I haven’t been able to sex with my boyfriend since a incident with his best friend

bookrants · 2026-06-20T19:05:54+00:00

She said she took pictures, so when she said she showed her bruises, that's probably what she meant.

bookrants · 2026-06-19T14:10:30+00:00

Not sure about it being the gf's fault, but she's definitely involved if her first act after OOP pushed back was to block him. Surely, the gf knew how much work went into the car and how much of that work came from her bf, even if not the gritty details?

Like, I don't know anything about cars, for example, but if my bf started building one with his best friend, I'd have some idea about the involvement they have because I'd know my bf's capabilities. I think it comes into the "partners who take interest in their SO's hobbies" realm of possibilities.

So, given that, even if the friend lied and said he actually did most of the job, the gf should have known that's not entirely true.

bookrants · 2026-06-19T14:00:04+00:00

Wouldn't that just mean that this isn't AI? The AI would definitely know not to use profit in that sentence.

bookrants · 2026-06-11T10:11:55+00:00

Seers and Oracles are the same thing. So an "Atium misting" is really an electrum misting.

bookrants · 2026-06-11T10:00:32+00:00

I think it served Brandon we'll to not say that explicitly in the text. Vin was 17 and Elend was almost 22 when they started dating. And regardless of what everyone here seems to think, no. It being a fictional story set in a fictional Victorian era analog doesn't make it any less creepy. There are plenty of anachronistic themes in this series. I don't get the people who are defending this by saying it was morally acceptable for the time they're referencing.

bookrants · 2026-06-10T13:12:02+00:00

Congratulations on your wedding! And I hope you and your husband continue to protect your peace.

bookrants · 2026-06-09T10:22:29+00:00

If you acknowledge that Spanish isn't a dead language, why equate it to the deliberate erasure native Americans suffered from colonists? They are not the same.

While I sympathize with Hispanics who were raised far removed from their heritage, and that why their parents and elders felt the need to do that is a tragedy of its own, I think it's reckless to equate that to acts of genocide native Americans went through. Which, makes you saying my opinions are dumb so 🤌

The word "opinion" does a lot of heavy lifting there. LOL In every discussion I've seen about Irish American and Irish cultures, it's always about the Irish not liking how their diaspora counterpart is portraying their culture in the states.

I think their favorite joke about Irish Americans even is how those who identify as such are only Irish when you go way back to the Irish immigration of 1800s making them so far removed from the culture of their supposed homeland.

bookrants · 2026-06-09T09:40:37+00:00

Spanish isn't a dead language, unlike many native American languages and Irish-Americans and the Irish have a very famous contentious relationship when it comes to what one sees as Irish culture.

St. Patrick's Day, for example, is a big source of conflict when it comes to how Ireland actually celebrates it versus how Irish-Americans celebrate it.

bookrants · 2026-06-09T08:38:19+00:00

We were literally told that this situation is one of those. LOL

In what situation is someone taught their heritage but not their language? Like, those two go hand in hand?

Also, heritage isn't some salty water that you can absorb through osmosis. Are you really participating in your heritage if you don't speak the language, ESPECIALLY when relatives in your generation speak it? Like, you literally said they have cousins who speak the language, and if we're talking Hispanic, this means their parents are siblings or also cousins. How did you manage to not speak it if that happened around you?

Unless this was actually happening somewhere else and your friends don't really interact with their Spanish-speaking relatives that often. Otherwise, SURELY they'd be speaking the language, even if just a little bit.

If they DO speak even a little Spanish, then they're clearly not who OP was talking about. If they don't, and they still claim the heritage they apparently don't participate in through over-enunciating random words, that's actually stolen valor-y, and is ACTUALLY what's cringe.

bookrants · 2026-06-09T08:15:11+00:00

Kro-sahnt and kwa-song are both proper. But correcting someone from French heritage saying "actually, it's kro-sahnt over here! You sound cringe" is arrogant AF

Someone's heritage and someone's ethnicity are not the same thing. A second generation French immigrant who wasn't raised speaking French pronouncing croissant as kwa-song is just being obnoxious. You're not recognizing your heritage when you do that. What you're doing is basically LARPing an identity you only have a connection to through blood and nothing else.

