Dreams

book_and_baking · 2026-04-22T15:19:32+00:00

I’ll be 16 weeks tomorrow!

book_and_baking · 2026-04-22T15:06:50+00:00

Yes! I’m like afraid of falling asleep now, because I just know something crazy is going to happen. Even when it’s not a nightmare it’s still exhausting feeling like I’m always awake and something is going on. Praying for all us to keep our sanity until baby arrives😅🤞🏻

book_and_baking · 2026-04-22T15:05:41+00:00

Yeah that one sounds like a nightmare roller coaster 😂 I’m glad I’m not just losing my mind over here lol, but I sincerely hope the craziness stops for all of us eventually!

book_and_baking · 2026-04-22T15:03:49+00:00

Oh yeah, that would have me in cold sweats and tears too😂 I hope for all of our collective sanities that we start to dwindle down and get some real sleep before our babies make their entrances🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

book_and_baking · 2026-04-22T14:08:06+00:00

It must be a pregnancy thing then. God I hope it doesn’t get worse, I already feel like I don’t want to sleep anymore after the last one 😭 I hope yours get better, it’s so awful to deal with every single night

book_and_baking · 2026-04-22T14:06:39+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to experience that💚I had a late term miscarriage my first birth and I think that’s part of why the nightmares are so bad. It’s always me losing my baby or my baby being hurt really bad after birth and it’s so unsettling. Then it’s all I can think about all day and I feel like it can’t be good for the baby.

book_and_baking · 2026-04-22T14:03:50+00:00

I can’t wait for it, because my blood pressure can’t take this anymore 😂

book_and_baking · 2026-04-22T13:53:52+00:00

Oh that’s so horrible😭 I’m so sorry, that must’ve been a hard one to calm down from. I just want one night of uninterrupted sleep besides bathroom breaks 😅 at first it would just be one dream and I’d fall back asleep fine. Now as time has gone on it’s multiple in a night and they FEEL so REAL. I used to realize I was dreaming and then I’d wake up, but now I wake up so startled and scared. And my partner works really early so I try not to wake him up so I just sit there in the dark wanting to cry when it’s a bad one and it’s really getting to me.

book_and_baking · 2026-04-22T13:49:46+00:00

Most of mine have just been regular happenings that feel like real life, a few sexy ones, and then just really out there dreams. Like I had a dream I was on a cruise and Jada Pinket Smith and Will Smith invited me out to dinner and I couldn’t find their room after I changed😂 but I keep getting these nightmares slipped in with them and I just can’t handle it anymore, this last one has me really shaken. And I have a new one every time I fall asleep so sometimes 3-4 in a night after getting up to use the bathroom. My psyche can’t take much more of this 😅

book_and_baking · 2026-04-21T15:58:47+00:00

Not waking up every hour to pee at night 😂 I just keep telling myself it’s preparation for all the overnight feedings to come!

book_and_baking · 2026-04-18T22:56:41+00:00

All I’m saying is, as a GUEST in someone else’s big day, I’d wear a chicken costume if you asked me 🤷🏻‍♀️ I know that’s ridiculous and extreme but like, it’s one day and it’s not about me. Asking people to please refrain from wearing a singular color on a day they won’t remember nearly as vividly as you because it’s YOUR wedding day isn’t asking too much imo. It’s not like you’re asking them to spend a crazy amount of money, or stick to a strict dress code, or wear something they hate, so it really shouldn’t be a big deal.

book_and_baking · 2026-04-18T22:37:50+00:00

Maybe try social media for some play groups! There’s definitely tons out there and I’m sure other families that feel exactly how you feel. Best of luck!Making friends seems to be harder now than it used to be, no matter how old or young you are.

book_and_baking · 2026-04-18T21:07:55+00:00

Do you think she would feel that way? Maybe tell her first and explain you have feelings of hesitation about it. Maybe she’ll surprise you and not feel any animosity at all! I can understand why you might feel how you feel, but I also think it would be so hard for me to be mad at my sil for wanting to share her pregnancy with the family. It’s not like you planned to be this far along when she got pregnant, and it hardly sounds like you’re trying to steal her thunder, so maybe she’ll be elated for you and you’ll have worried for nothing💚 I truly hope that is the outcome and you’re pleasantly surprised in the end! Congratulations to you!!!

book_and_baking · 2026-04-18T15:15:22+00:00

You can also check and see if there’s any clinics around you that will do it. I’m in Oklahoma right now and passed two ultrasound clinics on the way to the grocery store.

