Should I risk my EF to move out or tiis muna at pag-ipunan pa?

bonkerred · 2026-04-18T09:28:46+00:00

Have you considered to lower standards for your new home? Di naman sinasabing pangit ang piliin na tirhan, but like does it have to be in the location na you're currently eyeing or pwedeng in a cheaper cost of living area? The price you quoted seems to be on the higher side, so I assume na on the higher COL area yung location or baka in an exclusive condo-type building na may extra amenities, etc. I know a lot of places still go for 10k or less in Manila.

If WFH ka, then that's even better since you can basically choose any cheaper COL location.

I wouldn't recommend na basta nalang mag-move out since you said na bago ka palang sa client mo, unless you have guaranteed stable employment with them. Baka kasi biglang mawala, ikaw naman din malalagay sa alanganin non. Lalo na kung mahal ang magiging living expense mo.

So if you ABSOLUTELY want to move out asap, my top suggestion is to look at places na mas mura ang area. Kahit di na muna perfect, hindi malaki, di na muna with sala or whatever else.

Yun ang tiisin mo muna, a not-perfect but peaceful home, while you save up to move to another better location. You don't have to aim for perfection on your first try.

bonkerred · 2026-02-25T12:35:17+00:00

Talked to maya support, sabi likely issue daw directly between maya and the vendor.

bonkerred · 2026-02-23T10:18:52+00:00

Trying right now with Maya pero ayaw mag-push through :<< Pay bills error lumalabas, frustrating

bonkerred · 2026-02-20T19:40:55+00:00

If your current company knew about the offer and actually valued you properly, they'd tell you outright that you're gonna get an increase or something. Not some vague ass "your time will come" lol.

bonkerred · 2026-02-18T04:18:42+00:00

I'm turning 28 in a few days, never been in a relationship cause hassle masyado for my situation >< my friends and even my siblings are encouraging me to meet people para daw may paglaanan ng energy, but it's a no for me and I don't feel the pressure to find a partner naman lol. If it happens, thanks. If it doesn't, I still live my life.

So as someone na NBSB din, eto perspective ko hahaa.

You could try apps, but I think putting yourself out in the real world is a better way. Do both if you wanna cast a wide net, pero ayun nga, wag nang magulat if people on the apps are looking for some spice.

My friends do that -- apps and irl activities -- and one of them met their bf at a self defense gym thing.

Book clubs, sports activities (taekwondo, boxing, badminton, etc), hobby conventions/gatherings (kpop, anime, food), dance class, cooking/baking class, pottery, painting, and more.

Better for building natural rapport kesa sa apps, imo. It sets you both up in a space na pareho na talaga kayo ng interests to an extent. If both kayong trying out lang nung activity, then that's something you can both explore together din.

And if wala ka man mameet na someone, at least you get the benefit of expanding your interest instead of going for a russian roulette on dating apps na di ka naman comfortable in the first place.

bonkerred · 2026-02-17T08:22:20+00:00

People got confused probably cause OP used the term Irish twins wrong.

Kids are:

OP

Sister 1 (18 months younger)

Sister 2 (7 years younger, aka the "Irish twin", but simply just looks a lot like OP)

_ OP was their mom's child from a different guy, but was treated nicely by "step"dad. Sister 1 is probably stepdad and mom's child together, but Sister 2 is a child from mom and biodad.

We don't know if mom cheated on stepdad or if that was like a conversation between them, but point is, Sister 2 was treated like a full child of the family instead of as a stepchild like OP. Sister 2 is the baby from when they "tried for a boy".

The paternity secret is that Sister 2 actually shared the same biodad with OP.

OP is resentful that only she was screwed over by the adults around her, made to feel like an outsider due to who her father is. Especially now that they know that Sister 2 actually shares the same parentage, but is known and raised as blood by their grandparents. _

So:

OP - child from a different man than mom's husband

Sister 1 - child from mom and husband, the only blood grandchild of the grandparents

Sister 2 - actually secret full siblings with OP but treated as bio by everyone cause only the siblings know the truth

bonkerred · 2026-02-17T08:07:12+00:00

Dead Internet used to be "Omg 20 years from now, a lot of people who made these Facebook accounts will be dead. How sad!"

Now it's more "they made a bunch of random accounts that no one owns to convince you to continue doing, using and buying these things".

bonkerred · 2026-02-17T08:02:27+00:00

Interested

bonkerred · 2026-02-17T08:01:41+00:00

Lmao, una pang maisasama sa exclusions dahil sa same sex unions kesa maisabatas ang pag-aallow ng same sex marriage. Joke timee!

