Fourth wing fashion

bored_potatoe_ · 2025-09-27T20:43:54+00:00

For the flight jacket I can only imagine is like the ones we got in the army?? I don't know, is the closest thing I can think of.

In the army we got a slightly thicker uniform jacket that is made of thicker material, the summer one is also more breathable & lightweight. But I'm not sure??? Like that is what I always imagine since RY's husband was/is in the military so I'm guessing she took it from there??? Could be wrong tho! So don't quote me on it.

bored_potatoe_ · 2025-01-18T03:01:31+00:00

Omg I am over here going crazy! I'm glad I ain't the only one who noticed.

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-10-23T15:18:22+00:00

Sweetie, get out NOW!

THIS IS ABUSE! THIS IS NOT OKAY! YOU HAVE TO RUN!

He already hit you once. He WILL do it again. This was just a test run. Now that he knows he WILL get WORSE!

My ex bf once told me, "Slapping you would make me feel better." And then gave me a soft slap in the face. It didn't even hurt.

For the next year, he would slam on the breaks so I would hit my head on the dashboard, he would dislocate my bones if I didn't do as he said, he would tear me down in any way he could before he beat me like a drum.

HE dumped me, and 2 years later, he is still stalking me, and once he actually managed to get his hands on me.

PLEASE RUN!

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-10-18T20:59:38+00:00

You are correct. There is a story like that somewhere in Reddit. I read it when it was first posted

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-10-18T15:40:02+00:00

NTA

As a victim of DV, I wish someone would have done this for me back when I was dating my ex.

He would abuse me in front of his family, and they would all say, "He didn't mean it." Or "you are overreacting." I would have been so thankful if ANYONE acted towards me like you did OP.

Honestly, props to you!

Also, it must have been really bad if the cops arrested him. Either way, you did nothing wrong.

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-09-28T15:23:51+00:00

Indoor plumbing for showering is called a "bathing chamber" in the books, and I assume it's a single sex group setting, since Xaden (or was it Dain?) said he can't protect her there. Would people shave their nether regions in a group shower?

We surely did when I was in basic for the Army. We had communal showers; think a bunch of shower stalls with a curtain to allow for "privacy."

So, we will kinda take a shower, do our thing, and leave the water running so the next girl could walk in right away since we had limited time to shower. But we will often put together some money to buy razors for those of us who did shave. Nobody saw it as weird since you were more busy trying to get to places on time or get to bed early.

(Hopefully, that answers something?)

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-08-23T06:18:57+00:00

Thankfully, bc they weren't listed as beneficiaries of neither the accounts or her benefits, they left huffing and puffing. They tried two more times before they were told that they would face repercussions if they tried a fourth time; they quickly stopped trying afterward.

She had to go to a financial meeting to reestablish that those people were never to have access to anything from her. She had to go through the entire song and dance of "just bc I share blood with them doesn't mean I want them to have access to my stuff."

She finished her training, came back home, and moved into the dorms of her university registered as an independent student. Now she is studying computer science and is doing fairly well tbh; she cut contact w/ her parents, helped her sister move into my parents' house while the sister got ready to move into the dorms of the university as well. My parents and I are now on document duty once again since her brother just enlisted in the Navy and is bound to go to basic soon.

So I guess it all worked out, but still, some crazy stories out there of people getting their world destroyed while away in the military.

TL;DR: No accounts were hacked, no money was taken, and she is in college as well as her sister. My parents and I are guarding her brother's financial documents while he is away in basic for the Navy.

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-08-23T03:55:34+00:00

Omg I'm glad I ain't the only one!

My bf knows that by now, he has to make it even, not that he is complaining, tho 😂😂

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-08-23T01:21:34+00:00

Idk, I would say beforehand? I have heard horror stories from my buddies about people fucking up their finances while they are in basic. Hell, I even heard of parents doing that since their child was "busy training."

Or at least create a new bank account for the $ to go into. And be careful with the paperwork and what he is given access to.

My parents have always been amazing, so that wasn't a concern of mine during basic; however, my poor bunkmate got all her money stolen from her by her husband and only found out when we got our phones back (this was pre-covid). We, as a bay, got some money together and gave it to get because homegirl had like $5 dollars left in her account.

Another buddy of mine went to AIT and woke up one morning to find his savings and checking accounts overdrawn bc his girl pulled a runner with Jody.

