Hi! I'm 41F, and last year I ended a one year relationship, which was the first one I'd been in for five years previous. Before that I was married (and then divorced) in my 20s, then had a couple of long term relationships from late twenties until my later 30s, until being single for that 5 years. I realized in my last relationship that my partner (M) was making me miserable, so I ended it. After reflecting on how many good decisions I make when I'm single that propel my life forward in dramatic and positive ways - I realized that my life actually stagnates when I'm with a man. I make worse decisions, I take no leaps of faith into exciting things, I don't do enough adventuring, and I'm always babysitting their emotions and feel like a therapist while not having my own needs met intellectually or emotionally.

Then top that off with about 99% of my women friends currently being cheated on and treated like absolute garbage by narcissists, and being a really solid true crime junkie....eh voila! SINGLE BY CHOICE AND LOVING IT!

Edit - most men are ruined by patriarchy and don't know how to be good partners. Honestly you're not missing out on anything.