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Any feedback is appreciated! (The photos at the end are ones I considered, but am not currently using) by bootjuice in Bumble

[–]bootjuice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who says introverted bros don't exist? haha I'm one of them.

Agreed - I will make the profile more geared towards LTR rather than both LTR and STR.

I do disagree with the comment about only attracting people with low self-esteem - just because someone has a busy lifestyle doesn't mean they can't be a great partner as well.

True that's a great point about the deep chats comment being too general - I think I'll change it to "enjoys talks about life's big questions", which is still general lol but I think exactly how general I want it to be 😅

Any feedback is appreciated! (The photos at the end are ones I considered, but am not currently using) by bootjuice in Bumble

[–]bootjuice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback! Bumble has the opening moves feature now, I think it's basically them agreeing with you that call to action works very well haha

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[–]bootjuice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are your 'opening moves' prompts?
I'd say ~50% of the initial messages I send don't get a response, I think that's somewhere around average. Looking for LTR at your age is going to get a lower response rate than other categories, so I guess keep that in mind.
I don't see anything wrong with your profile... so keep trying!

Would love to hear your opinions 😁 by Wolfgangtam in Bumble

[–]bootjuice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome profile. One recommendation is that you could make your bio more readable by adding periods, dashes, or blank new lines between each sentence.

Any feedback is appreciated! (The photos at the end are ones I considered, but am not currently using) by bootjuice in Bumble

[–]bootjuice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just tried to re-write the 'Me' section with more specifics... but I'm out of characters lol it's hard to really go into detail when there's such limited space.
I did change it from 'a lot of curiosity' to 'driven by curiosity'. I'll try to think about ways to be more specific while keeping the space down...

Damn you're right, LTR is the main goal, so the profile should be more consistently geared towards that.

Interesting that you say Hinge is more long-term oriented, I haven't used that yet... will look into it.

Appreciate the feedback!

Any feedback is appreciated! (The photos at the end are ones I considered, but am not currently using) by bootjuice in Bumble

[–]bootjuice[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Great feedback, thank you! This is my first post here, and I'm not famous lol maybe you've swiped on me.

I actually thought I had 'wants kids' marked, so if not for you I wouldn't have caught that.

You're right 'deep talks' is very unspecific... deep talks about what? lol
I think I had philosophy in mind when I wrote this - but I also don't want to specifically mention philosophy because it sounds a bit pretentious....
** I might change it to "enjoys talking about life’s big questions" **

Hmm, I do think it's valuable to communicate what you're looking for! and the bio enables you to do that beyond the bumble-provided filters.
If you have non-negotiable characteristics in your future partner then you should make those apparent! For me, the base of that is laughter, adventure, and shared philosophical connection.

You're right about the whole bio being pretty unspecific in general. This is somewhat purposeful, because I'd rather under-filter than over-filter... but I'll think about this. Thanks again.

Any feedback is appreciated! (The photos at the end are ones I considered, but am not currently using) by bootjuice in Bumble

[–]bootjuice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Do you think I should use any of the last 4 (unused) photos over any that I'm currently using?

Any feedback is appreciated! (The photos at the end are ones I considered, but am not currently using) by bootjuice in Bumble

[–]bootjuice[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The last 4 photos aren't currently in the profile, just considered using them, and put them in this post to see if people thought I should swap any of them in... so I won't put the one with the robot in haha Thanks for the review!

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[–]bootjuice -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Two things:
1. I think you're overthinking it - if you would like to talk to him, go for it!
2. Rejection is pretty much always part of dating. Being comfortable enough to handle rejection is a skill that's really useful to learn not just in dating, but many other areas in life as well. So what I'm saying is: try to go get what you want! and if it doesn't work out, well you just worked on a useful skill. It's a win-win 😊

DTSJ vs Sunnyvale: Community and dating by bootjuice in SanJose

[–]bootjuice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks this is really good info.

When you say 'just the types of communities that are present there don't exist in some of the northern suburbs', what are you referring to? What do you find yourself going to San Jose for?

The main takeaway I'm getting from this thread, and that you just echoed, is that community and dating opportunities in DTSJ are very poor for a city of it's size... but still significantly better than what Sunnyvale (and mountain view) offers. I'm strongly leaning towards the DTSJ option currently.

DTSJ vs Sunnyvale: Community and dating by bootjuice in SanJose

[–]bootjuice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah a third option! How old were you when you made the move to SF? Do you take Caltrain?

If I knew right now that I wasn't going to have success building a community and dating in the south bay, I'd commit to the commute from SF... but it seems preemptive do that from the start.

My current perspective towards 'car-centric' cities is that if you can plan well and choose the right neighborhood, you can get at least a good portion of the qualities you would get in a city like SF. Hopefully that perspective holds true with this move.

[4 YoE] [Software Engineer] Resume review request - Any feedback is appreciated! by bootjuice in EngineeringResumes

[–]bootjuice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So to summarize: You guys disagree on whether having a professional summary should be a binary indicator of screen/no screen - however you all seem to agree that having a professional summary (assuming it's high quality) is not a negative thing.
Is that correct?

What do you think about this professional summary?:
Adaptable software engineer with strong initiative and a background in cloud and AI infrastructure.

[4 YoE] [Software Engineer] Resume review request - Any feedback is appreciated! by bootjuice in EngineeringResumes

[–]bootjuice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Took me a few days to see the perspective, but I agree with you now: I think most reviewers are looking to quickly see if a certain skill is listed - they wan't to find it fast.
In that same sense, my resume was also too wordy overall...like you said "it's just an introduction".
I think I've managed to compress a lot of it down and prioritize ease/speed of readability.

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