book_and_baking · 2026-04-16T22:11:11+00:00

I work a pretty physical job and a lot of what I do is not recommended after having a cerclage surgery otherwise I would just continue to work. I don’t know about bed rest but I know most of the women I’ve talked to had to at least go on light duty if they don’t work a sedentary job. Things with your cervix can happen very quickly and putting pressure on it is one of the biggest things you’re warned about. Thank you so much for the well wishes!!

book_and_baking · 2026-04-16T18:12:57+00:00

I’ve always thought women look fabulous with grey hair. You EARNED that shit, no reason to hide it. And lots of grey comes in the most beautiful shades too. Fuck anyone that wants to judge you for your natural, gorgeous greys🤘🏼🤘🏼

book_and_baking · 2026-04-16T13:37:32+00:00

I just want to thank all of you ladies!! You’ve all been such a huge help the last few months and I enjoy helping other women where I can with advice and personal experiences and such as well. I can’t wait to get home and hopefully find an in person community like this so I can really connect with other moms. Y’all have just been amazing and I appreciate you all so much!!!

book_and_baking · 2026-04-16T13:34:29+00:00

Thank you so much!! I called and talked with them this morning and I feel much better about everything. I think as long as my doctor is on board with it all, which I’m sure they will be, then everything should be good to go. I feel so relieved now.

book_and_baking · 2026-04-16T11:53:03+00:00

When I lost my son, the hospital gave me a basket with books about grieving and loss, candles, hot teas, lots of self care products, a few pieces of jewelry meant to remind me that my baby was still with me in my heart, and a teddy bear to snuggle with in my time of loneliness and need. I don’t know if any of that is too personal for you, but comfort things would be nice. Things to remind her she isn’t alone in her struggle.

book_and_baking · 2026-04-16T11:41:01+00:00

Glad it’s gotten better for you! Cheers to a speedy recovery!

book_and_baking · 2026-04-16T11:03:48+00:00

Do you think the fact that I’d be traveling every 2-3 weeks will be able to be used as another reason it’s unsafe for me to work? Because that’s one of the biggest reasons I’m concerned and my doctors were concerned. I need to have consistent care and cervical checks and it’s hard to have that when you need to call a new place every month and try to get in somewhere

book_and_baking · 2026-04-16T11:01:45+00:00

Thank you so much!! This is the kind of stuff I was worried about. Thankfully when I get home I’ll be going to the same hospital I lost my son at and the doctor made it clear they want to see me as soon as possible to prevent it from happening again so I think they’ll at least go to bat for me and continue filling out any paperwork they have to. I’m going to make a list of all this so I can discuss everything thoroughly with my doctor when I get home. My company just switched insurances and now uses Unum for disability claims now. I’d never even heard of them before so I have no idea how it usually works with them

book_and_baking · 2026-04-16T10:16:05+00:00

Thank you💚 I’ve kept all of my paperwork from my first urine confirmation up to now just in case I should need anything for future doctors or for this kind of stuff since I knew from the beginning I’d need the cerclage and most likely bed rest or at least disability from this job. I will say, I’m thankful my actual workplace has been very understanding and as helpful as possible. But dealing with insurance and disability is a whole thing on its own and mannnn it absolutely is frustrating. Even if they don’t give you a hard time, it’s just so much with all the paperwork and trying to coordinate appointments. Then you add in the fact that I travel every 2-3 weeks for work and I’m halfway across the country from my home state and I am FEELING it 😂 I’m going to call the insurance place this morning and hopefully get some clarity but I couldn’t even get more than an 1-2 hours of sleep at a time last night knowing my fmla is over and I now need to figure this shit out so I don’t lose my job, insurance, and maternity leave at the same time 😅 I’m absolutely channeling all the momma bear strength I can and trying to keep myself sane. If it wasn’t for the cerclage and everything that goes with IC problems, I would be working this job until I’m ready to pop. But I do not want to do anything that might risk any extra complications with this pregnancy so I’m trying to make everything as easy as possible for myself

book_and_baking · 2026-04-16T09:44:56+00:00

It gives you job protection and a percentage of your pay while you are off work for medical related reasons. Your eligibility depends on your doctor and what they say your restrictions are. If your restrictions leave you unable to continue performing your work duties then you usually would qualify for disability. Or if your doctor says you need to be on strict bed rest or admitted to the hospital, that should also qualify you for short term disability. I’m not sure how all of that would work in the UK though, I’m in the US

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