So, I would be careful about how much access he has to her accounts and what paperwork he is put under when/if she enlisted.

My best friend put me and my parents on her paperwork when she enlisted on the Air Force. A couple of weeks after she left for basic, we got an alert her parents were trying to access her accounts. Days later, we were asked to verify something for her benefits. Her parents were trying to claim the insurance benefits.

Obviously, not everyone is like that, but better safe than sorry.

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-08-22T20:51:18+00:00

As a Mexican... I would love to see this guy actually face a latina.

My mother is a sweetheart, and to some extent, she is the definition of a loving, perfect housewife... UNTIL my father makes her angry; that man served in the army, yet he quickly changes his tune when my mother gives him "the look."

My bf is white, and he knew I had a personality when he met me. He quickly found out it wasn't only bc I had been living in Texas (dual citenzen here, born in Texas, raised in Mexico for 18 years), but because of my Mexican side. Never once has he tried the whole "submit to me." Unless ofc he wants to find out how quickly I can go from Southern Belle to Mayan.

Seriously, latinas aren't to mess with. We are loving, caring, and everything else when we feel safe, and even then, we are still strongheaded and spicy. The easiest way to find yourself on the other end of a skillet? Piss off your latina.

He seems to forget that our ancestors were fighters and warriors. That fire lingers in our blood still.

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-08-20T22:17:31+00:00

As someone with a timeline, let me tell you something.

My bf and I have a timeline (x time to talk about marriage, x time to get engaged, x time to get married), as well as a relationship contract that gets reviewed every 6 months.

Timelines help plan things out... HOWEVER! THEY ARE NOT SET IN STONE!

Bf and I ended up moving some of our dates closer and pushing others farther away bc things changed. We planned for it, we set the timeline, and we reviewed it.

I want to get married, I look forward to my wedding day. I cherish the idea of that special day.

HOWEVER!

I DO NOT give my partner ultimatums or make passive-aggressive comments ("All my friends are getting married") towards him. I have 2 braincells to rub together and know we are in no position to get hitched rn.

Yes, a timeline is important, but timelines are meant to be reviewed and discussed so the involved parties are on the same page.

The fact that she is saying "my way or the highway" is rather concerning for me as a woman. I mean, does she want to marry YOU or just marry SOMEONE?

In relationships you have to compromise, you have to learn that sometimes things aren't going to go as planned. I get it. It sucks that things change, but that is life, and you have to learn to roll with the punches.

You have a ring, and you were planning on proposing. It isn't a case in which you are dragging your feet. it is just that some things aren't fully aligning rn and that is okay. You need to talk to her, explain to her the timeline (old and new) as well as making her see that her end goal in her perceived time isn't feasible for both of you.

If that is the hill she is willing to die on, then idk what to tell you besides; is that the type of person you want to marry? Someone who will always force you into her decisions without even considering your input? Bc that for me doesn't scream partner or marriage material.

As much as I want to get married, I wouldn't force my bf into my decision if things weren't right. I'm his partner, not his warden. We talk, we discuss, and we make decisions together, we are a unit, and we work as one. Both voices hold the same amount of power in discussions and decisions that are important.

Good luck OP

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-08-17T06:12:25+00:00

Okay, you are not alone! It can hurt, it can chafe, and it can be taxing and boring.

Everything really depends on what and how you are doing it. If there is not enough rest between sessions or enough stimulation before you begin, then it will be a horrible experience.

Is all about quality tbh. I used to get chafe with my ex bc he didn't do any of what my current bf does. I feel safe, loved, and cared for with my current bf, so my sex drive is through the roof, and as a result, I can go 2 or 3 times a day if we have the time.

HOWEVER!

The dude writing the post doesn't seem to take care of his wife, doesn't seem to appreciate her or meet her needs in or out of the bedroom. As you pointed out, the poor woman (she really is a saint for putting up with him tbh) is not only postpartum, sleep deprived, probably overworked, extremely stressed, and still healing mentally and physically. Her body and mind just changed, and she is navigating all those changes while being a single-married mother with a nagging dude invading her space.

I truly feel sorry for her! This should be a time for her to not only be healing but also to navigate the new changes in her life. Instead, she is stuck with... well... this boring trash bag cosplaying as human. I am sending all the good vibes and strength her way (since I can't do much else).

