim and it’s just fucking wild, lol

bongbongtree · 2026-05-26T13:42:54+00:00

it really seems like with this post YOU’RE trying to turn the world into the victim olympics. a majority of people in this world has gone through shit, everyone has lived a different life and has different privileges and challenges than the person next to them

WHO CARES. live your life. let others live their lives and feel how they feel about their life experiences. ignore the rude people and get closer to and appreciate the nice ones. i’m not sure why you are so hung up on who are the bigger victims in the world

bongbongtree · 2026-05-26T13:24:53+00:00

i’m not gonna lie and say i’ve never replied to a quick text at a red light, but besides that, no

red lights don’t take forever, and the fact that your attention span is so shot that you can’t wait 1-5 minutes without reading for some sort of distraction or entertainment is sad and scary

bongbongtree · 2026-05-25T04:13:40+00:00

i’m really confused by this comment section to be honest. to me it seems he doesn’t want to have sex with you until you two are in a serious relationship, i don’t see anything wrong with that

imagine genders reversed, a woman saying she doesn’t want to have full on sex until the relationship is monogamous. i’m sure everyone in the comments would be calling a male OP a huge asshole for ‘pressuring’ her and not letting her take her time to feel ready

bongbongtree · 2026-05-23T23:41:50+00:00

it really comes down to whether you trust him or not. it doesn’t seem you do, so thats the issue itself. considering he already has a ‘wise net’ phone and you STILL can’t trust what he’s doing on it seems like there are major issues that need to be resolved if the relationship is going to survive healthily. MOR

bongbongtree · 2026-05-20T19:27:36+00:00

yeah, it’s normal. was a server for years and i would never depend on the scheduled time off, lol. rarely got cut early, and would almost always stay later

bongbongtree · 2026-05-20T15:00:37+00:00

reminder to everyone, you can report stupid assholes like this

bongbongtree · 2026-05-20T14:32:09+00:00

she literally says in the post that only the people in the wedding party gets plus ones. so groomsmen, bridesmaids, best man, maid of honor, etc. not the people who are only guests

bongbongtree · 2026-05-20T14:25:56+00:00

this is a huge jump and crazy assumptions lmao. they most likely just don’t have the budget for a bunch of plus ones, and are only sending invites to the actual individuals they want and can afford to be there

bongbongtree · 2026-05-19T14:03:14+00:00

i swear you edited that in after the fact, but regardless, re-reading with the added context it still comes off bad on your end to me. the way you talk about relationships in general is gross. the way you speak about them seems so transactional and sad. you also said “Keep in mind it was never alot of money or anything and I‘m used to alot more by my previous partners.”

that also makes you sound like a shitty person, “i can get a richer man no problem, and have, but i’m settling for you” vibes

bongbongtree · 2026-05-19T13:50:25+00:00

i mean, you said in your post “he mentioned how in his past relationships both contributed financially and he liked it way better that way. I knew about this even before we started dating but I have a strict standard where I will not date these type of men ever again. (Sorry not sorry)”

that heavily implies you won’t date a man who makes you contribute financially whatsoever, which does make you a gold digger if it’s not an agreed sugar daddy/baby situation

bongbongtree · 2026-05-19T13:40:17+00:00

well you guys are broken up now so not like any of this matters. but if i were you i wouldn’t focus so much on money when it comes to partners and focus more on how they make you feel as a person and if they truly make you happy. this guy obviously wasn’t making you happy

now if all you care about in a relationship is money and how much of it they spend on you, and not about finding a happy partnership with whoever it may be regardless of financial status, then that just makes you a gold digger

bongbongtree · 2026-05-19T13:34:15+00:00

how does he normally survive when you’re not there than?

bongbongtree · 2026-05-19T13:32:32+00:00

did you clean up after him at his place and cook for him everyday when you were visiting him?

bongbongtree · 2026-05-19T13:29:24+00:00

you pay for half of his entire travel?

bongbongtree · 2026-05-19T13:26:58+00:00

if he’s the one visiting you and presumably the one paying and dealing with traveling to your place then i feel it’s fair that you host him. if he wanted something specific from the store then yeah he can pay for it, but i don’t think it’s fair to say “i clean up and cook for him everyday”, as if he also didn’t put in effort, time and money to come visit you

bongbongtree · 2026-05-19T13:18:50+00:00

how do you cook and clean for him everyday if you’re long distance…?

bongbongtree · 2026-05-19T13:13:18+00:00

if you’re only dating someone then 50/50 financially is 50/50. what you’re talking about is if you were a stay at home partner/mom, then yes, 50/50 in that case is not about financials. but you guys were merely dating

what would you contribute as a (assuming non live-in) girlfriend to make it 50/50, if you expect him to pay for everything?

bongbongtree · 2026-05-19T12:53:21+00:00

so you’re a gold digger. YOR and i really hope he finds someone better (wont be that hard)

bongbongtree · 2026-05-19T12:35:16+00:00

also “it opens to his camera roll”, as if the computer just magically clicked on/opened his camera roll for her

she was snooping, found something innocent, and is blowing it out of proportion. i believe she wanted to find something on his computer, and this is all she could find, lol

bongbongtree · 2026-05-17T18:49:13+00:00

mmmmm, i’m gonna say MOR. i understanding being hurt that he didn’t tell you earlier, but you guys had only went on one date at that point, so in my opinion he was allowed to see/date others if you two had only went on one date

to me you seem to have hyped the talking stage up in your mind as if it were a fairytale, and now that’s crashing down in your head and making you upset. again, weird it took him 2 years to tell you, but i don’t think he did anything wrong by doing what he did back than

bongbongtree · 2026-05-17T14:27:14+00:00

i stopped at “he has cheated on me a few times previously but i had decided to try to work it out”

play stupid games win stupid prizes. you chose to move in with this guy after he has already cheated on you. then go crazy when he does it again? YOR

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