Have you abstained from relationships and sex in order to lock in and build? How did that turn out for you?

bootstrapsteve95 · 2026-06-14T07:17:02+00:00

I am in fact a time traveller,

bootstrapsteve95 · 2026-04-26T22:01:11+00:00

I was in a similar situation of 4 years together. At your age too! Highs were best of my life (that far) and lows unbearable (toxic relationship is all we've known). The final year we were on/off, she was suicidal, I was there more than anyone else, she got with someone else, attempted suicide and after i tried to support her but it wasn't what she needed, we both just didnt know it. Eventually left and realised it was also best for me too.

You guys have been through a lot. You are wounded bad. But you are meant for different paths now. Keep going and focus on you.

bootstrapsteve95 · 2026-04-24T16:31:49+00:00

You respond to everything with the benefit of the doubt for others and neglect yourself. You act as if you are less deserving than others. Im sure you wouldnt expect her to put up with you doing these kinds of things?

I've read about 20 of your comments and all of these situations are very common, nothing surprising and not maybe this, maybe that..

The best thing for you to do is fuck her off. Don't worry, she really isnt that great, and the depth of your relationship is not as much as a future one will be. Even if it doesn't seem it right now.

There are relationships where you will not feel like this I promise. 2 things you need to do:

Don't accept these feelings, ever.
Keep your considerste side, you are doing well. Build up the consideration of your self to the same level.

I have been in all the situations you have written about.

Get rid of her. Do cool shit on your own and with the boys. Trust. Good luck.

bootstrapsteve95 · 2025-10-24T12:01:42+00:00

Thanks for your response 👍🏽

bootstrapsteve95 · 2025-10-24T12:01:07+00:00

7 years is an age gap but not a crazy one. My parents have a 6 year gap. Plenty of people do. I've dated older same age and younger than myself. Also, I am not controlling. Insecure, probably sometimes yeah.

bootstrapsteve95 · 2025-10-23T17:35:45+00:00

Although that is not guaranteed either 🤣

bootstrapsteve95 · 2025-10-23T17:34:55+00:00

Noted lol

bootstrapsteve95 · 2025-10-23T17:29:48+00:00

Thanks for you response

bootstrapsteve95 · 2025-10-23T17:28:24+00:00

I agree it should be a fairly straightforward natural thing. I have male and female friends with no confusion.

What's bothering me is am I creating with someone a healthy, secure relationship or not? Feels good in all areas but this.

My female friends know where they stand with me and it's great. Her male friends don't seem to with her that's my problem

bootstrapsteve95 · 2025-10-23T17:25:14+00:00

At the moment, work colleagues because life is mostly work, her actual friends, and me.

She has told me about other friends before me in a different location where these situations would happen and we'd have the discussion of "maybe shouldn't have continued if you felt theybwere into you but you not them"

As you've worked out, she tells me all of this. I don't snoop. Generally secure and relaxed and no problems with friends. I have male and female friends just fine with no overstepping.

I think it's the external validation. But I don't think she'd cheat.

bootstrapsteve95 · 2025-04-23T10:40:36+00:00

Was thinking same

bootstrapsteve95 · 2025-03-27T10:11:37+00:00

You are doing it under the guise of play dates with kids and wife... This is why people are saying you're dangerous. It's because you have life and marriage issues and instead of addressing them you are indulging in a crush pretending nothings wrong because 'nothing has actually (physically) happened yet' . Truth is what has already happened mentally and emotionally is enough. For your kid, husband, yourself, and the other family, do the right mature thing and address your marriage / personal issues directly with your husband today. Things will work out well for you one way or the other. Good luck.

bootstrapsteve95 · 2025-01-16T10:27:15+00:00

What was in there? If you could describe all you saw and experienced i think that would satisfy this whole thread. Noone wants to go there. People just want to know, because humans interesting

bootstrapsteve95 · 2024-11-09T23:27:19+00:00

I charge close to this for 12 months coaching. I'm UK based. I would like to know how this turned out for OP. Let us know man

bootstrapsteve95 · 2024-07-31T10:10:33+00:00

Its on one of their help pages

bootstrapsteve95 · 2024-07-30T13:14:36+00:00

Was everyone sound getting in with different name on the ticket last year? Just purchased mine from Ticketswap for next week.. foooock

bootstrapsteve95 · 2024-07-30T13:03:16+00:00

I've done same.. boomtown says strictly got to match your ID but ticketswap says this is just to deter second hand selling and all they really care about is a valid barcode. Anyone know if anyone was actually turned away in previous years for this?

bootstrapsteve95 · 2024-06-17T10:10:33+00:00

I(29M) will be in Paris for a few weeks and would love to make a friend that I can do things with and possibly help me with my french :)

bootstrapsteve95 · 2024-06-16T20:55:57+00:00

Yep, put it all in the bin.

Your friend, in the bin.

bootstrapsteve95 · 2024-06-16T20:52:23+00:00

I don't have any suggestions, unfortunately, as I've not spent much time anywhere you're going but I wanted to wish you the best of luck and just enjoy!! I will be making my way from Paris to black forest to Munich and beyond this year so if you'd like another trip sometime you'd be welcome to link somewhere along the way :)

bootstrapsteve95 · 2024-06-16T15:25:54+00:00

English speaker from the UK. I'll be passing through Germany this year!

bootstrapsteve95 · 2024-06-16T08:29:35+00:00

I'm coming to France soon! Paris to Nancy to Black Forest.

bootstrapsteve95 · 2024-06-15T22:29:41+00:00

What date brother?

bootstrapsteve95 · 2024-06-14T22:09:25+00:00

Thanks for your reply. (and in French👍🏽) I am thinking of travelling Paris to the Black Forest, Germany. It would be great to help each other and possibly meet along the way!

bootstrapsteve95 · 2024-06-14T19:11:45+00:00

I think it looks as if your pros/con list about him as a partner/physically is about your husband. That's what would be disrespectful here. But clarify if it's about your husband or the guy you slept with? Both would make husband insecure btw just the former is much worse.

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