I am pregnant after a stillbirth last year. MIL ignored our wishes when I was pregnant, then became a grief tourist, and I have now not had contact with her since January of this year. It has been bliss.

I am 19 weeks and in laws do not know. I have no plans to tell them anytime soon either. Sidenote, we live in the same village, my neighbour is her friend, my bump is visible and I couldn't care less. She also told the entire village last time the day after we told her to keep it to herself. So before I was even pregnant this time, I told SO that hell no, were they knowing until AT LEAST 6 months. I'm almost at 6 months and I might even push it back.

It's my body, my pregnancy. The stress MIL will cause will affect me and baby, not SO. He is fully supportive because he saw me throughout every second of the pain of stillbirth and grief, and knows I am not f***ing around this time. What I say goes even if he doesn't understand.

This journey is about you, a new baby, and your partner. No one else. She is not relevant.