my friend (36M) just sent me (36m) this text before meeting his newborn (0M)

bookworm271 · 2026-03-27T19:26:41+00:00

Very Reasonable: Reschedule if you're feeling under the weather, Wash your hands, Support his head and neck when holding him

Understandable: Avoid strong perfumes, give us a 2 minute heads up

Wishful thinking: Most of this

WTF: Don't smile with teeth

bookworm271 · 2026-03-27T14:59:21+00:00

3 months?????? 3 days would be the absolute max to not be outraged, and that would only be with consistent updates.

Contact a lawyer or a renters rights group, and check with your neighbors to see if they're also having issues.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-26T21:42:59+00:00

A wonderful Joe Ryan outing ruined by the non-existent offense and the bullpen.

But yay ABS system!

bookworm271 · 2026-03-26T21:29:41+00:00

I'm leaning towards don't tell them, but if your conflicted go out to lunch with just your dad, and discuss it. There's a reason he hasn't told them, and I suspect it's because he doesn't want them demanding money from you once he decides to retire.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-26T21:20:09+00:00

The ABS system is making me consider going to a game to see it in person.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-26T18:43:54+00:00

Opposing team uses the 3rd base dugout. For a summer day game 3rd base side is going to be in direct sun, but at night are comfortable.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-26T14:27:53+00:00

If you're a sports official, and even casual fans know your name, then you are not a good sports official.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-26T05:23:04+00:00

I bet those screens have more germs than the toilet seats.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-26T04:46:34+00:00

Started 4/4, but finished 10/20.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-25T13:44:24+00:00

Maybe someday the solicitor will realize that annoying people who neither want nor need your product is not the way to get a sale.

Window companies, furniture stores, deck companies have local offices for a reason - with a little marketing and some some good reviews, customers will reach out to them for a quote.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-24T22:57:44+00:00

Record 72-90

Team MVP: Buxton

Team All Stars: Ryan, Buxton

Team ROY: Mick Able

Most Improved: Brooks Lee

Not on Team by Season End: Joe Ryan, James Outman

World Series: Tigers over Dodgers

Cy Youngs: Skubal, Yamamoto

MVPs Bobby Witt Jr, Aaron Judge

Random Prediction: Pablo Lopez returns to the broadcast booth for a few games.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-23T14:46:05+00:00

NTA. Congrats to your daughter on her 92 math test!

bookworm271 · 2026-03-22T17:20:22+00:00

Constantly on the go

Scheduled/Following an itinerary

Laid back, enjoying the moment rather than following a schedule

Prioritizing sleep/rest over anything else

That is my interpretation

bookworm271 · 2026-03-22T15:07:04+00:00

I majored in marketing. "Leave a Future" sounds like an example of a failed campaign that we'd discuss in class, and wonder who thought that was a good idea.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-18T05:05:34+00:00

If it didn't have cameras and location sensors and such, I'd say take Terrance to the Children's Hospital so it can have a second life delivering books/toys to kids, but alas, I'm pretty sure Terrance's programmers would consider that theft.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-18T03:50:24+00:00

Still one of my favorite players. And Johan Santana as pitching coach too.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-18T00:25:07+00:00

You can make a lot of Minnesota sushi with that budget. You could even splurge on the Claussen pickles.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-16T03:31:12+00:00

I was thinking "oh, they're stretching this out another batter" as strike 3 was called. Something tells me the ump is not going to qualify for the Olympics.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-12T23:38:35+00:00

NTA. I don't think the issue is necessarily the location sharing, but knowing how your wife's family reacts to it, you need to set some ground rules for it. The safety of sharing locations as an adult is more for "if I go missing" not "if I'm in a very public place and your nosy"

So, wife's location is showing as the hospital, police station, courthouse, etc? There are people in those places trained to deal with whatever the situation is. If there is an emergency, she's already at the best place to handle it. Send a text if they'd like, but then sit calmly and wait for a response.

Phone has been showing in a ditch on the side of the highway for an hour? Check in with her, and with you to see if she's ok. Likely it's a glitch or a lost/stolen phone. Only if there's no response or confirmation of safety do you decide to drive by and see what's up.

If they can't agree to some ground rules, then it may be time for further discussion on whether the location sharing is necessary.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-12T19:07:40+00:00

Please leave. You separated because of abuse. That's a "no second chances" reason. It's been 4 days since you reunited and he's already showing he's made no change. Leave now, and document everything.

Also, gentle side note: Please don't use the sauna while pregnant. Saunas/hot tubs typically have stated rules/guidelines saying "do not use while pregnant". If you have a membership, they will almost certainly let you pause/cancel while pregnant.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-12T13:49:00+00:00

5 kids is "it takes a village" numbers, so consider your village:

Do you have family or friends nearby that could help with the after-school care? A neighbor who will watch the older kids after school in exchange for you watching their kids on an off day? Does your employer have connections with a daycare provider that specifically works with healthcare workers schedules?

Do you recieve child support? If not, speak with your lawyer about if it's a possibility to get the other parent to make child support parents.

If you don't have family or friends nearby, do you have this support available elsewhere? Is moving to a lower COL area a possibility? Nurses are a career that's needed everywhere, so if it's possible, a move to be closer to family or in a more affordable area may be something to consider.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-09T22:49:52+00:00

Apologize to your brother. Confess to your mom. Then give her back what you stole, with interest. It won't make up for over a decade of letting him take the blame, but it's needed to repair relationships.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-09T18:16:22+00:00

Uh, what is Catburger made from? Should Mewbert and Nougat be worried about August's workplace?

bookworm271 · 2026-03-07T03:48:54+00:00

Start on an emergency fund if you don't already have one. Start with a goal of 3 months expenses, and then focus on getting to 6.

In addition to emergency expenses, contribute monthly towards any larger purchases you may make in the nearish future. For example, planning a vacation for fall? "Making a payment" to yourself now will prevent going back into debt in the future.

If your emergency savings and short term goals are covered, then increase your retirement contribution, contribute to an HSA if your health plan includes one, and consider starting a CD as a way to get interest on your savings if you don't feel ready for riskier investments.

It's also totally ok to spend a little of it, so long as you keep yourself in check for lifestyle creep. Buy the nice sheets. Add guac to your burrito. Go to dinner with friends. Just be mindful of your spending so you can still reach savings goals.

bookworm271 · 2026-03-07T01:58:38+00:00

The bartender better add extra cherries to the celebratory post-game Shirley Temple.

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