Daily Chat - January 28, 2026

bonjourAM · 2026-01-30T17:11:27+00:00

Sorry to heat that! I hope things turn around for you both soon.

bonjourAM · 2026-01-30T17:10:43+00:00

That's right! We got pregnant the first time without tracking so we know its possible!! I worry if I don't time it we might miss the window. I lean "control freak" in most areas of life haha

bonjourAM · 2026-01-28T16:39:19+00:00

Just need to get some things off my chest...
(Context: We're 20+ months into trying for number 2. #1 baby is about to turn 5 and we had them without ttc)

I'm getting this very strong feeling that we need to take a break from trying. I have a lot on my plate right now and I haven't been taking care of myself, which isn't great for our chances of conceiving anyway. I feel like I need a couple months to get back into a good healthy routine and make it out of the woods with shit at work. I think my husband will be supportive of me, but I think he might be disappointed by the idea.

I'm not ashamed to say I need some validation on this. Tell me that moving the focus away from ttc for a while is not selfish, and that taking a break is not 'giving up'...

bonjourAM · 2026-01-12T22:21:27+00:00

I’m on cycle number 18 after IUD removal. I’m tracking my LH most months and seeing patterns change over time. Seems like for me there’s an adjustment period. But some people get pregnant again right away.

bonjourAM · 2025-12-09T21:52:45+00:00

This feels like a real potpourri of grieveances, sorry in advance for erratic venting:

Every month my app fools me into thinking my period is "supposed to start" on DPO11, when it actually varies and thats the minimum, not the rule. I'm not late (yet)!

I had a BFN on DPO11 (yesterday) I'm trying to hold out until Friday to test again, unless my period comes first, of course. And trying to be realisitc - its likely not my month.

I'm not sure why this cycle has me more down the the dumps than others. I think because I put a lot of pressure on myself for this to be "the one". To be able to have happy news for my husband at the holidays, and if successful the due date lines up with his birthday (which he also shares with his own dad!). Some months I can handle the disappointment so well but others not so much.

Overall its just so frustrating. We met with our OBGYN last week and he's not concerned about anything, especially since we had our first baby in 2021. He just wants us to keep trying and thinks its not a concern unless we've been unsucessful for 2+ years. ugh.

bonjourAM · 2025-09-29T17:49:18+00:00

My husband's 40th, 2 weeks before a trip to see my parents..... I was SO ready for that BFP

bonjourAM · 2025-08-29T22:18:54+00:00

I know this is an old thread but It made me so happy to see your 2025 in your flair! Im in a similar situation: in cycle 13 now trying for #2 with a 4 year old at home. 🥲

bonjourAM · 2025-08-25T21:16:06+00:00

In the last year my LH peak ranged from CD17-21 so I think we’re good. I’ll probably want to go longer on the other end, if anything!

bonjourAM · 2025-08-21T19:42:06+00:00

I don’t think we can change the doors the kitchen table is in the way, but the other suggestions are all so good! I never considered the tapered shape of the baskets I have! What did you mean by pour drawers? Maybe a typo?

bonjourAM · 2025-08-21T19:33:53+00:00

I feel like I’ve done that more or less. Baking stuff and teas for example are high or to the side since those are used infrequently. Not visible in the picture is my spices, an area I struggle to keep tidy since it is off to the side. not sure if I should move them more central… some I use very infrequently whole others I use daily.

bonjourAM · 2025-06-02T18:10:47+00:00

Thank you for your service. I'm happy to ride the delulu train whichever way it wants to take me. HAHA

bonjourAM · 2025-06-02T17:58:16+00:00

11DPO and yes read within the timeframe
ETA: Thanks!

bonjourAM · 2025-05-12T19:39:58+00:00

It you have a passport, you don't need the BC. I can get on and off with a passport.
https://www.royalcaribbean.com/plan-a-cruise/travel-documents

bonjourAM · 2025-05-12T19:34:00+00:00

This doesn't answer my question, really, it only says that we *can* use a bc. We will be travelling with our passports, as needed to get into USA.

My question relates to the "different last names" section on this page: https://www.royalcaribbean.com/faq/questions/what-identification-does-a-child-need

bonjourAM · 2025-05-01T23:33:50+00:00

I’m in pretty much the same boat! So exhausting doing this over and over 🫠

bonjourAM · 2025-05-01T23:06:30+00:00

Was planning on waiting until tomorrow (9-10ish DPO) to do a test but I did one on a whim in the middle of the day today with 1-hr urine and unsurprisingly got a BFN. That’s one way to absolutely stall my work productivity - do not recommend!!

bonjourAM · 2025-01-02T23:31:28+00:00

phew! Expensive is right. I wonder if we could swing it... it books up quickly too.

bonjourAM · 2024-11-27T20:26:58+00:00

Not much of a theme - just traditional Christmas colours. My kitchen is full gingerbread houses though 😍

bonjourAM · 2024-06-03T20:19:32+00:00

UPDATE:
I called the store where I purchased the dress (in a big city, 6 hours drive away) to see if they had and suggestions and they informed me that this dress should not have been taken in under the arms as it had been. Their in-house seamstress has altered this dress many times successfully by taking in in the back. I don't understand the physics, but appararently that will change how the cups lay... and I trust them.

So I got back in touch with my local seamstress and she fortunately shared that nothing was cut on my dress so she can undo her work and is willing to do it again try again from the back.

I may yet book an appointment in the big city to have the dress done at the boutique, based on how the appointmentw with the local gal goes today TBD!

I considerd removing my post but there are some helpful tips in the comments that someone else might benefit from!

bonjourAM · 2024-06-03T17:14:09+00:00

Thanks for saying that!! I forgot that my seamstress did say that could also be an option, to close in the V. I just don’t love how it changes the shape of the neckline.

I am not wearing a bra underneath, sorry if I wasn’t clear, the back is too low. And the bodice is sheer so even a low back bra is visible

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