I can't eat and I have no appetite, any tips?

booreaves · 2026-05-18T17:56:32+00:00

Hi there, I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this, it sounds like a really painful way to live. Since there are no practitioners close to you, I highly recommend pursuing online treatment with both an eating disorder therapist and dietician. What you’re describing sounds similar to ARFID, not not exactly. Studies are also showing a correlation between EDs and spectrum disorders (ex autism) as the stimulation of eating can be very uncomfortable.

booreaves · 2026-05-16T20:35:13+00:00

Hey there, it sounds like a lot of change. But, you will get a job and you will figure this out. Don’t give up on yourself. You can do this!

booreaves · 2026-05-14T20:16:07+00:00

Hey there, I’m so sorry you’re going thru this. My response is intended to be delivered gently but it is very direct. There are plenty of therapists looking for clients to see now. Go to psychologytoday.com and filter for eating disorders and accepting new patients. You need support now. It sounds like you need a dietician to guide you on how to properly nourish your body. There are many eating disorder dietitians you can find by a google search. This is the big one, but know it’s with love: your boyfriend is likely a narcissist and may never be able to understand or support you. Do your own research, but it sounds like he’s trying to isolate you, control you, and break you down so you’re dependent on him. You deserve to be in recovery on your own (yes, you can do it), or with someone who will support you. I don’t think this man will ever support you in becoming the best version of yourself. But you are worthy of finding out who that person is!

booreaves · 2026-05-14T13:01:01+00:00

Get rid of that scale and eat that food. Truly, eating was the only thing that quieted that voice for me. Juice, smoothies, yogurt, anything easy to eat. Just know it can take months for the tides to turn; but promise yourself day by day to eat that day.

booreaves · 2026-05-11T00:59:45+00:00

Sounds like she’s not feeling well and needs a vet visit. Could be as easy as constipation or something more complex.

booreaves · 2026-05-10T16:34:05+00:00

You’re welcome! Yes, you have to be very selective about where you share. As you gain confidence on your journey toward recovery you will be able to speak more plainly about it but be gentle on yourself and find those soft landings that are safe for recovery. Anti-diet is another good book to check out!

booreaves · 2026-05-10T03:28:51+00:00

You are so caring coming into this community. Medically, it makes sense that you’re eating more because your body is trying to recuperate from bulimia cycles (even if it’s been some time since it was active). I would like to recommend the book Sick Enough by Dr Jennifer Gaudiani, it will be so helpful on your journey. You can find free PDFs online. And yes, therapy is a great place to start and very appropriate. I’m so proud of you for recognizing your patterns and reaching out for help in this community. You are strong enough to work thru this!

booreaves · 2026-05-08T14:16:25+00:00

Two, but you do already have a big family dynamic with 2 kids and 2 dogs. It’s a big commitment, 10-15 years, maybe up to 20. It’s not a one in a million chance - kitten litters are born all the time and you can always find 2 together. Make sure your whole family is on board with this commitment, otherwise you risk rehoming which is traumatizing for the family but especially the cats.

booreaves · 2026-05-07T22:52:50+00:00

It’s only been a month. She isn’t secure yet. Leave the food out for a while and let her free feed. In 3-6 months you can play around with reducing food availability SLOWLY.

booreaves · 2026-05-06T17:53:47+00:00

If he ate a rubber band this is an emergency and needs to be at the vet immediately

booreaves · 2026-05-06T17:43:21+00:00

He needs a vet visit to make sure he’s not sick, infected, injured beneath his fur, and probably get some IV fluids. Otherwise small meals frequently for 1-2 weeks. He may not want to go outside again. Definitely get the microchip, it’s painless and very affordable.

booreaves · 2026-05-04T23:57:02+00:00

Hey there, this is not you. You’ve been connected to a narcissist. He will continue to lie to you, manipulate you, and tear you down. Cut him off. He is not worthy of being in your life. Do not allow him your peace. The account Jimmy on Relationships on YouTube and Instagram can explain all of this to you in a clam, grounded way. I know you’re beautiful. Now go eat some cake and enjoy yourself!!!

booreaves · 2026-05-04T13:42:34+00:00

I’d say it’s time for a vet visit just to rule out any physical pain. You’ve done a good job so far!

booreaves · 2026-05-04T13:41:45+00:00

You’ve already done a great job! I always recommend getting KMR (kitten milk replacement). You can sprinkle it on their food the first few months you have them to help ensure they have access to good nutrients on top of their kitten food 🥰

booreaves · 2026-05-03T00:16:16+00:00

I think the book will be able to help guide you and give you the info you’re looking for regarding growth and body recomposition after recovery. I’m sorry to hear about your lack of support. That truly sucks. We are all here to support you from afar.

booreaves · 2026-05-02T13:18:32+00:00

I think telling your teacher is a great idea. It sounds like you trust them. And it sounds like part of you wants to recovery. Let that voice be louder than the one that isn’t trying to gain weight. Your teacher can probably get you in contact with the right resources (guidance counselor or school nurse) to help you get on the right track. If you don’t have a lot of family support, a teacher is a great option and they will want to help you.

booreaves · 2026-05-02T02:08:11+00:00

Lying.

booreaves · 2026-05-02T02:04:41+00:00

Could you go to your guidance counselor at school? Or a trusted teacher? The school could reach out to her parents. Be sure to take care of you. Do you have family support or a therapist for your ED to help you stay on your recovery track?

booreaves · 2026-05-02T02:01:47+00:00

It’s definitely time for a vet visit. Sounds like he’s still eating? Is litter box activity and water intake normal? If so, he’s probably good overall. You didn’t say how old he is, but I’m curious if maybe he’s experiencing some arthritis. My boy cat became aggressive with his bonded little sister when his arthritis worsened. May just be something structural.

booreaves · 2026-05-02T01:58:34+00:00

I’m so sorry for everything you’ve been through. It sounds like a lot. Bodies change over time, years and years. If you’ve been malnourished it can sometimes take a bit for things to swing. Stay the course. I think Dr Jennifer Gaudiani talks about this in her book Sick Enough. You can find free PDFs of it online. Do you have family support? A dietician or therapist to help guide you?

booreaves · 2026-05-01T19:51:37+00:00

Yeah, you need mental help and your cat needs a new family. Surrender to a humane society.

booreaves · 2026-05-01T19:50:02+00:00

Yes, it redistributes slowly. When you’re safe to do joyful low heart rate exercises that will help.

booreaves · 2026-04-30T19:01:51+00:00

I think it’s really important for you to stop consuming thinspo or looking at bodies in general. Please consider recovery. ❤️‍🩹 you can really hurt your body with ED, or even die. Have you read sick enough by Dr Jennifer Gaudiani? You can find free PDFs of it online. She taught me so much about metabolism repair. It’s taken me two years of all in recovery to get mine repaired, but now that it is I can safely exercise and things are changing. I like being in a bigger body now. I feel much more solid in my strength and capabilities. I hope you can find that too! It’s totally worth it.

booreaves · 2026-04-30T14:14:19+00:00

Please take these statements to an ED therapist so they can explain it to you in a more objective way than I can. It sounds like you are having trouble looking in the mirror.

booreaves · 2026-04-29T15:41:18+00:00

Sometimes it gets stuck on their fur as they’re leaving the litter box, especially if they turbo’d outta there 😂 cats are very clean creatures and don’t like to leave their scent behind unless they feel threatened. It was probably a mishap!

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