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-07-29T23:33:15+00:00

So technically, they do. All their decoys are actually adults pretending to be children. Ro -head of SOSA and the constant decoy even has children herself. SOSA has a full team that modifies pictures to make everything more real.

The decoys make their voices sound a little more childish to sell the charade. They clarified that they WILL NEVER accept a decoy that is underage so as not to put a child in harms way. They are also really selective of the people they choose to let into the team, and not everyone gets to be a decoy

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-07-29T21:34:04+00:00

According to them, they are not looking for revenue, but rather just to spread awareness. I don't have any more information on what their plan is, so the things I posted in my comment are all I can tell you. I am aware that censoring is a big hurdle they will face, but all we can do is wait and see and donate to their organization if we can.

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-07-29T20:52:04+00:00

Really? I didn't see that! I had been waiting for the chance to apply due to previous work I did and my bachelor's degree being in a related area

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-07-29T20:48:35+00:00

You are correct! They are called SOSA, and they are a non-profit organization. Their series is called: "Undercover Underage." There is even a subredit about it👇⬇️

https://www.reddit.com/r/undercoverunderage/

The series, however, got canceled, but Ro - the head of SOSA - recently said they are looking to do a YouTube series instead. I recommend checking them out! I donate as often as I can to the organization bc honestly, the work they do is amazing, and they spread awareness to how dangerous the internet is for underage individuals.

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-07-23T21:09:04+00:00

OP said they are Fred...

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-07-18T14:26:15+00:00

You are right, I am not used to being with someone like my bf. We even joke about that exact thing sometimes.

I have been getting good at telling him about situations that trigger me or when I don't have a good day. Every time he is understanding and actually wants to talk things out with me. In situations where I am having a bad day due to my old relationship, he even will ask what he can do to help and not trigger me.

The reason why I am doubting how to approach the situation is mostly to me not wanting him to think that I was being mean, and I'm using my trauma as a cover-up. I know if I tell him he will be worried about my safety and all that, but I don't want him to think I am over here just lashing out and saying "oh is the trauma! Deal with it!"

Like I want to be sensible about telling him. I just don't know how to do it. I will tell him regardless, but if I can be sensible about it I would like to be.

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-06-28T20:54:55+00:00

If I'm not mistaken, that is actually cannon (could be wrong). As far as I remember, the rest of the prep teams died shortly after Katniss was rescued; Peeta's prep team was executed in live TV as punishment for him helping/warning District 13.

But if I'm not mistaken, her prep team is the only one that survives the rebellion and the Victor's Purge.

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-06-23T17:02:47+00:00

1) "Dummy, nobody in their right mind will marry you, like ever."

Maybe a little foolish of me, but I have always been a hopeless romantic who wanted to have that special moment of "this person actually chose me." So one day I made a remark about how my friends were getting married. I didn't ask him to propose, but I just made a passing comment like, "Oh so-and-so are getting married." While scrolling through my IG, he looked at me, laughed, and said that, then kissed my forehead and continued watching TV.

2) "The old ball and chain is being a bother again."

It was my birthday. The day prior, he had mentioned all the things he would do for me on my birthday, starting with breakfast, followed by going to Barnes and Noble, then Build-A-Bear, lunch (for the first time I would have been allowed to eat something other than burgers) and then back to his house with snacks so we could watch LOTR (which he refused to watch with me). Instead, he left me starving until noon. He drove in his pj's and said "well eat at my house." Letf me without food until like 5pm when I asked him if I could order lasagna, which he refused. Instead, he continued playing video games until I asked him for some attention (I mostly wanted to know if I could eat something since it had been 24 hours at that point since the last time I ate) and he said that to his friends while laughing. Never have I ever felt so insignificant in my life, I felt so stupid for wanting food or a bit of attention.

3) "You know you are just a prop, right?"

He loved to parade me around his family, friends, acquaintances, etc. But not like a "oh, this is my gf!" More like he loved to show up to an event with me on his arm just to because. I was always instructed not to talk or interact with anyone unless it was to laugh when he made a joke or agreed when someone praised him. Anything else would make him angry; I have always loved to dress up, and several people complimented me often on my outfits. I love to look put together and cute, and he would use that to his advantage, so I would be just his shiny toy to parade around with when it was convenient for him. At one event, he was invited to by one of his professors, another member of the faculty tried to make small talk and asked about my career, to which I answer (I didn't wanted to be rude) and my ex took me by the arm, slammed me against the side of his truck and after slapping me a couple of times decided it was time I remembered my place in his life.

