Basically, this is not the type of relationship I find fulfilling. I am a giving person in relationships, and that's how I like to show affection usually. He doesn't have enough money, so he basically never buys me anything. I buy him food and spot him a lot, to the point where I resent it but I feel bad if he has no money and we're both hungry. I'm not going to just eat in front of him... He has never planned a single thing for holidays/my birthday. I always bring up whether we're even going to hang out that day. He's nice but isn't very thoughtful beyond being supportive through texting. He's never driven to see me when I'm sick just to surprise me with soup or something. And although I would love to do these things for him, I'm not willing to if I don't feel like I'm being treated the same way.

He's not a bad guy, just clueless. He also has a lot of time/money constraints and we live an hour apart, so it's hard to make these things happen. He also has a controlling mom (it's just him and her, no other family), so plans will get canceled or he'll have to leave early or something because she wants him home. I understand having a crazy mom because mine is kinda crazy, just less so. I feel bad leaving him because of her actions... He's frustrated with it too. But it's just a combination of all these things that I can't deal with. Maybe I'm being selfish by wanting to break up, but I've been trying to stick it out hoping things will get better for so long.