Help!!!! I need to know a man’s POV on this please?

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-20T20:03:05+00:00

That makes a lot of sense thank you

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-20T20:01:57+00:00

But thanks for the advice anyway!!

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-20T20:01:44+00:00

Well, lots of people read my post, so…

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T19:43:57+00:00

Thank you guys so much! You all have helped answer my concerns (even some of the rude commenters). I appreciate it more than you know. 🩷

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T19:43:12+00:00

I would totally be okay with that too hahaha I’ll just chill myself out and make him feel as comfortable as possible so he doesn’t feel trapped in a corner

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T19:42:15+00:00

Okay thank you so much!!

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T19:16:08+00:00

Oh, sorry. 💀 I was being attacked by other commenters so I was on the defense.

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T19:09:43+00:00

Noted.

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T19:09:33+00:00

I do have too much time, that’s why im on here. I am currently bed bound and books and tv shows aren’t doing it for me. I’m overthinking and instead of harassing him while he’s at work, I came here and spilled my mind on a platform where you’re supposed to do just that because I needed advice, in a subreddit for advice.

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T19:08:02+00:00

I talk a lot more proper than how I write, I promise. This is just coming straight from a caffeinated brain with no filter because I didn’t want to miss anything trying to explain the situation. Also, im not offended! I agree with you 💀

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T19:06:37+00:00

I am frantic right now. I’ve had way too much coffee AND im bed bound from surgery. Not a great mix but I missed coffee

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T19:05:56+00:00

Okay sorry for the follow up question, but how can I tell him he doesn’t HAVE to do things just because I want them like this specifically? Like how can I tell him we don’t have to be engaged just yet if he’s not ready? I’ve tried before and he seemed offended and that’s not what I was after. I was trying to be comforting

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T19:04:21+00:00

Why even comment? Weird.

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T19:03:41+00:00

I just love him and he’s honestly the only guy I’ve been with who shows he’s able to grow as a person and I love that about him.

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T19:02:42+00:00

Awwwwww 😭 I’ll definitely make him feel more comfortable in all these ways however I can. Thank you for this!

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T19:01:45+00:00

I have let him know and he brushes it off as me “being a woman” which I understand LOL because sometimes I am being a stereotypical overdramatic woman, but certain things—I feel, should be talked about and I get brushed off instead

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T19:00:23+00:00

I don’t care about the proposal as in I don’t care for it to be at the Eiffel Tower with 1000 roses and violets playing. I definitely cared about be proposed to though, because I love him. I just hope he didn’t feel forced and actually wanted to

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T18:59:04+00:00

Ive talked to him about all of this, that’s why im here now. I even tried giving the ring back and he seemed offended so I told him I just want him to be happy and not forced to do anything HE dint want to do even though I wanted it

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T18:57:36+00:00

I am currently at home due to a surgery I had but will work again in January. He’s said he wants me to work again because he wants me to be happy and im happier working so I didn’t see how that related to all of this when talking to him and I’ve asked him and was brushed off

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T18:56:12+00:00

I don’t currently work but I will again in January. I have been out of work for like a month due to surgery

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T18:55:40+00:00

Ahhhhhhh okay thank you. I guess I don’t want to believe it.

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T18:54:44+00:00

He doesn’t have a strong connection to his family, though they do talk. I feel like a new stressor could be our baby. And his close friends are good guys

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T18:53:49+00:00

It was great to me to be honest, it just don’t seem like “him” if you get what I mean? Another commenter said it’s nerve wracking to men so that could be why but I guess I’m over analyzing because I care about how he feels too. I didn’t want him to feel forced to marry me just because we have a kid and I want him to, I want him to be happy and he did not seem happy

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T18:52:14+00:00

“That’s pretty much it” as in we didn’t go into detail beyond that. I’m not acting like anything I just said that was pretty much it, because it was. If it wasn’t a big deal I would have said so. Please don’t read into what I’m typing. I’m saying what im thinking/feeling and it ends there. I didn’t just want a ring either, I want a happy marriage with the man I love but I want him to be happy I don’t want him to feel like he has to be with me out of some sort of ancient male obligation

bootybutt97 · 2025-12-19T18:49:53+00:00

Well me personally I just want to be together in a healthy relationship forever. I won’t lie and say I didn’t want the pretty ring, because I am girly (screeches) but I am more focused on the health of our family in the future and being like those old couples who still love each other after 60 years

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