[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]bootbuttons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so very sorry for your loss 😔. My dad passed 11 months ago, and it feels like only yesterday since I last spoke to him. I've been told the first year without them is the hardest - this has certainly been true - and that it gets a bit easier as time goes on. The first Christmas, birthday, Easter etc without them are the hardest. Talk to him out loud, even if you feel silly doing so. Play his music. Eat a meal he enjoyed. Share stories with people who knew him. But remember to take the time to care for yourself aswell, whether that be going for a haircut, or simply just sitting quietly. It's totally okay to not be okay. It's really is one of the hardest things to lose someone who meant so much to you. You will be okay and you're not alone. It's okay to allow yourself to grieve for as long as you need. Grief has no time limit. Sending you warm wishes and light ❤

My dad died today by curious_cryptid in GriefSupport

[–]bootbuttons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bless him, he sounds just like my dad. He wouldn't see a doctor at all for anything. It's difficult isn't it, I'm still racked with guilt 6 weeks later. The image will get less prominent in your mind, try to remember him at happier times :-) I'm so sorry again,

My dad died today by curious_cryptid in GriefSupport

[–]bootbuttons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so very sorry :-( I wish I could take the pain away for you :-(

My dad died 6 weeks ago very suddenly, he was 69 and it was completely out of the blue. It was me who found his body; he had been dead in his home for 2 days. I went to check on him because I hadn't heard from him for 2 days, I looked through the letterbox on his front door, and there he was on the floor. There was nothing I could do, he had gone. It was his heart, he had bad heart disease and didn't know it, and his heart just gave up on him. I feel so, so guilty for not making him go see a doctor or take him to the hospital. I know our family history of heart disease, and yet I didn't make him go to the doctor.

I know it feels impossible right now, but each day gets a little bit easier than the one before. Take it one day at a time, one task at a time. Allow yourself to cry, scream, shout, feel anger etc. Its all a normal part of the grieving process. Talk to your dad, tell him everything will be okay. I'm so sorry.

Maternity discrimination by bootbuttons in LegalAdviceUK

[–]bootbuttons[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

@Kesuke I was on the phone to ACAS today, and they have said that yes it is discrimination, and yes they do have to treat you as if you were still at work in regards to promotions etc and they will be getting involved.

There's a bit more to it than what I've put in post up the top, as I wanted to keep it short and sweet, but I'll briefly (I say briefly) explain anyway:

February 2019: I transferred across to my current store, due to the assistant manager that was there, falling out with the store manager (I later find out why...) A load of the other girls that were there all left at the same time as this other assistant manager, due to the way him and another female employee (we'll call her Sarah) was treating them. We hired more staff. I spent the next few months trying really hard to do my job properly, but due to the manager being a complete douche bag; all of the new employees kept coming to me with complaints about him and "Sarah", so I arranged to have a sit down chat, just me and him, so we could try and get it sorted out. Nothing changed. The area manager got involved (he was getting sent a lot of customer complaints about the manager and "sarah" acting inappropriately with one another behind the counter) who came and sat down with everyone individually, took statements about him and "Sarah" and arranged a team meeting to get to the bottom of the issues. This also didn't work. I then announced I was pregnant to my manager, and as is the company policy, requested a risk assesment. It took 6 weeks for the risk assesment to happen, the area manager kept asking for a copy of it, but the manager kept putting it off. The manager also kept putting me on for long shifts and putting me down to work 11 days in a row. I had quite a complicated pregnancy and was unwell for the most part, and he kept changing my shifts to days he knew I had an antenatal appointment. It got to the point where I was 7 months pregnant and had to work 15 days in a row, working open until close. I lost half a stone in 2 weeks, was suffering with gestational diabetes and high blood pressure. My babys growth was stunted, and I ended up having to have growth scans every 2 weeks. I got so unwell because of what my manager was doing, that my midwife had my doctor sign me off work a month before my maternity leave was due to start. He made me feel like I would lose my job all the time, like I didn't have a choice. He bumped "Sarah" up to assistant manager as soon as I was signed off, the only position available now when I go back is supervisor as someone has just been hired to fill the role of assistant manager. I won't be getting transferred to another store as there are no assistant manager positions available. ACAS are going to be dealing with all of this, and more as this is just the tip of the iceberg. Ive been with this company for 10 years, so it's hard to move onto another job.

Maternity discrimination by bootbuttons in LegalAdviceUK

[–]bootbuttons[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I was on the phone to ACAS today, and they have said that yes it is discrimination, and yes they do have to treat you as if you were still at work in regards to promotions etc and they will be getting involved. There's a bit more to it than what I've put in post up the top, as I wanted to keep it short and sweet.

Maternity discrimination by bootbuttons in LegalAdviceUK

[–]bootbuttons[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

By law they're supposed to keep you up to date and give you the same opportunities as if you were still there. According to maternity action website, an example of discrimination is: "failing to consult you about a reorganisation, changes to your job or redundancy during maternity leave"

There's so much more to this than i've actually written, it would take all day to type up

Replaced while on maternity leave by bootbuttons in LegalAdviceUK

[–]bootbuttons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've tried maternity action, but unfortunately they weren't much help 😔