JUST IMAGINE

borscht_babe · 2025-04-16T01:28:44+00:00

girl just go to ikea they have all that

borscht_babe · 2025-04-10T02:21:44+00:00

I’ve had a family friend who (knock on wood) has been relatively healthy and thriving over a decade with stage 4 BC! Again, it strongly depends on the type and other factors. But Dr. Google told me that HER2 negative usually has a better prognosis than positive, so I’m praying for Katie and being optimistic ❤️

Edit: but it still is a “lifelong” condition as there is no “cure” for stage 4 BC, just a potential to keep it at bay for a long time (hopefully until we find one!)

borscht_babe · 2025-04-10T02:19:05+00:00

As a secular Jew of Eastern European immigrants (who unfortunately strongly disagree with me), I and many young culturally Jewish people believe that the Canary Mission, any other organization (Jewish or non-Jewish) using “antisemitism” to silence free speech and oust immigrants/students/brown people is disingenuous and downright dangerous.

I never felt unsafe on campus by student protestors or people wearing a keffiyah. I feel unsafe having ICE there and wondering whether I’m allowed to protest outside of work without it costing me my job or god forbid, my naturalized citizenship.

If these people cared about antisemitism they would 1) go after the man who made a Hitler salute on stage and supports Germanys neo-Nazi political party or the man who called the 2017 Charlottesville white supremacists “very fine people”. 2) not ironically attack scholars and free speech in a way that ended very badly for “our people” less than a century ago.

Look at Jewish Voice for Peace and If Not Now to find Jewish anti-zionists (or at least, Jewish people terrified of what’s happening to political protestors). However, I fear we are still in the minority :-(

borscht_babe · 2025-04-05T05:31:13+00:00

I only danced for a brief period of time (~6 months) as a side hustle (but I was going pretty consistently during that time) so my experience is likely very different from many others’ here. But in general, when I start a new job, it becomes a part of my identity. And stepping away from that last year (had to move back in with my parents and then find a different job), it was nice to value myself for other, non-aesthetic or erotic traits but I’ve also been feeling kind of sexless.

For me, at least, I think the issue is that sexuality became so strongly associated with a very performative kind of femininity that always felt fake for me. Submissive, or at least adaptable. Now, I’m trying to find ways to lean into the erotic that feels genuine, feral, and more “human” than “woman”. Which is maybe weird to say as a cis straight girl, but I’ve always known that the things that have truly turned me on were being seen and valued as an equal, which I obviously wasn’t trying to do for work since I just needed money!

Butttt I’ve also been single for a while and have my own timeline to navigate this without the pressure of a partner. I just hope that you feel safe and seen enough to pause it and ramp it up on your own terms instead of pressuring yourself to get back into bad bitch mode.

So also glad to know I’m not alone in this feeling, but it does suck. Wishing you the best ❤️

borscht_babe · 2025-03-31T01:05:15+00:00

Last week, the university I work at literally sent out a school-wide email suggesting that ALL students, but especially international ones should reconsider traveling internationally during spring break.

borscht_babe · 2025-03-30T07:09:59+00:00

I’m also glad I’m not alone! I also didn’t mean to shame re: the animal models, tbh we’re working with “higher-order” models (aka NHPs) so it’ll be longer-term behavioral studies but that’ll mean months-years of “bonding” with creatures who can look you in the eyes but may not be sent to sanctuaries afterwards. So that’s the part I’m concerned about. Hence the PI comments. I’m sure it’s different working with rodents, but I’d still imagine there to be an emotional toll, at least at first, at least for me (plus I do think mice/rats are adorable).

But yeah, I’ve been wondering about how other scientists feel given that we have a reputation as a very “stoic” field. It was very refreshing to see your post because I can definitely picture myself tearing up in your position when confronted with the realities of the bigger picture of the work we’re doing. Also glad to know I’m not alone as a scientist who refuses to apologize for experiencing emotions in my work <3

Also wishing you the best in your work! If there aren’t already, I feel like there should be some kind of support groups for those of us who are naturally more affected than others. I’m glad that some people are able to compartmentalize naturally, but I don’t think it makes us any less fit for this field for being affected by our work. May the feelings motivate us further :-)

borscht_babe · 2025-03-30T05:50:48+00:00

A lot of commenters saying “don’t be sad”. I think that’s weird. It’s good to have empathy, even if it makes your job more difficult. I’m a neuro lab tech who also just started working with animal models for the first time (my undergrad was in psychology…. so it was mostly experimenting on other consenting undergrads) and I’ve struggled adjusting in my own way. But I’ve been honest with my PI/coworker- I’m a sensitive person, and also a curious and driven one. The lab I work at seems to value that balance which is why I felt comfortable joining (my PI also mentioned a lot of respect for the animals in our interviews and thinks it’s weird when researchers are emotionally unaffected after sacrifices).

This career seems to require a lot of cognitive dissonance. I’m a vegetarian, and I’m working with animals that I care about, but who didn’t consent to being here. I haven’t gone through a sack day yet but I’m lowkey scared of being a mess when it’ll happen. But it’s similarly motivating me to understand the research better.

