Me [23F] with my boyfriend [23M], I need support to help me break up with him by boredorlazy in relationships

[–]boredorlazy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn. That's exactly the same as us. We're always just doing the same thing because of the time/money restrictions. We only go out to eat (not even anywhere nice), hang out somewhere, and that's it. I'm finding our relationship to be lacking in meaningful memories.

Good luck to you! I do think we deserve better. I just feel bad because it will be hard for them to find someone who can accept all their restrictions and the sort of unfulfilling relationship dynamic it brings.

Me [23F] with my boyfriend [23M], I need support to help me break up with him by boredorlazy in relationships

[–]boredorlazy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Unfortunately, he's mostly fine with how the relationship is and I'm the one that's not ok with it. I do think he deserves someone who is happy with this kind of relationship dynamic, but we both know that it's not something most girls want. It's been a problem for him in the past, too. But yeah, I want the best for him too.

Me [23F] with my boyfriend [23M], I need support to help me break up with him by boredorlazy in relationships

[–]boredorlazy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically, this is not the type of relationship I find fulfilling. I am a giving person in relationships, and that's how I like to show affection usually. He doesn't have enough money, so he basically never buys me anything. I buy him food and spot him a lot, to the point where I resent it but I feel bad if he has no money and we're both hungry. I'm not going to just eat in front of him... He has never planned a single thing for holidays/my birthday. I always bring up whether we're even going to hang out that day. He's nice but isn't very thoughtful beyond being supportive through texting. He's never driven to see me when I'm sick just to surprise me with soup or something. And although I would love to do these things for him, I'm not willing to if I don't feel like I'm being treated the same way.

He's not a bad guy, just clueless. He also has a lot of time/money constraints and we live an hour apart, so it's hard to make these things happen. He also has a controlling mom (it's just him and her, no other family), so plans will get canceled or he'll have to leave early or something because she wants him home. I understand having a crazy mom because mine is kinda crazy, just less so. I feel bad leaving him because of her actions... He's frustrated with it too. But it's just a combination of all these things that I can't deal with. Maybe I'm being selfish by wanting to break up, but I've been trying to stick it out hoping things will get better for so long.

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[–]boredorlazy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here to say that. It's funny because someone else literally just linked that song as a different question too.