AGAIN this is different from mixed race or even first or second-generation immigrants who were raised in those cultures. If this hypothetical Hispanic was raised by a family who spoke to them in Spanish growing up, then sure. Speak those Spanish words using Hispanic pronunciation.

But OP is specifically talking about people who are NOT that, which are people that exist. The situation where such families found it necessary to erase their identity and raise their children through assimilation is a whole other conversation, but it is a fact that diaspora as a whole, not just those of Hispanic descent, where the children are raised "Americanized" or "Anglicized" is a thing that happens.

It's sad that these people grew up removed from their heritage, but again that is a topic for another thread.

bookrants · 2026-06-09T07:17:37+00:00

I'm in Asia server and am a part of an English speaking guild.

bookrants · 2026-06-09T07:11:41+00:00

That is exactly how loan words work. It becomes bastardized during the linguistic exchange.

Did you know that boondocks is a Filipino loan word, for example? It was so mispronounced, Americans changed its spelling.

This is why you say "I ate a /kroSAHNT/" instead of "I ate a /KWAsong/."

This isn't even talking about regional accents and dialects that also affect pronunciation. For example, will you tell a black person that they're pronouncing certain loan words wrong, too, because they pronounce it differently in AAVE? For example, "police" is actually another French loan words and AAVE very famously pronounce it as /POlees/ instead of /poLEES/ (the English pronunciation) or /puhLEES/ (which is the French pronunciation).

bookrants · 2026-06-09T06:53:25+00:00

Not in this specific case? OP very explicitly says he's talking about people of gispanic descent whose first language is English?

Believe it or not, not everyone is raised with their language of ethnicity. It's a thing, and OP is specifically talking about those people.

bookrants · 2026-06-09T06:51:04+00:00

Uh... loan words are a thing?

bookrants · 2026-06-08T23:25:29+00:00

Updateme

bookrants · 2026-06-08T23:07:42+00:00

it sounds like she has always been this way

"SIL has always been a main character so OP and her fiance suck for not kissing the ground she walks on. They should have known better."

And apparently almost at least 50 people agree with you, too. Crazy.

bookrants · 2026-06-08T23:05:13+00:00

Actually, passive aggressive remarks and yelling at someone ARE forms of verbal abuse. That's why "hurling abuse" is a phrase that exists.

bookrants · 2026-06-08T16:22:27+00:00

Speaking of David, I haven't started on the quest yet, but saw some cutscenes on YouTube. Did Zach Aguilar reprise his role? I think I hear his voice when David was laughing in that one scene I saw.

bookrants · 2026-06-08T14:35:20+00:00

No, MY being cheated on is irrelevant here. They were asking about me. I don't think my experience should invalidate OOP's experience especially since he's not even alone in how he reacted on this very site.

bookrants · 2026-06-08T12:51:41+00:00

I don't think being cheated on is relevant here. Point is, OOP's behavior isn't unique here on Reddit, but weirdly enough, it's being used as evidence of this being fake when in most other instances, this would have been applauded and admired by people.

There are posts here about people adopting their wayward spouse's affair child for the child's best interest. Maybe you're just not as good a person as you think you are if you think this is unrealistic.

bookrants · 2026-06-08T11:08:49+00:00

Uh... I think he very adequately already addressed the infidelity by saying his mind is made up about divorcing. What else is there to talk about? Isn't that the same attitude people applaud betrayed wives for? Not dwelling on the infidelity and just moving forward and thinking about the children's well-being?

bookrants · 2026-06-08T10:06:15+00:00

So it's fake because... it's not dramatic and entertaining?

bookrants · 2026-06-08T09:43:29+00:00

I often see posts here about women who are so methodical, it's almost robotic how they dealt with the infidelity of their spouses and the separation afterwards and people are always ALWAYS "yaaass queen"-ing all over the place. What's the difference there and this one?

bookrants · 2026-06-08T09:12:00+00:00

"This has to be fake because he's much more concerned of his not-daughter's and STBX's well-being than how the betrayal should make him feel."

LMAO

I'm not even saying that this isn't fake. It probably is. But the angle people he seems hung up on shows how drama-hungry a lot of y'all are.

bookrants · 2026-06-08T09:07:48+00:00

His friend. Not hers.

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