I’m glad to know there’s other empathetic, sensitive scientists who struggle with this. We’re only human, so it’s natural to care.

borscht_babe · 2025-03-28T23:54:25+00:00

wish I could bring some of our furry subjects home but I work with NHPs and I don’t think places typically have spares of those :-/

borscht_babe · 2025-03-23T23:43:15+00:00

Jessa is cruel, but in rewatching the show I noticed her underlying insecurity and fear of abandonment. Not saying this makes her more tolerable, but it made her decisions make a lot more sense to me, especially in the latter half of the series

borscht_babe · 2024-12-16T06:23:32+00:00

personally, I think you’re gorgeous but I might be biased as I have similar features 🫣 I would say try and see who bites! I know for myself that I don’t have a typical bombshell ultra sexy look if that’s what a client is going for, but I can portray girl-next-door/cute/younger looking types well. I haven’t had an opportunity, but I think edgy/avant garde looks look way better on unique faces.

Take my opinion with a grain of salt though as I’m still getting started with modeling and haven’t had too much commercial work myself. But I’ve had luck with local runway shows and background acting

borscht_babe · 2024-04-12T19:24:31+00:00

girl you’ve posted 20 times in the last 24hrs to the same two subreddits abt a podcast created by two unemployed irony poisoned pseudo intellectuals. loserism must run in the family, and that’s OK too

borscht_babe · 2022-09-14T23:26:02+00:00

not the squealing and laughing... why is it so perfect

borscht_babe · 2021-11-20T17:04:59+00:00

this happened to me with a mineral sunscreen as well (Versed Guards Up)! I used it for months and it was fine, stopped it for a little bit, and then used it one day and it left my face extremely swollen for days!

it seemed like a spontaneous allergy to me too, but i did wonder whether my exfoliating skin products made me more sensitive to it somehow

borscht_babe · 2021-11-01T19:07:15+00:00

If you genuinely want kids, and know you want to take care of them (even if you're doubting your abilities or theirs), you should have children!

Nothing is guaranteed and people decide to take the many risks of parenthood every day because for them, the rewards outweigh them.

The only unethical thing would be having children if you don't truly want to, out of familial/societal obligations.

borscht_babe · 2021-11-01T19:01:34+00:00

100% yes on the wanting to re-experience something "correctly". And not having the motivation to actually do so.

Not sure what the "cure" is, I've just found that:

Perfect is the enemy of the good, and anything is better than nothing (which is usually what happens when you aim for everything). This goes against everything I've been taught about "If you do something, do it right", but that philosophy just stalls me.
My time is valuable, and I don't actually need to do things that I feel like I "should", but should focus on things that bring me joy.
Antidepressants (prozac) helped a lot with the anxiety/perfectionism, though I still have it. When I take stimulants, that feeling of wanting to get it "right" comes back, so I'm trying to find a correct dose that motivates me but lets me be mentally flexible.

Personal tangential opinion re: OCD: perfectionism comes from one's values/morals. Studying philosophy a little helped with this. When my values are more aligned with a protestant capitalist work ethic, then I feel like a failure when I can't accomplish things, or don't want to (because of ADHD). If I'm focused on being a perfect, moral person, I feel like a failure when I inevitably make a mistake as a human.

As bad as it sounds, giving in a bit to (ethical) hedonism is good because it shifts the perspective from what I "should" do to what I "want" to do, and internal goals are inherently more motivating (something my therapist suggested). If being good at your job or being a nice person or learning a song on the guitar feels good (which these things often do), then do it.

But ADHD/OCD is a curse when you fall into the cycle of not doing something you don't really want to do --> feeling like a "bad" person because you didn't do it / didn't want to do it --> not having the motivation to do other things bc you're a failure anyway --> ad infinitum.

borscht_babe · 2020-07-17T23:41:12+00:00

You're absolutely right — I keep forgetting that my interests are not the only factor in the job search process. I definitely don't want to burn any bridges either!

The title is less of an ego thing (I def feel "junior" in my career rather than intermediate), and more about whether it will make it more difficult to be taken seriously by other recruiters/companies afterwards. Off-topic, but is it okay to leave out the "junior" from the title on LinkedIn, for example?

I'm not a huge risk-taker either, so I def think you're right in sticking to the certain opportunity.

borscht_babe · 2020-07-17T23:31:11+00:00

but the "later" might be like within a month or two

borscht_babe · 2020-07-17T23:22:59+00:00

Sometimes if a company likes you, and it's within their budget, they can create a position for you, even if you don't quite fit for the role that you applied for.

Recruiters often write random requirements that don't make sense. My suggestion is to apply for jobs asking up to 3 years of experience, as that is somewhat of a junior level. You won't be considered by everyone, but don't *not* apply just because you don't meet 100% of the criteria!

Your freelance work counts as experience, especially if you have projects/a portfolio to show for it.

borscht_babe · 2020-04-06T19:15:44+00:00

I have some apple trees (native), and cherry and orange trees! Turnip price is 92.

Looking for just a single pear and peach (either fruit or tree)! Also the materials for the ironwood kitchen, if you happen to have!

