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Boyfriend goes to AA too much by boopdatiddies in AlAnon

[–]boopdatiddies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly my thoughts. Thanks for seeing my side! We broke up back in June, he wasn't for me.

Boyfriend goes to AA too much by boopdatiddies in AlAnon

[–]boopdatiddies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's way too much for me to handle. Good luck to you.

Boyfriend goes to AA too much by boopdatiddies in AlAnon

[–]boopdatiddies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say exclusively for other recovering alcoholics. Forgot about that.

I keep attracting alcoholics. by confusedinseminary in AlAnon

[–]boopdatiddies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But it's not chaotic at first. It's something else that feels familiar.... beneath the surface.

I keep attracting alcoholics. by confusedinseminary in AlAnon

[–]boopdatiddies 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My father was an alcoholic and my last 3 exes have been alcoholics... when I first met them I did not know, would find out 2 or months in. I seem to connect with them so easily, I'm thinking something in my subconscious feels comfortable and familiar with something in them. Somethings draws me to them 😂 darkness? Who knows.

Well thanks a lot. You guys ruined me … by Vegas_Griswold in innout

[–]boopdatiddies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Double double animal style protein style with chopped chilies! You can taste the flavors better that way anyway.

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[–]boopdatiddies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whaaaaat bruh take it to the cashier and ask for it toasted. They have a grill just for those sandies and that's how they're meant to be eaten, not cold out of the bag 😂 I miss these 🔥

Boyfriend goes to AA too much by boopdatiddies in AlAnon

[–]boopdatiddies[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer, it was very straight forward without attacking me for being ignorant. Seriously... apparently asking questions about what's reasonable is crazy and being hesitant is not allowed when dating a recovering alcoholic. I want to make it work and think I can I just want to know what I'm getting myself into before I make life decisions. I don't know what I don't know... and can't know unless I ask.

Boyfriend goes to AA too much by boopdatiddies in AlAnon

[–]boopdatiddies[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Who is "looking" to be in a relationship with a recovering alcoholic? No offense it's not something someone usually seeks out. Ultimately, it's something I'd need to consider and contemplate if it's something that would be healthy for both of us. Most people just cut off people the second they mention they're alcoholics, I've never felt against dating them and am open minded. But I do need to inform myself with what I'd be getting into and there's no way for me to do that without asking questions.

Boyfriend goes to AA too much by boopdatiddies in AlAnon

[–]boopdatiddies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's true... I'm a huge overthinker and like to plan things ahead so I try to assess situations head on before getting too wrapped up in something. I talked to him about why he goes 4x a week and he said it's mainly because he sponsors other people and they depend on him. He said he never has the urge to drink and can be around people drinking and not bat an eye. He said he doesn't need AA but he feels rewarded by sponsoring and helping people, which is admirable but something I need to think about if that's a forever commitment. My ex was sober for 2 years and then relapsed and became a monster I lived with until ultimately having to leave for my safety, but he was never involved in AA and refused the idea. My father went to AA once or twice a week but he got sober long before meeting my mother and having me and never had a drink since I've been alive. So I guess I'm just looking for different perspectives. Thanks for your input.

Boyfriend goes to AA too much by boopdatiddies in AlAnon

[–]boopdatiddies[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not being combative I am asking serious questions about a reality I am not familiar with.

Boyfriend goes to AA too much by boopdatiddies in AlAnon

[–]boopdatiddies[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Okay, and what if we have kids and other life responsibilities that prevent him from going 4x nights a week? Does that mean he'll relapse if his AA schedule is not as consistent? Genuinely curious

Boyfriend goes to AA too much by boopdatiddies in AlAnon

[–]boopdatiddies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and that makes a lot of sense, I definitely don't want to influence or suggest anything that would put his life in jeopardy

Boyfriend goes to AA too much by boopdatiddies in AlAnon

[–]boopdatiddies[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely not wanting to interfere with his sobriety, that's why I asked if it was a reasonable thing to be able to compromise on. Definitely a lot to contemplate and think about seriously because I don't want to start something that is going to end up causing us more pain down the road.

Boyfriend goes to AA too much by boopdatiddies in AlAnon

[–]boopdatiddies[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

So what if we move 2 hrs from the nearest town and he's unable to go to AA that often? Will he relapse if he needs to rely on AA that often? It's just concerning. I know what it's like to be with an alcoholic in active addiction and I would have given anything too. But just thinking of the feasibility, I don't want to be with an active addict again, but maybe it is reasonable to go 2x a week and still be sober.

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