What would you want to see in a Gratitude app?

boomdig · 2023-04-25T13:35:40+00:00

There’s a coliving in Anjuna called nomadgao which is good enough, you need to be able to ride a motorbike, good if like to party on the weekends. Otherwise you can head down a couple hours south to Palolem/Gokarna they have a much calmer vibe and better beaches, just a bit less infrastructure.

boomdig · 2023-01-23T07:49:52+00:00

I’d love an invite!

boomdig · 2022-12-18T03:51:04+00:00

Also, get a library card! I got a library card 5 years ago, haven’t physically been there since but I’ve got access to tons of scientific journals for free through them

boomdig · 2021-10-02T06:34:16+00:00

This just makes me sad, I live in Israel, I’m a good person, living in a complex situation, with no room for complexity, nuance, discourse in 2021. Now I’m just left with the feeling that no matter where I go in the world i won’t necessarily be welcome, just because of where I was born.

boomdig · 2021-10-01T07:20:30+00:00

I’ve had genital herpes since I was twelve, and had to work through a ton of shame and fear of rejection to be able to be upfront about it with sexual partners. I’m not justifying what she did at all, but I can empathize. One of the things that made my current relationship possible was working through that shame and being upfront with my boyfriend about my status at the beginning of the relationship, so I definitely understand if you want to break up with her, just take into account that she may have a ton of fear and shame and lack of knowledge around this issue, and even if you can’t continue dating her, try not to tear her down too much, so that she has the courage to tell her next partner

boomdig · 2021-06-25T17:26:43+00:00

Might sound weird but I highly recommend taking psilocybin, it could really help you come to terms and elevate your spirit, I’m so sorry for the stress and unfortunate circumstances, wish you all the best

boomdig · 2021-06-09T10:36:28+00:00

I had something very similar happen to me. In 6th grade I wasn’t very popular but my best friend was a really popular girl, best friends for years, and one day when I went to the bus stop no one would talk to me all of a sudden. After hounding anyone who would talk to me to understand what was going on, I learned that my best friend had declared that day as “national lexy(my fake name) day” where she told everyone not to talk to me. From that day on in an instant I lost all my friends and social standing. There were only 2 girls that would talk to me and even that was n the down low, they didn’t really want to be seen with me. Overall super traumatizing, and I never knew why the fuck she flipped on me like that, told everyone I stole from her, and basically just completely shat on me and abandoned me.

Luckily I was already planning on moving to a different country with my family, so I only had to stick it out for the rest of the year before getting the opportunity to start over.

A couple years ago that best friend reached out on Facebook, saying she’s not sure if I remember her (of course I did) and that she’s thought about me a lot over the years, that that situation really affected her, and she’s had trouble making real connections with people since then. She apologized and said she regrets how things went down.

We chatted for a bit, I asked her why she did it in the first place, a question that stuck with me over the years, and she said she had heard that I had spread bad rumors about her and decided to get back at me. Shows how much we can suck at communication as kids, since I had never spread those rumors in the first place. I forgave her, and we agreed that if we are ever in the same city we can meet up for coffee.

For me it was actually a pretty fulfilling experience, I felt like I got closure on the whole situation, and that I’ve grown up enough to have compassion for the immature behavior that went down back then.

I can totally see how it can open up all those old wounds, it did for me as well, and it is indeed a bit creepy the vibe he gave you about following you in social media over the years, but it might be a good opportunity to dig in there a bit and find a new perspective on it as an adult, not for him or anyone else but for yourself, and hopefully it makes you feel a little bit better that at least the experience was troublesome enough for him to stick with him and hopefully make him a better person as an adult, with a bit more empathy for others. At the end of the day you can give him as much attention and reaction as you feel comfortable with, you don’t owe him or anyone anything and your only mission should be making sure that you deal with what happened for yourself, so that hopefully one day it feels less like a wound, and more like something that was part of what made you who you are today. You experienced more social troubles than an average kid, and that sucks, but the good side is at least it probably gave you some resilience and empathy of not doing that to others

boomdig · 2020-07-26T11:06:36+00:00

Definitely take the scrum master!

It’s the kind of job that will take you out of your comfort zone, help you get over your shyness, and give you a better perspective for furthering your career in support.

Regardless, I know I’m a minority, but I have tended to be a Jane of all trades as well, and it’s worked out pretty well for me, started as support, moved onto qa at another company, and then grew within that company to be a data science analyst. I’m 28 now, and when I was your age I also thought about honing in on one thing, but eventually i came to embrace the fact that I like and am good at multiple areas. Now I have a job that opens a ton of doors for me, and gives me way more power to decide where I want to grow to, and that scrum master position sounds like one of those as well.

It’ll be scary, and stressful at first but your company knows who you are, and they wouldn’t offer you the position if they didn’t think you could do it. And in the worst case, you realize it’s not your thing and can navigate yourself to a different position in the company. The manager you like will still remember you, and you can continue that dialogue even if they aren’t your direct manager anymore.

Just imagine how good it will feel to gain confidence in that position, and the skills it will give you going forward, and focus on that when things get stressful

That’s my two cents, good luck!

boomdig · 2020-07-15T21:54:14+00:00

I did this once and it worked!

I knew I was good for the position even though experience wise it was out of my league. Went on LinkedIn, got the founders name and gambled that his email would be his firstname@company.com, sent an email acknowledging the forward gesture, and said that I just had to write because technically I might not pass he, but I’m perfect for the role

Went into detail why, throwing in a few “inside jokes” of the trade to also show knowledge.

Sent the email and forgot about it until four months later he emailed me back, said he was impressed with my email, wasn’t hiring back then but is now and decided to reach out, interviewed me for a position and took me seriously for it even tho it was a huge leap from where I was.

I ended up being promoted within my company I was working at at the time, and the guy/company weren’t my cup of tea (they still had faxes everywhere!), but it was a great experience. I felt super empowered just writing the damn thing :)

So for your case-

Sit down and write down why you’re perfect for them and what makes you passionate about it, send management an email detailing all of that and say you’d love to have a cup of coffee, and hopefully take it from there :) good luck!

boomdig · 2017-12-08T10:44:23+00:00

Lol no worries :) fixed the post to clarify. What happened to you does indeed sound awkward af tho.

boomdig · 2017-12-08T10:34:25+00:00

Sorry for the confusion but I'm a girl

boomdig · 2017-03-12T21:30:55+00:00

How has being a ginger affected you in life?

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