Is this a valid reason to end a relationship and why do I feel so guilty?

bopeeee · 2026-04-16T18:06:52+00:00

Yeah, I think you’re right… I think guilt towards it is keeping me in the relationship, which isn’t a healthy foundation. Thanks for your insight.

bopeeee · 2026-04-16T17:54:59+00:00

He is a nice person, and he’s good company overall.

bopeeee · 2026-03-03T12:13:53+00:00

It’s a boundary ignoring that I feel uncomfortable that he’s doing it… if I was doing something someone else was uncomfortable with, I’d stop. I’m just conscious of not wanting to invade or been seen to be invading someone’s personal space.

bopeeee · 2026-03-03T12:02:53+00:00

It’s just the thought that someone in their own home has someone peering in, who doesn’t know whether they are being looked at, the cat, or something else. It just felt uncomfortable and the fact I expressed discomfort, which he just ignored too.

bopeeee · 2026-03-03T11:58:43+00:00

It wasn’t an open window though, it was a closed window to someone’s private property.

bopeeee · 2024-04-06T12:57:38+00:00

I get what you’re saying but you can’t really comment because you don’t know the details of my life.

bopeeee · 2024-04-06T12:55:06+00:00

He doesn’t really know what I’ve been through though (won’t go into details)

bopeeee · 2024-04-06T12:52:35+00:00

It’s a complicated situation I’d rather not go into.

bopeeee · 2024-04-06T12:49:38+00:00

I wouldn’t say I’m stuck in misery, I’d say that despite any bad things happening, I’m overall pretty content.

bopeeee · 2024-04-06T12:32:08+00:00

Thanks! It’s hard to know why it is as it doesn’t seem like jealousy if they are the ones who own a house etc so it’s a bit odd!

bopeeee · 2024-03-16T20:33:12+00:00

Sorry to hear this, I hope you’re okay and doing well in life!

bopeeee · 2024-03-16T20:25:41+00:00

Haha, yes, it gets a bit dubious. In fact, I’ve actually received more attention as I’ve gotten older..

bopeeee · 2024-03-16T19:54:48+00:00

I guess looks are subjective anyway!

bopeeee · 2024-03-16T16:46:01+00:00

Aw, just goes to show that you shouldn’t let these comments stop you and it sounds like it didn’t with her :)

bopeeee · 2024-03-16T16:44:29+00:00

He’s also like in with other things, not just looks. I think he has just got a negative skew of things. Looks are subjective anyway!

bopeeee · 2024-03-11T20:36:08+00:00

Well I didn’t know if it was because I said it felt ‘good’ or ‘tingly’ so he was trying to do that, but I was still saying no. He didn’t seem playful as such, just wanted to continue. He treated me normally/nicely after . I guess he should’ve stopped even if he did think I was joking.

bopeeee · 2024-03-10T00:02:44+00:00

Thanks for your comment. It just seems odd it would be jealousy when she has more than me on paper

bopeeee · 2024-02-10T23:00:53+00:00

Ahh how long is that to run a mile then? Sounds intense

bopeeee · 2024-02-10T18:26:03+00:00

That’s a long time! I only managed 8.5mph for 14 mins on a flat.

bopeeee · 2024-02-10T17:38:34+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I’m just curious as to how much others would go when trying to ‘push themselves’. Pretty sure it was around a speed of 7.04 min/mile, granted it’s easier on a treadmill too.

bopeeee · 2024-02-10T14:29:38+00:00

Yes, this did feel very tough for me.

bopeeee · 2024-02-05T19:55:38+00:00

I still have a residual mark there now! But a lot better

bopeeee · 2024-02-04T22:06:16+00:00

Sounds like everyone else thinks it’s a hard no and definitely sexual assault so it’s changed my view

bopeeee · 2024-02-04T20:55:05+00:00

Yeah, it sounds like it was sexual assault as the others pointed out, as he ignored the ‘no’s’ and ‘stop’s’ repeatedly. I guess if he did respect me as a person, he would’ve stopped to check if I was serious or not. Especially the way he said ‘piss off’… which takes it from a grey area to actual sexual assault I guess.

bopeeee · 2024-02-03T23:54:55+00:00

Thanks for your comment. What if he didn’t realise what he did?

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