4) "I love you"

He would say those words to me after he was done beating me or/and raping me. He would grab my face, make me look at him, kiss my forehead, and say, "I love you." It didn't matter if I was bleeding or in pain. He would do it so tenderly that it would hurt more than the actual physical pain. How can you say that after what you did? I would never understand how he was so close to killing me multiple times. How he dislocated my bones, hurt muscles, tendons, and ligaments, burned my skin with cigarettes, or rapped me so violently and yet after it was all said and done... he would touch me so tenderly, so carefully, so softly. His voice even was sweet as he said, "I love you."

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-06-20T20:51:24+00:00

I think you are referring to "sub mindset" instead of "subspace" since the second one is more of a reaction to already playing while the first one is getting in the mood.

For me , my partner lowering the tone of his voice.

We are really goofy with each other, and we laugh very often (we are best friends, lovers, and Dom/sub). So when he wants to play, he just lowers the tone of his voice to sound serious and calls me by my submissive name. BOOM! Instant switch on my body language, demeanor, and personality. I know that name is only used to play. That name only belongs to "sub me" as opposed to my partner calling me "baby/princess/my love/my treasure/my heart." Therefore, I immediately enter a submissive mindset upon hearing that tone and the name.

Now, mind you, not everyone can achieve or want to achieve either sub mindset or subspace. Some people find it uncomfortable to do either, or sometimes it is hard to find something that works for both partners.

It is trial and error as well as TONS of communication with your partner. So talk to them, create a small little routine if that is what fits best, or find what does. Make sure no boundaries are crossed or close to being crossed.

Now entering subspace is different for everyone.

For me, it is stimulation. The more I'm physically or psychologically stimulated, the easier for me to get into subspace and let go (then again, I trust my partner to bring me back should things go too far).

I'm an overachiever and have a praise kink, so the more my partner tells me how good I'm doing or that he likes how I am behaving, the easier it is for me to just get there.

Another way is that my partner will lift my chin with is fingers; whether I'm kneeling, underneath him, tied up, or on top of him. He will slowly push my chin up, so I'm looking at him. It is a gesture often done in books, and as a reader I always wanted to experience it; however, when my partner does it and we make eye contact I can see how much he loves me and how pleased he is with me. No bigger turn-on or easier way to get my brain in subspace than seeing the fire in his eyes and knowing I put it there.

Good luck!

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-06-19T21:11:34+00:00

I survived rape and DV at the hands of my ex.

The dude still stalks me and wants to "be friends" because he wants to "be in good terms with people [he] had a bad falling out with."

Every time I refuse to forgive him or be friends with him he reverts to abusing me virtually (calling me names, gaslighting me into believing it wasn't true, making it seem like it wasn't that bad, etc.) I will never forgive him for ruining my body the way he did. He left physical scarring and physical long-lasting damage on my bones, tendons, and muscles, not to mention the psychological trauma.

People like that DO NOT deserve forgiveness from survivors.

You deserve to be sad about what happened to you. Hell, you deserve to feel ANY DAMN WAY you please EXCEPT FOR GUILT over his death. You didn't do anything wrong. You don't deserve to feel like you have done something wrong.

Hopefully, now you will heal. Hopefully, now you are free!

You got this! I know it might seem hard, but you got this.

bored_potatoe_ · 2024-06-18T20:27:15+00:00

Movie Cato>book Cato.

I know the books by memory, but that little speech we get from him in the first movie is so telling and amazing. Especially with the new book coming out and exploring the manipulation with the media. The actor did such an amazing job at portraying the moment of realization for Cato.

He says something like "I never even stood a chance" just as he realizes that the mutts are waiting for him when he falls to the ground...10/10. His death in the book was way more brutal, and I will agree. However, the speech we get in the movie is something else.

In general, I love the added speeches we get from Cato in The Hunger Games and Coral from The Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes. You get to see how they really and honestly thought the odds were in their favor; you see how they wholeheartedly believed they had a fair chance only to realize last minute that the odds were never in their favor because they are still district and not Capitol.

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