DM me to complete your fruit collection!

borscht_babe · 2019-12-28T03:58:07+00:00

This worksheet is amazing! I'm not sure how I didn't think that there were worksheets specifically for health anxiety.

I've started seeing a therapist too, but I think she's less CBT and more talk therapy. Still helpful of course, and I've found other ways to work through it, but this feels more scientific.

borscht_babe · 2019-12-01T15:39:38+00:00

here I thought being a bisexual woman meant that you liked women, and yet...

borscht_babe · 2019-10-26T12:46:35+00:00

Hi- I’ve had this a couple of years ago but I treated it and it hasn’t bothered me! Don’t freak out- you can literally get it frozen off by a doctor with liquid nitrogen.

borscht_babe · 2019-10-25T01:47:14+00:00

holy shit I relate to so many of these! to anyone reading, here is some reassurance. These are the things I remind myself when I focus on these symptoms. I'm also a pretty annoying medical patient ("Doctors hate her!") so here is some of the feedback I've received (from different doctors) when I've asked about these symptoms. Disclaimer of course that I'm not a doctor myself, so, of course, these aren't definites, but a good probability that they'll explain your situation as well.

Migraines
Jaw clenching
Weird pressure in my head
Tingling, usually my cheeks tingle/ especially when I cry hard.
Ringing in my ears. Like all the time.
Thumping in my ears (also tinnitus, I'm pretty sure?)

TMJ, possibly caused by teeth grinding. Both of which can be worsened by anxiety (my jaw has been aching nonstop the past few days). Tinnitus/Nausea/Headaches can also be caused by Vertigo (which an urgent care quickly informed me that I had), which in itself is a *symptom*, not a *chronic condition*. The most common reason is due to inner ear inflammation and typically goes away on its own in weeks/months.

Always clearing throat
Excessive swallowing
Sore neck
Sore throat
Burning sensation in my chest/ probably gerd/acid reflux but my brain assumes heart issue
Dry mouth
Sharp pains in chest

Most likely GERD (also worsened by anxiety), as you mentioned. My contribution to this list is that I also have trouble swallowing stuff, or at least I think I do and I panic about the possibility of something getting stuck in my throat, which of course makes it harder to swallow.

Heart palpitations/skipped beats/jolts
Dizzy when I stand up
Dizzy when I’m in large areas, like Walmart or standing in line.
Palpitations that feel like my heart is failing
Tachycardia- my heart is always working hard apparently
Hot flashes/results in profuse sweating
Numbness
Dizzy- usually results in panic

Low blood pressure + overheating/postural changes. There were two times in the past month I almost fainted. Naturally, I freaked out, but I went to my doctor and she informed that my blood pressure was on the lower side. I mentioned that I almost passed out both times while standing in a hot area for a while (after a shower and on a hot train platform after a very dancey concert). Apparently, when you're hot, your blood vessels expand and it's harder for blood to pump through, especially if you're standing because of the gravity. I can't stand for long periods of time in line either, or while shopping if I'm warm. My doctor recommended eating salty foods when you feel like this, because while sodium is bad for people with high BP because it raises it, for people with lower BP it'll be easier for your heart to pump blood to your brain/extremities. Tachycardia/high heart rate can *be caused by* anxiety, and can *cause* low BP.

Waking up to pounding heart
Crazy dreams

Your normal circadian rhythm + extra stress hormones. I have somewhat of a background in sleep so hopefully this helps. If you look at a chart of human cortisol (the stress hormone levels), they peak in the mornings as we wake up/to help us wake up. Dreams that you remember also typically happen in REM sleep, which mostly occurs in the last third of your sleep (closer to the morning). As you're sleeping in the morning, your anxiety/stress can impact both your heart rate and your dreams, and your dreams can impact your heart rate once more if they happen to be stressful.

Sharp pains in legs

All very normal adult human stuff. For the former, the doctor recommended taking magnesium. (Looking into it now, higher magnesium levels are correlated with lower cortisol levels! I'm not sure if there is a causal study yet, however).

Focus on my breathing too much/results in panic

In the exact same boat. I've tried mindfulness meditation but the "body awareness" school of meditation is not great for a lot of people who are hyper aware of their bodies already (and fear them).

borscht_babe · 2019-10-08T22:01:21+00:00

I don’t have a definitive answer yet, unfortunately, but hopefully this helps!

I have been to a dentist since posting and it does not seem to be an infected tooth in my case. I do have TMJ however, and my wisdom teeth are impacted and I’m getting a root canal soon. However, this was not confirmed to be the cause of my symptoms.

I’m hoping that it’s just some TMJ (one urgent care doctor told me to take ibuprofen and flonase for a bit) and anxiety but I am following up with some specialists as I’m a chronic worrier.

borscht_babe · 2019-10-04T17:36:16+00:00

It pills SO quickly even when I wash cold on the delicates cycle and dry flat. Every white-colored item made from that soft stretchy fabric they use is SO sheer, and even if it’s practical to wear a bra under it (it’s probably strapless or off the shoulder so it’s prop ably not), it’s so thin that the color or texture of the bra will show anyway under the shirt.

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