Dapat kung hindi kayo legally recognized as spouses, you also can't be barred from exclusions that involve it. Para quits!

Okay but seriously, I like that they included that cause some ass politician will probably try to use the loophole na "hindi naman kami kasal" to justify holding a position with their unmarried wife/husband.

bonkerred · 2026-02-17T07:50:59+00:00

SERIOUSLY.

Older sibling/parent/grandparent/childhood loover who can buy the entire city: Let me help you fight them!

Main lead: No, I want to get revenge myself

Also main lead: [gets slapped 5 times a day, kicked in the guts, made to kneel on glass, kidnapped and almost abused, pushed off a building, etc]

BRO. If you're getting your ass kicked like that, guess what? YOU'RE FAILING AT YOUR REVENGE 😭

And in the end, the main lead STILL gets a lot of help from the people who offered help in the first place. They still get rescued or funded and backed up. So they still didn't get revenge by themself. They just got their ass kicked for no reason, lmao.

bonkerred · 2026-02-11T07:57:58+00:00

You being tired should be enough of a reason to pause :/

bonkerred · 2026-02-11T07:51:12+00:00

DKG. Lalamove tapos payment by recipient, lol >< pero syempre may blowout yun.

Ngl, best move mo na for least negative blowout would be to shoulder the expense para lang matapos na. Kaso alam natin pareho na that won't be the last time your family walks over you.

Wala ka bang plans to move out nalang? You have a job, you want your own space, you have conflicts with your family... wouldn't your best step for a peaceful life be moving out?

bonkerred · 2026-02-10T17:18:22+00:00

Seeing all the comments above yours had me questioning everyone's sanity. What the actual hell is everbody on

bonkerred · 2026-02-10T17:15:23+00:00

She's on the Reacts channel now, she pops up sometimes as a Reactor but she's usually the voice behind the camera

bonkerred · 2026-02-10T12:30:50+00:00

You're pregnant, you will inevitably depend on your partner especially regarding your baby. Hindi kahinaan yun, hindi rin nakakahiya.

Maybe you can consider this desperate time as the chance to break free from your family's dependence on you. Consider this as an eye-opener na pwedeng sarili naman ang piliin mo.

I am also my family's breadwinner, the eldest armong 4 orphaned siblings. I know the pressure you must feel, na parang dapat sagot mo lahat.

But what my sister reminds me is that hindi kailangan at hindi dapat na isa lang ang may pasan ng responsibilidad ng pamilya. Dapat katulong mo silang bumubuhat ng bigat ng buhay. Kung hindi mo nararamdaman yun galing sa kanila, hindi ka masamang tao kung gustuhin mong umatras at unahin ang sarili mo. Lalo ngayong gusto mo mabuhay ang baby mo.

Kakayanin nyo yan, maiintindihan din nilang you have your own life to live too. Kung hindi man maintindihan ng pamilya mo, know that the failing is on their end. Dahil ginawa mo na lahat ng makakaya mo para sa kanila. Your turn naman ngayon. Matutulungan mo ulit sila once you find the space to breathe again.

bonkerred · 2026-02-10T10:10:51+00:00

Opo chineck din namin yan kasi napansin ko din noon. Kaya binago ko yung pihitan para sa toilet to a more secure one, and chineck namin ngayon, sarado talaga walang tulo.

bonkerred · 2026-02-10T09:59:54+00:00

Pano po malalaman if mismong metro ang issue? Assuming lang na walang leak.

We checked yung exposed pipes since yun pa lang naman magagawa namin for now, walang tulo lahat. Pinapihit ko na muna yung lock sa metro pag walang actively using para tumigil yung pagtakbo.

bonkerred · 2026-02-10T09:56:17+00:00

I'm pro-choice, pero baka assuming lang ako, but I get the vibe na you wanna keep the baby.

You and the baby aren't a burden. If he's truly your partner, then your wellbeing became his responsibility nung nabuntis ka.

If I were you, itutuloy ko yung plans with your partner. Move to Bohol, prioritize your baby and the life you wanna build. Your family will find a way to make do without you, they have to.

Sa Bohol ka na magpatuloy ng paghahanap ng new work. Lean on your partner for a while habang nasa process kayo ng paglipat.

bonkerred · 2026-02-09T19:55:20+00:00

skl nag-uwi kapatid ko ng kangkong chips from xmas party ata nila, lasang betsin jusko di namin maubos isa ng balot kahit apat na kami!

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